The dreaded Friend Zone lol

[Rose of Eden]

Friendzone Mythbusters!!!

Myth: There is no friendzone.
Truth: It exists! The only people who say it doesn't are the really, really attractive people who never get friendzoned. Most people have been friendzoned before at some point and know it exists.

Myth: If you got in the friendzone, it's because you didn't do something right. You weren't mean, confident, flirty, or bold enough. Next time, be more sexual and act more macho (if you're a man) or more sleazy (if you're a woman) and your crush won't put you in the friendzone!
Truth: Sometimes it's because you're too shy, insecure, or weak. But often it's simply because your crush just isn't that into you. You're not their type and they would have never been interested in you anyway. No "skills" or "game" on your part is going to change that. Accept it, get over it, and move on!

Myth: Once you're in the friendzone, you're stuck! You can never escape! He/she will never see you as dateable again!
Truth: True for some people, but not for everyone. Each person is different. Some people won't even develop feelings for someone if they haven't been their friend for a while first.

Myth: If your friend/crush friendzones you, you should do the right thing and stay friends with them. Keep hanging out with them, keep being there for them, and keep being a good friend to them.
Truth: There's no law that says you have to stay friends with someone who friendzones you! Even if you've been good friends for years! You owe it to yourself to distance yourself for a while and move on! It's perfectly healthy! Nothing wrong or sinful about it!

 

[Pomegranate]

So the friendzone is basically a lack of mutual attraction where one/both parties decide to remain friends even after one party has revealed their feelings for the other? That sounds like every day dating life, only with friendship attached instead of going your separate ways.

I am always confused when people make friendzoning into a big thing. Someone is either attracted to you and wants to date you, or they do not want to date you. You either stay friends, or you do not. I am not sure why it is such a big thing, why is it so important?

 

[jess9450]

Friendzone Mythbusters!!!

Myth: There is no friendzone.
Truth: It exists! The only people who say it doesn't are the really, really attractive people who never get friendzoned. Most people have been friendzoned before at some point and know it exists.

Myth: If you got in the friendzone, it's because you didn't do something right. You weren't mean, confident, flirty, or bold enough. Next time, be more sexual and act more macho (if you're a man) or more sleazy (if you're a woman) and your crush won't put you in the friendzone!
Truth: Sometimes it's because you're too shy, insecure, or weak. But often it's simply because your crush just isn't that into you. You're not their type and they would have never been interested in you anyway. No "skills" or "game" on your part is going to change that. Accept it, get over it, and move on!

Myth: Once you're in the friendzone, you're stuck! You can never escape! He/she will never see you as dateable again!
Truth: True for some people, but not for everyone. Each person is different. Some people won't even develop feelings for someone if they haven't been their friend for a while first.

Myth: If your friend/crush friendzones you, you should do the right thing and stay friends with them. Keep hanging out with them, keep being there for them, and keep being a good friend to them.
Truth: There's no law that says you have to stay friends with someone who friendzones you! Even if you've been good friends for years! You owe it to yourself to distance yourself for a while and move on! It's perfectly healthy! Nothing wrong or sinful about it!

This is often the case for me. I mean, sure I might be crushing on a guy immediately because of his appearance, but it usually takes me a while to develop any real feelings. We need to be friends first, which is often how amazing relationships/marriages start out.

 

[Strider1002]

This is often the case for me. I mean, sure I might be crushing on a guy immediately because of his appearance, but it usually takes me a while to develop any real feelings. We need to be friends first, which is often how amazing relationships/marriages start out.

Agreed. It's like... getting to know someone from the inside, out.

 

[wannaberocker]

Well since all of you insist on being serious about the topic. Here is my take on the friendzone.

1. How do I define the friendzone. Well I usually define it as where the male or the female crush on the friend. But, because of certain reason’s the crushed upon (male or female) doesn’t crush back on the friend. So you have a situation where one person wants the other person. But the other person looks at them as “Just a friend” and nothing romantic.

2. The most common reason for the friendzone is attraction. Like most have already pointed out “hey if a girl friendzones you. Its prob because she doesn’t find you attractive”. However, the girl still thinks you bring a whole lot of “something” to her life and she still wants to be your friend. I mean hey, you could actually be a good listener, a good person and a very nice guy.


3. There could be other reasons for being friendzoned. Iv found myself friendzoned most often because iv developed friendships with women who are either married or with someone. But, I guess in those cases I don’t mind being friendzoned because when you become friends with someone who’s in a relationship or married. You go in knowing first hand that “hey this person is take” and you not going in “oh maybe one day we will be a couple”. So yeah I guess I don’t mind being friendzoned in those situations.


4. Now of course we know not all women are the same. There can be those women who put you in the friendzone when they first meet you. Not because they don’t find you attractive. But rather because they wanna get to know you as a person before they contemplate dating you. In those cases you can be in sort of a Semi friendzone where the girl thinks your semi attractive. But, dosnt know you well enough to date you. In those cases, your personality and charm can actually shine through and in time you may start lookin a whole lot more attractive to the woman.


At the end of the day we put people in friendzone because we all want friends. People have a lot of good qualities that they have to offer in friendship. So really its no big deal being friendzoned, we all need friends.

 

[JohnyPoppacapolis]

FRIEND ZONE 'D! (And How To Escape) - YouTube

 

[anewday]

 

[wannaberocker]

FRIEND ZONE 'D! (And How To Escape) - YouTube

hahaa awesome.

 

[ambelle]

FRIEND ZONE 'D! (And How To Escape) - YouTube

hahaha! this was amazing.

 

[Strider1002]

I've been friend-zoned a few times, and I deserved it. Because I was being a... a word I probably can't say here.

 

[SnowyMacie]

Most guys get friendzoned because the women don't find them "boyfriend" material. Usually because they're fat, ugly, whatever. Or they're weird and socially awkward.

or 90% of the time, they're not man enough to ask them out.

 

[Sonfest Rocker]

I've been friendzoned it sucks I really like the guy

 

[MehGuy]

I'd friendzone a girl if I had the chance, I wouldn't even think twice about it.

 

[SnowyMacie]

I'd friendzone a girl if I had the chance, I wouldn't even think twice about it.

I think I've friendzoned a couple. One for sure, kinda feel bad about it, but on the other hand I think "well I just never felt attracted to them in that way."

 

[anewday]

or 90% of the time, they're not man enough to ask them out.

 

[darktipper]

I don't know about the friendzone.... I ain't got time for that lol. I think I friendzoned some women on accident or something...

 

[Paulie079]

I've been getting friendzoned since I joined this site. I keep getting requests from people wanting to be my friend...

 

[Jupiter Drops]

JD you know you wanna be in my Friendzone. I mean unlike other peoples lame friendzone, my friendzone is cool because its so not mainstream.

Because you mentioned it, I don't want to be in your friendzone because it's too mainstream. But it's okay. My mainstream-free friendzone is un-mainstream enough to make everything blazing perfect for hipsters like us.

 

[Crazy accountant]

The reality is if you keep getting friendzoned then you need to start chasing people less attractive. Friend zone is simply what happens when one less attractive person crushes on someone out of their league. The hard part is training yourself to find less disirable people attractive. I've been friend zoned many times often the girl is upfront bout it and that's fine the worst part is when you become her good pal trusted etc its like your good enough to care for her, listen to her issues etc but just too ugly to date her

 

[redblue22]

I've only seen the friendzone happen to one person. Let's call him Bob.

Bob hated my guts as much as any ex-girlfriend ever has for sharing my minor disagreement. Everyone knew Bob's feelings for the girl. Bob was so angry that she was with an evil guy. You see, he was "controlling her" and telling her not to spend time with Bob because she would make up little excuses and want to spend time with her new HUSBAND!

People usually love me or hate me. Using a coin is a popular method of deciding. Personally, I think the coin is loaded.

Regardless of how long you are "friends," my attitude is to get the heck away. Date all you want, whoever you want. And I don't just drop people. But, in the long run: I don't want that person messing up my next real relationship. And I don't want to mess up theirs. (if I ever have one again)