so we are both talking about the same please give me a thumb nail sketch of the your understanding of the doctrine of hell
There is only one understanding of the Doctrine of Hell, and that is the one that is derived from Scripture.
Contrasted with Hades (the New Testament equivalent of Sheol), the place of the dead (divided between the Just and the Unjust), Gehenna Hell is the Lake of Fire, created for Satan and his demons, where those not known of Christ will be cast in alive (but lacking the Life of Christ/Eternal Life) and will forever be in torment:
Matthew 25:41
Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels:
It should be kept in mind that Matthew 25 has a first application to the Return of Christ to establish the Millennial Kingdom, and that the Sheep and Goat judgment determine who lives physically to enter into that Kingdom. Those who are Goats, the unrighteous (unjust) not known of Christ will go into everlasting punishment:
Matthew 25:46
King James Version
46 And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal.
That their punishment at that time begins in Hades doesn't change the fact that their eternal separation from God is everlasting.
Only those that are born again will enter into the Millennial Kingdom (John 3:3-5).
Just as the Rich Man was in torment in Hades...
Luke 16:23-24
King James Version
23 And in hell he lift up his eyes, being in torments, and seeth Abraham afar off, and Lazarus in his bosom.
24 And he cried and said, Father Abraham, have mercy on me, and send Lazarus, that he may dip the tip of his finger in water, and cool my tongue; for I am tormented in this flame.
...even so those not known of God and that obey not the Gospel will go into everlasting torment, as will all who reject the Gospel of Jesus Christ:
Revelation 20:10
And the devil that deceived them was cast into the lake of fire and brimstone, where the beast and the false prophet are, and shall be tormented day and night for ever and ever.
Revelation 20:15
King James Version
15 And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.
And what does Christ teach as a means of escaping Everlasting Separation from God?
John 3:14-18
King James Version
14 And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, even so must the Son of man be lifted up:
15 That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life.
16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.
18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.
Were the Hebrew Scriptures enough to keep men from Hell?
Luke 16:27-31
King James Version
27 Then he said, I pray thee therefore, father, that thou wouldest send him to my father's house:
28 For I have five brethren; that he may testify unto them, lest they also come into this place of torment.
29 Abraham saith unto him, They have Moses and the prophets; let them hear them.
30 And he said, Nay, father Abraham: but if one went unto them from the dead, they will repent.
31 And he said unto him, If they hear not Moses and the prophets, neither will they be persuaded, though one rose from the dead.
As the Writer of Hebrews states, there are those who are ignorant of the First Principles of the Doctrine of Christ, and need to be taught again those First Principles (Hebrews 5:10-Hebrews 6:1):
Luke 24:25-27
King James Version
25 Then he said unto them, O fools, and slow of heart to believe all that the prophets have spoken:
26 Ought not Christ to have suffered these things, and to enter into his glory?
27 And beginning at Moses and all the prophets, he expounded unto them in all the scriptures the things concerning himself.
God has given the means, in every Age, to be saved from the separation we are all born into. He is not willing that men should perish, thus He is patient with men, giving them opportunity to come into obedience with His will.
That there will be those who will not receive remission of sins is evident also in Christ's teaching:
Mark 3:28-29
King James Version
28 Verily I say unto you, All sins shall be forgiven unto the sons of men, and blasphemies wherewith soever they shall blaspheme:
29 But he that shall blaspheme against the Holy Ghost hath never forgiveness, but is in danger of eternal damnation.
Exactly how many times is it necessary for Christ to teach Eternal Punishment, Eternal Damnation, and Eternal Separation—before this very clear teaching is acknowledged by men?
And what shall we say when His teaching is ascribed to Satan?
We say the same thing we always say:
Acts 16:29-31
King James Version
29 Then he called for a light, and sprang in, and came trembling, and fell down before Paul and Silas,
30 And brought them out, and said, Sirs, what must I do to be saved?
31 And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house.
So what happens to those who reject the teaching of Christ and the Apostles?
Matthew 7:23
And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.
Matthew 25:41
Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels:
No amount of creative thinking, rethinking, rationalization, or psycho-babble will change what Christ has taught.
To call His teaching satanic and "primal scream therapy" in an attempt to negate His warning...
Matthew 10:28
King James Version
28 And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.
...should be a warning to those who realize Christ's teaching cannot be negated.
Is fear a bad thing?
Acts 5:11
King James Version
11 And great fear came upon all the church, and upon as many as heard these things.
Not when that fear is a result of God's power.
God bless.