I didn't see the following reply until recently so I shall respond:
No, I don't think it's important! Just because I respond to a thread does not mean I think the issue in the thread is important. If I respond to an issue and say "This issue is a non issue", then that is what I believe. Don't take my words and use pseudo psychology to disclaim me when I say that what clothes people wear is a non issue.
A great deal of what the Bible has to say isn't revlevant to the 21st century, the documents making up that books where not written for a modern audience.
I am much more comfortable in trousers and rarely wear a dress or shirt. It bothers me not if the deity isn't in favour, but if it exists I doubt it cares.
A great deal of what the Bible has to say isn't revlevant to the 21st century, the documents making up that books where not written for a modern audience.
I am much more comfortable in trousers and rarely wear a dress or shirt. It bothers me not if the deity isn't in favour, but if it exists I doubt it cares.
As for BlackSabb's comment I found it extremely critical and unchristian-like. It seems to me that a true Christian would invite 'heathens' to come unto Christianity and participate in our discussions.
When a non Christian comes onto a Christian forum constantly bagging Christianity, I have every right to say "get lost and go somewhere else". There is nothing contructive about Dancing Sky's so called "participation" in these forums. It's just the usual "well, if God exists", " I don't believe in God", "I don't believe in the Bible".
Yes this is true from what I have heard and experienced. Many people lump crossdressers in with homosexuals however most crossdressers are heterosexual.
Sadly many men do keep it a secret from their wives because they are afraid it might end their marriages if their wives knew, and sadly it does sometimes when their wives find out. There is so much social rejection towards male crossdressers that admitting that you are one even to yourself can be extremely difficult.
I'm almost positive that I would lose my job if I actively crossdressed in public (even if not at work).
It took a long time for my wife to understand why I felt the way I do about it, but honestly I'm not sure I understand completely why I feel the way I do, that's part of the reason why I'm participating in online forums to help me understand myself better by talking to other who have similar issues. Anyway, my wife is very understanding about things now and we have both agreed that crossdressing in public isn't a good social/economic move for a married man with kids.
A woman must not wear mens clothing, nor a man wear womens clothing, for the LORD your God detests anyone who does this. - Deuteronomy 22:5
The Bible is very clear about this situation. One should question, why they want to wear the opposite genders clothing for a start?
As far as I know, pants were first worn by Tajiks, very similiar to the Salwar Kameez which included the long shirt. Even then, there is still a major difference between men and womens Salwar Kameez.
In the Biblical times, robes were worn. They would have been made from either wool or linen (Deuteronomy 22:11). They probably would have been similiar to the Arab dishdashas or thobes, which even then, you can definately tell the difference between men and women.
There is a clear difference between men and womens clothing and it should be kept that way.
I'm confused. Firstly, you stated that you wore women's underwear because you had testicular problems and that men's underwear was problematic. Now, you're admitting to crossdressing unrelated to any physical ailment.
Which is it?
Let the wind blow high, let the wind blow low,
Through the streets in my kilt I'll go.
And the lassies say "hello,
Donald where's your trousers?"
I contra dance throughout the New England area (mostly Massachusetts) and you'll see a lot of straight guys wearing the same long, flowy skirts as the women wear to the dances, especially in the summertime. It keeps their "equipment" cooler, and it supposedly more comfortable than wearing jeans, slacks or pants.
I see how that could be confusing, but I didn't intend this. It's not one or the other it's both. I just brought up the first point to demonstrate that there are 'practical' reasons for it since the person I was replying to said there is never a good reason for it. Yes I do have physical issues, but I also have psychological reasons for crossdressing [I thought I made this clear in earlier comments (I can't remember), but you might have missed that].
I admit that seemed a little contradictory, but that was not intended at all. I hope this clarifies it for you.
In fact sometimes I wonder how much my physical problem has affected my psychological state. I've had this issue for over 14 years. 14 years of nearly chronic pain in a such a personal place can do a lot to one's emotional well being. I've been to several doctors about the pain and so far they have told me to either take narcotics, just deal with it, or undergo risky surgeries that might end up causing me more pain... thousands of dollars for that advice doesn't make me too happy. I often ask myself how much the physical pain I experience has actually affected my dissatisfaction with being masculine. I guess it makes it harder for me to want to be a man when my manly parts cause me so much pain every day of my life, especially since I had issues with my masculinity before I had these physical challenges.
While I had tried on a few articles of women's clothing in the past out of curiosity (about 3 times) I tried very hard to avoid it because I was afraid of what people would think of me if they found out I wanted to wear women's clothing. Ever since I was little I wanted to wear girls/women's clothes, but I had never really crossdressed until after I got married and had kids.
BlackSabb, I agree with you that I have issues. I've been trying to work through them for a very long time. I've spoken to councilors, a psychiatrist, ecclesiastical leaders and doctors about them and for the most part the only thing I have found so far that helps is being completely honest with myself and my wife about the way I feel. I was very close to wanting to kill myself over this (it scares me to think how close I was). I was scared to death that my wife wouldn't want to be with me anymore if I told her how I felt and I hated hiding my feelings (I tried so hard not to feel how I do, but it didn't work) but when I actually discussed my feelings in complete honesty with my wife she showed me nothing but compassion, love, and understanding. That was the best day of my life.
Anyway, I just thought that discussing this topic with a community of Christians might help me further understand why I feel the way I do about things, and I thought my experience my help someone else as well.
Sorry about being a little argumentative earlier.
A woman must not wear men’s clothing, nor a man wear women’s clothing, for the LORD your God detests anyone who does this. - Deuteronomy 22:5
The Bible is very clear about this situation. One should question, why they want to wear the opposite genders clothing for a start?
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