I think I like your definition of feeling cross-dressed. If I'm understanding you right feeling cross-dressed is dressing any way other than how you feel conforms to your identity.
Honestly, I would feel more like myself if I wore mainly women's clothes, but I don't usually do so because of how I know people would react to me, or what they would think of me. My goal is to feel like and be who I am, but let's be honest how people treat you does have an effect on how you feel about yourself no matter how hard to try to not let it get to you. I don't want to wear women's clothes because I want to feel like or be a woman, but because I feel more like myself. So I must agree with you that the narrow definition of crossdressing proposed in the previous poster is inadequate.
I think we need to stop redefining crossdressing. Crossdressing is simply the practice of wearing clothes that stereotypically pertain the the opposite sex. It doesn't matter if you are a man and only wear women's socks, technically you are crossdressing, but why make a big deal of it? Is it because the word crossdressing has negative connotations for you? Get over it! Personally I think having everything separated into men's and women's things is ridiculous. Do we really need male specific deodorant, shampoo, or nail clippers, socks, pants, shirts etc? Who cares what you wear as long as it's decent!
Personally I think people are far too touchy about this subject, and I think we need to realize that making such a big deal about clothing is exactly the opposite to what Jesus Christ wanted us to do:
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thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment? 26Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they?
27Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature?
28And why take ye thought for raiment? a
Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin:
29And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.
If we shouldn't take much thought about what we wear, why should we take much though about what other people are wearing?