I can identify with stay-at-home moms more readily than I can full-time working moms, because I never worked full-time when my kids were little.
And yes, I know that motherhood can be hard work.
I did a lot of volunteering in the community, too, when I was a SAHM. And that was hard work.
But when I look at today's young moms who are back at work when their babies are only a few weeks old, I am IN AWE.
I cannot imagine how they do it--and some of them are doing it without husbands. Wow! My hats are off to them! I am astonished!
I worked hard......but when I look at them I realize I had no idea how easy I had it.
About the only thing I can say that makes a SAHM's job harder is that she often has a husband who does whatever it takes to allow her to stay home. In my husband's case, I have never known him to work less than 60 hours a week. Ever. He traveled a little...maybe two days a month...
Then there were the job changes due to the behind the scenes finagling of companies like Bain Capital...when he would move to another state 6 months before I did.
And so we had a less egalitarian relationship. He brought home the bacon--and everything else was "my job." That was the price I paid to be married to someone who brought home a lot of bacon (nowhere near Romney-style, of course--it wasn't laced with caviar). But even that wasn't that high a price...he didn't mow the lawn or fix things...but he paid other people to do it. And I did have household help here and there, and probably could have had it even more if I'd wanted it.