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Thanks for the advice everyone
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t's hard to believe I could be their dad in a matter of months.
lots of real good parenting books out there in the library, read a few. Call on the elders in your church when you run into a problem, by the way 12 years difference in age is a lifetime from the perspective of a child so that is not a problem. Show them how much you love them and how much you want the very best for them, that will get you past a lot of problems. Pray a lot God knows all about children.Hello everyone,
I'm new here and I was hoping to get as much advice as I can from anyone willing to help.
I'm 25 years old, and I fell in love with a woman where I work who is 30. We are currently dating and I can easily see myself marrying her in the future. I've been single since high school and don't have any kids. She had a pretty rough childhood which granted her the heightened maturity that I love so much about her, but also because of that has 2 daughters from a previous relationship (non-marital) 8 and 13 years old, so her oldest she had when she was 16. These things were somewhat devastating to me when I first found out but I know that if God can love and forgive her after all that, then so can I. And I did.
I've always wanted a family and thought I'd have plenty of time to learn how to be a great father, but the idea of suddenly jumping into that role to 2 children, one of which is only 12 years younger than I am seems like quite a daunting task. I love this woman deeply and would do anything for her. I'm not afraid of the responsibility, only that I might not be strong enough to raise them right, and do all the duties a good father should. I want to give them the unconditional love and commitment they deserve after a lifetime of not having it. I feel like they'll be destined to a life of misery and turmoil without a father figure in their lives. The only thing is that I have no idea how to be a parent to two teenage daughters.
Any parenting advice or resources for this kind of situation? I've always felt old for my age but in other ways I still feel like a kid. It's hard to believe I could be their dad in a matter of months. But I truly believe it's my responsibility to be an unbreakable foundation in their lives.
lots of real good parenting books out there in the library, read a few. Call on the elders in your church when you run into a problem, by the way 12 years difference in age is a lifetime from the perspective of a child so that is not a problem. Show them how much you love them and how much you want the very best for them, that will get you past a lot of problems. Pray a lot God knows all about children.
I'm 25 years old, and I fell in love with a woman where I work who is 30. We are currently dating and I can easily see myself marrying her in the future. I've been single since high school and don't have any kids. She had a pretty rough childhood which granted her the heightened maturity that I love so much about her, but also because of that has 2 daughters from a previous relationship (non-marital) 8 and 13 years old, so her oldest she had when she was 16. These things were somewhat devastating to me when I first found out but I know that if God can love and forgive her after all that, then so can I. And I did.
I've always wanted a family and thought I'd have plenty of time to learn how to be a great father, but the idea of suddenly jumping into that role to 2 children, one of which is only 12 years younger than I am seems like quite a daunting task.
I love this woman deeply and would do anything for her.
I'm not afraid of the responsibility, only that I might not be strong enough to raise them right, and do all the duties a good father should. I want to give them the unconditional love and commitment they deserve after a lifetime of not having it. I feel like they'll be destined to a life of misery and turmoil without a father figure in their lives. The only thing is that I have no idea how to be a parent to two teenage daughters.
But I truly believe it's my responsibility to be an unbreakable foundation in their lives.
Any parenting advice or resources for this kind of situation? I've always felt old for my age but in other ways I still feel like a kid. It's hard to believe I could be their dad in a matter of months. But I truly believe it's my responsibility to be an unbreakable foundation in their lives.
There is only one Unbreakable Foundation and you ain't it. You'd better get this straight before you marry or you're going to collapse under the strain of trying to be God in the lives of your wife and step-children. The children need God far, far more than they need you. Will they encounter Him in you? Or just you?
Get real, If you want a sequre marriage you will be marrying in three or four years time.
I don't doubt that. It does happen. But this is very, very rare.My parents married after dating for only 3 months, they are one of the most mature, strong, and loving couples I've ever seen. If two people are truly selfless, principled, and forgiving it wouldn't take long at all.