Testing a "gut" feeling

[Stanfi]

I couldn't think of anything to title this thread. Ok, I'm not sure there is an easy answer to this question. I recently knew a girl. We got along great and didn't part ways on bad terms. It's a long story but she started dating some else.

The thing is I keep having this "gut" feeling as I call it way down deep that she is going to reappear in my life. My question is I'm trying to determine is this is a nudge from God, or if it is just my own desire?

I just wonder if any of you have any suggestions on how you determine if a feeling is from God, or it is not.

I know what I would tell somone else who asked this question.. I would say Pray about it, turn it over to God, don't worry about it. If it is God, the girl will surface, if is not God then someone else will.

I've just never been good at taking my own advice.

 

[SAPguy]

Your own advice sounds good to me. Go with that!

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Praying about it is always good, but IMO, God helps those that help themselves. Just yesterday I read a quote from Frederick Douglas, he escaped from slavery.

"I prayed for 20 years but recieved no answer until I prayed with my legs."

Praying and talking to God are good, but don't justy sit there waiting for the rest of your life or one day you'll wake up and you're life has passed you by.

I think you should also consider why you might be feeling this. The way the brain heals itself is to forget negative thoughts and feelings from the past, leaving you with the good. You guys broke up for a reason, that reason would be one of the bad things your brain is letting go of. I know my ex-girlfriend and I gbroke up and got back together twice, broke up for real the third time. Each time we got back togetherI remmebered thinking "Isn't this why we broke up a month ago (I've always been a fast healer).

I've always felt that emotion is the enemy of reason. SO think about how it was from a totally honest, black and white perspective. Ask some frineds of yours that knew both of you what they think. Make sure your head is clear and don't simply act on the good feelings that are left when your brian has fixed itself.

just my $0.02

 

[desi]

call her

 

[wvmtnkid]

Hmmm....that's a good question. Sometimes I get confused with something I really, really want and wonder if it is what I want or want God wants.

I would have to say that your own advice is good and also iklepac13 brings up some good points. Have you ever heard the saying "You can't see the forest for the trees?" Maybe before making any moves toward this person you should talk to those people around you who knew the two of you together as a couple who would be honest enough to tell you things about her that you might have been missing. It is easy to overlook the negatives of someone that you really care about, but leave it to your friends to be brutally honest! After talking with your friends, if you feel that there isn't something you missed and you still want to talk with her, you could always call her. Tell her you were thinking about her and wanted to catch up with her and see how she is. But prepare yourself for the fact that she may still be with someone else or may not be interested in starting up the relationship again. This may be just a way to satisfy any curiosity you may have as whether she would be open to a relationship again. Again, be prepared that she may not be. I am talking from experience here. You have to decide whether knowing is better than not knowing and how you will handle either one. Good luck, whatever you decide to do.

 

[ej]

Totally agree with above...

Call her, meet up as friends, do something friends-like, and see how it goes!