Telling someone?

[loubyyy]

Ive had an eating disorder for many years now and desperatley want to get help...
I dont want to talk to my parents about it because they already know...But i still feel as though i need to tell someone.
I was considering telling a teacher at school because i think he kind of knows....but i dont know how to approach him or talk to him about it?!
If anyone could please give me advice i would be soooo grateful
x

 

[loubyyy]

no-one?

 

[jjd]

It sounds like you already know you need to tell someone. I had very similar thoughts as you about two years ago and I decided to talk to a woman from my church since she had gone through similar issues. My advice to you would be find a time when you could be alone with whoever you're going to tell, then just start talking. The hardest part is starting to talk about it, then you're probably find everything you want to say will come tumbling out. Maybe choose a couple teachers you trust to talk about it with? Do your parents ever talk about your eating disorder?

 

[loubyyy]

No they never talk about it..but they do know about it. Which is why i thought about telling a teacher but i just dont know what to say and im scared of what they will say aswell to be honest :/

 

[jjd]

Have you thought about writing a letter? Even if you decide to talk to the teachers in person instead, it's probably a good idea to collect your thoughts, and it's a great first step. But what's the worst that could happen if you talked to your parents about it?

 

[Nobility]

WRiting a letter is a great idea...

Does you school have a counsellor hun? Please feel free to PM me if you need to... I also had an ED at ## and had to work through it..
Do you have a youth group leader?

 

[loubyyy]

No i dont have either of those

 

[VioletLady]

Hey there hon! How are you today?

I see you're in England - YAY! -whereabouts do you live? I am in south Essex. Nobility is a wonderful caring person and I have no doubt she will be there for you, as we all will.

If I can help you at all with anything closer to home, helplines, services and such, or if you just want to chat - then feel free to PM (private message) me too.

Love and hugs sweetie,
Violet xxxxxx

 

[Nobility]

Thats fine hun... You can still do this.. I really think you shoudl write a letter because you can rewrite it as many times as needed so you feel a bit in control about it.

You could do something like this:

Hi *teachers name*,

I really need you not to judge me or freak out, but I need some help to get some support with something. I'm scared and not sure about whats going to happen....

I have had an eating disorder for a long time *maybe give a little more information about it here*

I really want help with it to start getting better...
Can you please try and help me find some help..
*loubyy*

Then, sit with the teacher as they read it and let them try to understand... Some teachers don't understand very well, so PLEASE don't feel bad if they do freak out at all hun - it's HONESTLY not you, but them You are so special and wanting to tell someone else is the first step to getting help,