tell me why I shouldn't kill myself

[David Gould]

to put it simple, I hate my life and I feel God is ignoring me. can somebody give a good reason why I shouldn't kill myself? I think if God really loved me my life wouldn't suck so much. I'd just like to add ever since I became a Christian and accepted Jesus I really didn't see any changes in my life.

The main reason to keep living is that in the game of life things will be good and bad at various times. If you kill yourself when things are bad, you miss out on the good.

You also need to think about perception here. There must be good things in your life that you can focus on. If the things in your life that are getting you down are solvable problems, then you can plan out some strategies for solving them.

If they are problems that cannot be solved now, then maybe they can be endured until they can be solved.

And if they are problems that can never be solved then being angry and grieving and hurt and sad are normal human feelings that tell you that you are alive and that you are a human being.

Being with people who love you is the best way to deal with depression. If you do not have access to people who love you, find ways to fill in spare time that involve being with and talking to other people.

 

[KGirl]

It can be all about perception. Some people feel like their life sux more then others.. even sometimes the ones who seem to have everything. Also, If you're living expecting things to start going your way, you'll probably be dissapointed. What God can help you do is to be more greatful for what you have, though things really come together when you decide to follow Him and totally trust His guidance even if it doesn't go your way.

 

[seekingsomething]

Morbid Unicorn - I really hope you are able to take on board the things that these people are saying, although, as a new christian, i can see how they might be hard to think through and hard to put these words into your life. The thing I think is that Gods love is unfailing, he is there ALL the time, for you. He wants you, no matter what you have done. If you truely realise that your life without God is no life at all and want him with all your heart then i think you will feel so much happier. Really turn to the New Testement and go with that. Open your heart to him and he will fulfil it. Peace be with you x

 

[seekingsomething]

also... God has a plan for all of us and everything that you are going through is a true test of your heart and your faith. From everything bad something good comes out of it. Pray to God, let him know you are seeking him, he will listen to you. Be patient.

 

[Indigo]

"Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem".

Besides, how do you know things will be better once you die? The way I see it, if you're not yourself in life, you won't be yourself in death. Maybe, like me, you just have a chemical inbalance and just need medicine. Saying you have accepted God is not the same as actually feeling it. Have you questioned Him and let Him answer? Even if you don't like the answers, you'll know He's there. And I'm not talking about seeing Him appear or hearing His voice, just listen and pay attention to everyday life and know that that's where He is, every day.

 

[New Creation]

Brother, you are loved by many, and most of all by God who loved you so much THAT HE CREATED YOU. Everything had to be just so for you to come about. And it WAS!!! God WANTED YOU HERE BECAUSE YOU ARE NECESSARY!!!!! You are crucial!!! You are an important part of His plan!!!!!

When I was 15, I made a halfhearted attempt at suicide. I hated my life. I'm so glad I didn't do it though. It got better. I promise sweetie, you won't be 15 forever, you won't be in high school forever and God has a magnificent plan for you. JUST FOR YOU. Plans to PROSPER YOU!!!! I'll be praying for you Unicorn and I am asking you to go to an adult you can trust and talk to them about how you feel. You are not insignificant. You matter. And soon, you will see just how much. God bless you friend.

 

[seekingsomething]

New Creation ----- **YOU ROCK** -----

 

[Farasha]

Morbid...you do not need God to enjoy life. He is ignoring you because he doesn't exist. You have value not because God made you, but because you are you. You add something unique to this world. Don't throw that away. Realize the immense potential you have in yourself. You don't need God.

If you want to talk to someone about this, someone objective who won't simply try to convert you or provide simple answers, email me, Farasha7531@aol.com.

 

[SolomonVII]

Morbid...you do not need God to enjoy life. He is ignoring you because he doesn't exist. You have value not because God made you, but because you are you. You add something unique to this world. Don't throw that away. Realize the immense potential you have in yourself. You don't need God.

If you want to talk to someone about this, someone objective who won't simply try to convert you or provide simple answers, email me, Farasha7531@aol.com.

Who's trying to convert her to what, Farasha? She is already a Christian.

 

[Follower of Christ too]

to put it simple, I hate my life and I feel God is ignoring me. can somebody give a good reason why I shouldn't kill myself? I think if God really loved me my life wouldn't suck so much. I'd just like to add ever since I became a Christian and accepted Jesus I really didn't see any changes in my life.

REM - Everybody Hurts
When your day is long and the night
The night is yours alone
When you're sure you've had enough of this life
Well hang on
Don't let yourself go, 'cause everybody cries

Sometimes everything is wrong
Now it's time to sing along
When your day is night alone (hold on, hold on)
If you feel like letting go (hold on)
If you think you've had too much of this life
Well hang on

'Cause everybody hurts

Take comfort in your friends
Everybody hurts
Don't throw your hand, oh no
Don't throw your hand
If you feel like you're alone
no, no, no, you're not alone

If you're on your own in this life
The days and nights are long
When you think you've had too much
of this life, to hang on


Well everybody hurts,
sometimes,
everybody cries,
And everybody hurts ...
sometimes
But everybody hurts sometimes
So hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on
Everybody hurts
You're not alone


Here is a song that my son really likes. It is not a gospel song but it is true

 

[Isaiah 53]

Morbid-

Please remember that teenage life can be hard; but things will change.

God has a plan and a purpose for your life; I can guarantee His plan does not include suicide. Seek Him with your whole heart.

Jesus said: "Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened." (Matt 7:6-8)

My prayers are with you.

PEACE IN CHRIST!!

 

[Christi]

to put it simple, I hate my life and I feel God is ignoring me. can somebody give a good reason why I shouldn't kill myself? I think if God really loved me my life wouldn't suck so much. I'd just like to add ever since I became a Christian and accepted Jesus I really didn't see any changes in my life.

Have you ever come back to read the posts? If you have or haven't, please at least update us on how you feel, okay? Lots of people are worried about you.

 

[cSweetPea]

Very often I have those same thoughts as I have suffered w/ depression too. It wouldn't be fair to my family (Son,Dad,Mom,Sister,Grandparents, & Aunt) especially my 4year old son. When my husband (my son's father) hits me or is verbally abusive to me and I know I can't escape because he threatens me and when I split up with him before he would stalk me and I just always felt like I had to look over my shoulder. I always remember that there is someone out there who is having the same problems as me but possibly worse, like maybe they don't have a roof over their head. Or someone who is terminally ill and desparately wants to live. So I know God gave me a gift of life and I better not take it for granted by throwing it away. God blessed me with my little boy who brings joy when I feel so much pain. I hope you will learn to cope because I have been dealing with this depression since I was a teen ( I am 30 now) and certain situations (such as my spouse) just intesify the problem. If you need medication, counseling, just try something and give yourself a chance b/c you will miss out on some wonderful experiences in life and usually with suicide that is it. God Bless & Good Luck. I pray for you too!!!

 

[MinDach]

You never said why you feel the way you do. Time changes all things, one day you will feel one way, and the next day it can change. All hurts that you believe will never leave, will & Can leave. Take your eyes off of your problems, turn your thinking around. Open the door to God, and live. May God put his Angles all around you, to keep you safe and open your eyes.

 

[All4one]

Morbid,

Changes don't come immediately. Changes come from God but they also come from your struggle to live for Him and it sounds as if you have given up. You sound sad about the fact that you hate yourself. Wouldn't you say this is true. Think of some things that you hate about yourself... Now if you truly hate yourself wouldn't it make you happy that there were "glitches" in the way you are? Have you ever hated someone and been glad that they are ugly or non-ahteletic or something? Satan tells you that you hate yourself because he does not want you to live. He knows that if you take your life he can steal the blessings God has waiting for you from you. Im not talking about the blessing on this site either. God has something powerful for you. He has an anointing pouring like a waterfall just waiting for you to step under it. Satan wants to grow weeds up around you though where you cannot see this waterfall. He wants you to see the irritating parts and problems, the things you don't like about yourself as well. I love you brother.

"Love casts out all fear"
All4one

Please P.M. me if you want to talk some more.

 

[TheMainException]

Yeah, I never really saw any changes either, it took a couple of years before I changed into what I would like to call "semi-Christian" because I still have a bad temper and can be pretty nasty sometimes but I strive for perfection in Christ because I do love him, I'm just still struggling. Dear brother...I've been in that place where it feels like no one cares...and to all those that feel this way, read my post in the struggle forum. God is love, he doesn't ignore you, go read my "for those who struggle" thread.

 

[tbird_energizerbunny]

I can think of many reasons in my life for me to live. I understand where you're coming from. See, I've been in that same position. I've been in a place where I just saw no reason to live, and the bad thing is, I was a christian at the time.

Things got bad for me. I thought of killing myself. I thought that no one cared enough for me. I was depressed, I turned from God. At my last grip, I hung on to the Lord for dear life. I started to plan it. Each time I tried, I was stopped. A small voice in my head said: "Don't, I have a plan for you." Each time I'd start to try to take my life, it was always there. Finally, I cried out to God, "What is this plan? Where are you going to take me? Where am I to go?" God answered. "I'm going to call you to a life of service to me. I will ask you to do things that will fascinate you and make you praise me always for your spiritual gift." I asked: "Why else Lord?" "You do have a future, and It's in me. It's in the lives of my people. Consider your best friend."

I had been listening to the radio, and "Who Am I" (by Casting Crowns) came on. I stood there in shock completely overwhelmed. When the song ended God said: "It is not your life that you are taking, but mine. I have an awesome plan for you, but the only thing keeping you from it is yourself"

Today, obviously, I am still alive. God hasn't given up on me.

Unicorn, God hasn't given up on you, he never will, he is faithful. You may not feel a difference in your life automatically, but eventually, when you live out your faith, Gdo will come to you. I hope that things work out for you. And If you ever, ever, EVER, feel like no one loves you, someone in Mount Airy, NC loves you. Don't take your life, it is no way to die. Live your life so that the preacher won't have to lie about you.

in Christ,
tbird

 

[xiod]

If you killed yourself, I would miss the opertunity to be a friend, and perhaps help you find peace.


talk to me anytime.

 

[psychedelic_christian]

If you killed yourself, I would miss the opertunity to be a friend, and perhaps help you find peace.


talk to me anytime.

Being a christian is one of the hardest yet most rewarding things to be. try to live the best you can. hang in there. don't be so hard on yourself. you don' thave to be perfect to have peoplelike you or have God love you. Just do the best you can. When i first started going to church i got in 4 car accidents in one week. all of which could have killed me if it wasn't for the grace of God. My mother threw me out of the house b/c of it and b/c i told her about how i was sexually abused as a child. It broke my heart and that first year as a christian..was the hardest year of my life...full of many changes and hard descions. but now when i sit here....completely off of those evil psych meds and with total peace of mind (i mean i get stressed sometimes but i'm not insane anymore) i know that i can get through anything b/c God will always be there to catch my fall......hang in there. chat with me on AOL im if you have it!
love ya,
~meg~

 

[LilRitt04]

Why would you even CONSIDER doing something like that? Read Exodus 20. Its the 10 Commandments. One of commandments is dont murder. By killling yourself you are sinning, and that will get you to hell