Hmm perhaps I shouldn't have said the news and weather as an example, indicating it's that mundane. But around me it is very common. Perhaps we are just in different areas? I'm surprised if I'm that much of an exception from most. It's been discussed openly with me at my last 2 places of employment (especially the previous), brought up nearly every time at least once when I'm with my friends, my mother and I even discuss it (very lightly of course, parents - awkward) on occasion...Basically, every friend I have or person I know and have met more than a few times, the subject just seems to come up. Doesn't bug me either way.
As for the emotional impact, sure, sex to me is nothing without emotion. I'm not a one-night stand kind of person or anything. I can't imagine people having sex with no emotional attachment, although I know it happens. By discussing it without reserve when the occasion warrants it, I don't feel I'm diminishing the romantic and/or emotional depth of it.
Fair enough. It seems I may have misunderstood your sentiment then. You've made yourself clearer this time round but I'm still not sure I share your opinion, although I don't think it's neccessary to convince you or anyone else.
What I would like to mention though, in response to you saying "But around me it is very common" and "It's been discussed openly with me at my last 2 places of employment, brought up nearly every time at least once when I'm with my friends" is the following:
Do not expect the majority to be correct, in fact, just the opposite seems to be the case for the most part. Mankind in general tend to lean towards the corrupt side of the moral spectrum. It is no surprise that Jerry Springer appeals to such a HUGE audience, that's the way the majority thinks. All I'm saying is, what is common is not neccessarily good. We are even told as much in the Bible and I should hope that Christians will always have the backbone to stand up against the majority, as the likes of Peter and Paul have done so admirably.
One of my favourite quotes is by a 17th century ethicist philosopher, Baruch Spinoza:
"Sed omnia praeclara tam difficilia quam rara sunt" - translating to "Everything great is as difficult to realise as it is rare to find".
Essentially what this tells me is, the great things in life, the things to be aspired to, are (a) not easily achieved and consequently (b) not readily found. Regardless of my Christian opinions, I would much rather fall into the category of people who aspire to the great things in life and be one of the minority in which it can be found, rather than the majority who does
not achieve it and consequently in whom it is
not found.
So my position is, while I agree that casual discussion about sex is commonplace (in my area as well as in yours), I will always remain indignant if someone discusses it with me in such a fashion and personally I will not discuss it in such a fashion, thereby from my side at least offering it the sanctity that I think it deserves - even if that makes me the drag and the dweeb at my place of employment.
A lot actually. It's an amazing thing to look forward to and it's what keeps up strong in our decision to wait. It usually comes up if we start to get "carried away" with things. We remind ourselves by joking about it: "ohh just wait until our wedding night!" Makes things easier having it out in the open, I think.
