It's unclear whether fornication is a proper translation of the greek
Hmm perhaps I shouldn't have said the news and weather as an example, indicating it's that mundane. But around me it is very common. Perhaps we are just in different areas? I'm surprised if I'm that much of an exception from most. It's been discussed openly with me at my last 2 places of employment (especially the previous), brought up nearly every time at least once when I'm with my friends, my mother and I even discuss it (very lightly of course, parents - awkward) on occasion...Basically, every friend I have or person I know and have met more than a few times, the subject just seems to come up. Doesn't bug me either way.
As for the emotional impact, sure, sex to me is nothing without emotion. I'm not a one-night stand kind of person or anything. I can't imagine people having sex with no emotional attachment, although I know it happens. By discussing it without reserve when the occasion warrants it, I don't feel I'm diminishing the romantic and/or emotional depth of it.
We do.A lot actually. It's an amazing thing to look forward to and it's what keeps up strong in our decision to wait. It usually comes up if we start to get "carried away" with things. We remind ourselves by joking about it: "ohh just wait until our wedding night!" Makes things easier having it out in the open, I think.
I agree, it seems to lessen the temptation to get carried away by talking about it, saying "I can't wait until the wedding night" or "It's safe to say that we'll have a healthy sex life after we get married".
what's wrong with just talking about it for plain old fun? I often think this kind of thing is taken way too seriously among Christians to the point at which the pleasure aspect of sex is diminished... I can't see how talking about it is wrong - to me it's just getting to know your gf/bf better.
what's wrong with just talking about it for plain old fun? I often think this kind of thing is taken way too seriously among Christians to the point at which the pleasure aspect of sex is diminished... I can't see how talking about it is wrong - to me it's just getting to know your gf/bf better.
I don't know how it is in your relationship, but when DH and I were dating, we were very attracted to each other and it took a lot of discipline not to fall into temptation. Talking about sex for fun sure wouldn't have helped! While sex certainly doesn't need to be a taboo subject, I do think it's important for courting Christian couples to recognize that there is a seriousness about it. If our lives are for God's glory and we truly desire to serve and honor Him, then this is not a trivial issue. Talking about sex just for fun, especially with your partner will generally lead to lust.what's wrong with just talking about it for plain old fun? I often think this kind of thing is taken way too seriously among Christians to the point at which the pleasure aspect of sex is diminished... I can't see how talking about it is wrong - to me it's just getting to know your gf/bf better.
Respectfully, I'll have to disagree with this statement. I don't know you JCFantasy23 and I don't know your background but I really do feel sorry for you if sex has become such a mundane thing to you that you feel it should be discussed as one would discuss the weather or the news.
While I do believe that sex belongs in marriage and that there is something "sacred" about it from a Christian perspective, my argument with regards to your statement even comes from outside of my religious conviction.
Between a couple, the most intimate thing you can get involved in on a physical level, is sex. That is the top rung of the ladder, there's nothing more intimate. Putting that on the level of the weather or the news makes something which is very intimate into something very base.
While sex is a physically intimate thing, I could use the emotional analogy of discussing the death of one's father. That's an emotional intimate thing to discuss and I would never expect that someone should be able to discuss that with the same ease as the weather or the news.
For what its worth, I also believe sex to be more than just an intimate physical action but also a very emotional action but maybe that's just me.
If you believe sex before marriage is sinful, what is your opinion about talking with your SO about sexual topics (like things you might like to try after you're married, or specific sexual activities that don't appeal to you)? At what point in a relationship is this kind of conversation important?
If you believe sex before marriage is sinful, what is your opinion about talking with your SO about sexual topics (like things you might like to try after you're married, or specific sexual activities that don't appeal to you)? At what point in a relationship is this kind of conversation important?
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