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Talk about everything with your partner?

chocolateloverjen

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Right, ive been with my boyfriend 'baggy' for over a year and half now and i talk to him about everything. Is that ok?
The longdistance gives us a reason to talk obviously(we talk on the phone alot).

I mean everything like my period etc. Its a big part of my life as i have bad problems with it, i take tablets to keep it under control etc. He likes me talking about everything with him but is it really ok?

I want to be honest with him, along with the period i get bad mood swings and it kinda explains to him why im like the way i am at certain times of the month, As i say i cant control my mood swings as well.

What do you think?
 

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My boyfriend and I talk about everything. Like.. everything. Anatomy, illness, periods, accidental erections,...everything. Why? Because we're open, honest, and comfortable talking to each other about anything and everything.
I think it's fine. If two people are in a relationship, there needs to be a level of communication and honesty, with comfort. It's okay to have a lot of communication - it's great!
I mean.. if you marry this guy, or whatever guy you marry, aren't you going to want to be able to talk to him about weird period stuff too? It just makes sense to start a relationship with communication and honesty, and the level of that can grow as your relationship grows too.
 
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I see nothing wrong with sharing personal stuff with your man, I mean IF he's ok with it. There are some girls out there that will share the details of their period with a guy on the first date, that's a BAD call. But my BF would rather me tell him that I'm on my period so that he knows when to not joke so much. lol.
 
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I'm in agreement with everyone here. I talk to my guy about everything. He likes to know when i'm on my period (i don't know why, but he does). We always joke about how we tell each other everything. We're currently in a LDR, i'm off at college and he's still in H.S. but about a week before christmas break, in his anatomy class, they were learning about the reproductive tract and he wanted to know how a tampon worked, so when i came home from break i brought one with me and we threw it in water together. I had fun doing that because i had never done it before and he was just amazed by it. It's really nice to have someone that you can talk to about that sort of stuff and even if they don't understand (how many guys really understand how a girls period effects them?) it's nice to talk about it to someone.
 
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There's nothing wrong with it at all. I think it's best if you two can talk about that sort of thing, especially when you have mood swings, because that way he knows it's hormones and not something *he* did. I have horrible periods, too, and my DH and I talked about them quite a bit while we were dating. We were also long distance. :)
 
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chocolateloverjen said:
Right, ive been with my boyfriend 'baggy' for over a year and half now and i talk to him about everything. Is that ok?
The longdistance gives us a reason to talk obviously(we talk on the phone alot).

I mean everything like my period etc. Its a big part of my life as i have bad problems with it, i take tablets to keep it under control etc. He likes me talking about everything with him but is it really ok?

I want to be honest with him, along with the period i get bad mood swings and it kinda explains to him why im like the way i am at certain times of the month, As i say i cant control my mood swings as well.

What do you think?

Well, I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months now and I'm still learning about him. We don't really talk about everything though. I have mentioned my period maybe a few times to explain my "mood."
Don't you just hate periods!! I don't loose my temper and I, on rare occation, am prone to cry easily. :doh:...for the stupidest reasons. I really and truly can't help it.

Anyhoo, I think you should let him know how your period effects you so he knows what to expect and know that you are "acting" a certain way for a reason.

Guys usually don't understand this kind of stuff even after you explain it to them though.
 
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I think honesty IS the best policy, to use the cliche.... Now, I ask my SO if a certain subject would bother him if I talked to him about it... and he tells me where his limits are. I feel honored that he lets me talk about everything with him and listens and tries to be as supportive as he can. But I always want to respect any boundaries he has.
 
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JesusWasn'tWhite said:
My boyfriend and I talk about everything. Like.. everything. Anatomy, illness, periods, accidental erections,...everything. Why? Because we're open, honest, and comfortable talking to each other about anything and everything.
I think it's fine. If two people are in a relationship, there needs to be a level of communication and honesty, with comfort. It's okay to have a lot of communication - it's great!
I mean.. if you marry this guy, or whatever guy you marry, aren't you going to want to be able to talk to him about weird period stuff too? It just makes sense to start a relationship with communication and honesty, and the level of that can grow as your relationship grows too.

Yep. my boyfriend and I talk about stuff like that too. the accidental erections...yea me and him had an interesting conversation on that. lol...if im curious on anything he'll enlighten me. annd vice versa.
 
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alwayz_remember_Calvery said:
I'm in agreement with everyone here. I talk to my guy about everything. He likes to know when i'm on my period (i don't know why, but he does). We always joke about how we tell each other everything. We're currently in a LDR, i'm off at college and he's still in H.S. but about a week before christmas break, in his anatomy class, they were learning about the reproductive tract and he wanted to know how a tampon worked, so when i came home from break i brought one with me and we threw it in water together. I had fun doing that because i had never done it before and he was just amazed by it. It's really nice to have someone that you can talk to about that sort of stuff and even if they don't understand (how many guys really understand how a girls period effects them?) it's nice to talk about it to someone.

haha omgosh thats so awesome. My boyfriend's like that. so curious about all our 'girl' things. it makes me laugh. but im the same way with guy stuff so..it works.
 
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Yes, I talk about everything with my bf too. That is one of the things that I love so much about our relationship; that I can feel comfortable enough around him and him around me to talk about things like fears, dreams that we have, etc. :)
 
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talking to my bf about a lot of this stuff is really weird to me because i don't like people to know when i'm having my period. I mean, the first time i had it i didn't tell my mom, i wrapped my undies in toilet paper. :doh: So it's weird to talk to him about some of this stuff, but at the same time it's kind of fun. I'm also learning a lot about him. My motto is: If he's brave enough to ask a question, then i should be brave enough to answer it the best i can.
 
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proud2bcatholic said:
Well, I'm taking NFP classes with my fiance. Believe me, when taking NFP classes, you go far beyond the period.

^_^ Now that made me laugh! Is it all a bit overwhelming? I expect there's a lot about it [NFP] that I still don't know about. Well, I guess I'll cross that bridge after I build it (lol). JK

God bless you and your fiance!
 
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CarrierOfChrist said:
^_^ Now that made me laugh! Is it all a bit overwhelming? I expect there's a lot about it [NFP] that I still don't know about. Well, I guess I'll cross that bridge after I build it (lol). JK

God bless you and your fiance!

It's definitely interesting to say the least. But I think it's good, a man gets to learn better about his future spouse, appreciate the beauty of God's creation, and let's just say if a couple can communicate about this stuff, they can communicate about anything.:D

Seriously, the way they teach us is that the man does all of the charting, to make sure that the whole burden doesn't fall on the woman. It keeps the husband engaged in what is happening with his wife, they discuss what is going on that day, and hopefully together prayerfully consider the beauty of the gift of love and life.

God bless you also!
 
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proud2bcatholic said:
Seriously, the way they teach us is that the man does all of the charting, to make sure that the whole burden doesn't fall on the woman. It keeps the husband engaged in what is happening with his wife, they discuss what is going on that day, and hopefully together prayerfully consider the beauty of the gift of love and life.

God bless you also!

Well alright! I do like that very much :thumbsup:
 
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