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The_Governator_2004

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I'm a regular member here and all but I haven't been on in a while. Mostly because I've gone through a rough transitional phase going into college. Anyways, I am a Christian but honestly I'm not that good at showing it or even anything like that but I have a question that I feel you guys can answer for me hopefully. I was at a party tonight in an apartment complex and we were all drinking. Well about 3 hours into it was a report that the cops were coming, so we left (of course). Well I was hanging around this girl all night and she was completely out of it, she couldn't walk straight. I was going to help her to her dorm and then come here and so was my friend. Well my friend was just like "leave her here" and ran. I ended up spending an hour taking her all the way back to her dorm. Was my friend taking advantage of me? I mean I don't know if this is even the place to post this question or anything but it upset me that he ran out on me like that and was just suggesting we leave that girl on the side of the street. Was that wrong that he did that because I believe it is? Besides the fact that I was drinking was there anything wrong with me helping that girl to her room, or was that something I should have handled like my friend in a way or anything? Sorry if I worded this question wrong but I'm really confused about this whole situation and I just needed some reassurance of what was right and what was wrong (besides the drinking). Thank you for all and sorry for those of you who might be a little upset in me and everything.
 

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It was right of you to be concerned for the girl and to help her, just as the good Samaratin helped another person in distress in the Bible. (Luke 10:30-37) Religion and talk about God doesn't mean much unless it becomes part of our actions, in truth.
As for your friend, you should have mercy and understand that many people will not show their best side when drinking or in a situation where fear and stress become factors.
You are going to have a lot of pressure put on you to conform to the world while at college. I urge you to step up your morning and evening prayers and stay in God's Word. Keep reading your Bible, and, if possible, find a Bible study fellowship group where you can build each other up in the faith. As I said, there is a tremendous spirit of humanism and atheism that abides in colleges, so put on the full armour of God for the battles ahead.

Eph 6:13 Use every piece of God’s armor to resist the enemy in the time of evil, so that after the battle you will still be standing firm.

Ro 12:2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your minds, so that you may discern what is the will of God—what is good and acceptable and perfect.

I JOHN 3:16-19 This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers. If anyone has material possessions and sees his brother in need but has no pity on him, how can the love of God be in him? Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with ACTIONS and TRUTH. This then is how we KNOW that we belong to the truth and how we set our hearts at rest in his presence whenever our hearts condemn us.

Jude 1:20 But you, dear friends, must continue to build your lives on the foundation of your holy faith. And continue to pray as you are directed by the Holy Spirit.
 
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Dude you were totally in the right. What if you hadn't helped her back to her dorm? What if she would have been raped? Your friend sounds like a punk, what if it had been you that needed help? Do you think he would have helped you? Don't answer too quickly, don't forget that he left you too in all of this.

I hope you learn faster then I did that nothing will get you into more trouble then getting tanked all the time in the college years. I don't know if you drink a lot but think about how vulnerable you are when you're drunk. Anybody could do anything to you if they wanted. There was this marine where I was stationed and he was walking home all drunk one night. Well he walked past a lesbian bar and began insulting these women, calling them the usual names. They beat the hell out of him, and I mean bad. Talk about embarassing, we had to go pick him up and the cops were making fun of him right to his face. He was a nice guy but let himself become so vulnerable that he got beaten up by a couple of lesbians. Think about that the next time you start playing beer pong.

Peace and good looking out for that young lady...you may have saved her life..and that's what really being a servant of Christ is all about.
 
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thanks for the replies. i'm ebarassed at myself for going and getting drunk in the first place and i'm really ashamed of it, so in all honesty i'm not going to do it no more. i'll still probably go to the parties but i'll just join my friends Aidee and Clinton and Ron and be one of the sober ones and have a good time just being with people i guess. i don't want to end up there again and if i stay sober this way if something like that girl comes along i can just drive her back so it won't be as tiring. i'm working on a lot of things in my life right now and everything seems to just be going wrong all at the same time, is that a cliche?? anyways, college life is so confusing and i guess i was just hoping that it wouldn't seem as confusing for a couple of hours if i drank, oh well. Thanks a lot guys for the advice and all. I really appreciate it.
 
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I applaud you brother! To help a friend in dire straights is a wonderful thing! You are truly a good friend. And I cannot believe that your friend would do such a thing. To tell you the truth, I'm betting he was scared to death or too drunk to care. Love him anyway, but ask him why he did it.
 
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You definitely did the right thing by helping that girl. Your friend just didn't have the guts to.

I would encourage you to keep yourself out of questionable situations though. Trust me, I know from experience the temptations that will find you while in college (and I went to a Christian college!) You are too young to drink legally, otherwise I would tell you it's okay to drink, but not to let yourself get drunk.

I was wondering. . . what college do you go to? I know there are a lot of campus bible studies here at The Ohio State University, and probably most colleges have them. If not, check out the churches in your area.

Use the brain God gave you! ;) Good luck!

Sarah
 
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