Tad Bit ERKED

[~PICKLE~]

I don't know, Maybe I'm just PMS in'~~but today I have had it. I wake up and start looking around to see what I have to do today, and all I see is my house is a wreck!!!!! I deep cleaned this house last week, where it looked really good, and I wasn't embarrassed for someone to come visit. Well now, I'm just like what the heck. How can 3 people that can actually pick up after themselves be such pigs.

With futher a-do, I go upstairs to start collecting laundry and I see not my stuff laying around but my hubby's and my son's. And the bathroom is a wreck too. Now why can't they make it into the toilet. I just scrubed that thing.......It makes no sense. ok laundry is collected, so I take it to the area behind the kitchen and I see a bigger mess, we take our trash bags out of the can so that we can get more in the bag and not waste the extra space. Well someone in this house just throws the trash they have at the bag not in the bag.....and snoty tissues are just pain gross !!!! ok so I start the laundry and then go to the sink so I can do the dishes.......GRRRRRR, we have a midnight snacker around here, cause I had just done them yesterday.....the sink is full. And I have a dish washer, so there is no need for this....Wash the plate or the cup off put in dish washer, nope not in my house. Eat and throw the dirty dish in the sink, non washed off.

Ahhhhhh, i feel better.......Thanks for letting me vent!!!!!

 

[Busybee]

LOOOOOL, MamaPickle. Here's a for you. Some of those things wrong in your house sounded like mine.

I've had those days too, where it seems like a tornado blew threw right behind me. I've now had to learn to do one of two things since we had number two.

1. Remind myself that the Lord has at least given me the physical ability to clean up and there are people out there who'd love to have the opportunity just to say get out of bed or a wheelchair to do what we fuss about.

2. Throw my hands up for the day because cleaning the mess is going to just make me ill

. I will just put it off until the next day. If I clean when I'm the least bit irritated about the state of the house, then I'm just pure cranky by the time I finish cleaning.

 

[Andy Broadley]

Don't you think it's wonderful how we husbands give you all so many oportunities to show off your domestic superiority!! Besides we are actually doing you all a favour when we don't wash the bath out. It's a well known fact that spiders much prefer clean baths.


It's a bit like going to the car and finding that someone (mentioning no names) has been driving it for a couple of days and it has never occurred to them that the thing actually needs to have petrol put into it occasionally.

 

[desi]

Do the men in your life know what you expect of them?

 

[Archivist]

Do the men in your life know what you expect of them?

What she expects is simple common sense--don't make a mess and clean up after yourself. Everyone should know that, male or female.

There is an old Boy Scout motto taht applies here: Always leave a camp site in better condition than you found it.

 

[SkyeBlue8]

Wow Picklereed4,
I'd be pretty erked too....geez, I'd sit those men down and talk to them about this! Tell them they need to do their part, if they have any kind of respect for you. Cuz that in itself is disrespectful, even if they love you to death. And I'm sure they do! They probably don't even realize they are doing it...that's how men are!

 

[~PICKLE~]

Don't get me wrong, I don't mind cleaning my house. And when my hubby is worrking I don't expect him to do any cleaning, just pick up after himself. Like his dirty clothes and his towel he uses for his shower--instead of leaving it on the side of the bed so there is a wet spot at the foot of my side of the bed. And clean his plate after he eats something. Now after dinner I will collect the dinner dishes and rinse them, so that is one freebie. But when he is off for several days, and all he does is sit on the couch with the clicker, he drives me crazy...........Don't get me wrong, I love him to death, but sometimes I want to choke him. If he would help me keep it clean, by picking up it wouldn't be so bad......... now on the other hand I have kids so.......My house will alway be a mess

So my vent is over, I've come to reailze my job is endless.........WOOOOOOHOOOOOO

 

[Busybee]

CHUCKLE! At least you've still got a sense of humor about it all though MamaPickle. Nothing like that and some prayer to get ya through those humps huh?

 

[SkyeBlue8]

Amen I suppose.
But I'd still say please get off your behind and help me, cuz you're more than capable! And I'm not your maid.

 

[hisbloodformysins]

Why should they clean up when the woman of the house will do it for them....? It's probably on the backburner of their minds, and complaining about it doesn't seem to work with men.... somehow they just write us off. If it were me (and I'm not completely in that situation so maybe I don't really know) I wouldn't pick up after them. I'd pick up my mess and my mess alone, and if they wanted to be pigs, well, you married a pig and have a son that follows in his footsteps....... then that's their choice. Maybe they'll eventually get tired of the mess, maybe they won't. You can do things like toss it on your hubbie's side of the room, and through your son's in his room so you can close the door and don't have to be bothered by it. But don't play momma role as if you're cleaning up after toddlers. That's my advice anyways.

HB

 

[hisbloodformysins]

Uggg, the old traditional way of thinking gets me so urked. It's great to be considerate of your hubbie's needs, cleaning up so he doesn't have to after working all day, however, I know I wouldn't enable certain dependancies. We split the chores almost 50/50, and even when I go part time at work, I'll be the one watching a baby and toddler all day, that's work also in my book. So I'll still expect my hubby to keep up his end of the bargain. And I'd go to the extreme and buying all of us our own dishes, writing our names on them with a sharpy, and letting everyone be responsible for his own, not being able to use someone else's if their's is dirty. If it were a big problem for me, I certainly would do that. However, in my home, I'd be the one wanting to use my hubbie's clean dishes LOL.

HB

 

[~PICKLE~]

I'll give you another chuckle~~~I use to go on Strike!!!!!FOr days maybe even a week sometimes. He would get the hint then, and i'd wake up one moring and everything would be done......Not anymore though, he lost his pazazzzz. Plus, I have a baby now, and I have to try to keep it keep for her, DOn't want her growing up to get the wrong idea. My son is bad enough.....Walk in the house and drop his coat off in the middle of the floor and say "I'M HOME" Well Hi to you, now pick up that coat!!!!!!!

MAybe a strike would work, just lay on my bummm all day and night and scratch myself, maybe then will he realize I ain't his livin in toy or maid. Hmmmmmmm, LEt me think!!!

I think I will try it again and if it gets so bad......I'll move in with my mom, nah Just Kidding, I gotta think of something goood............

Thinking..........

 

[desi]

What she expects is simple common sense--don't make a mess and clean up after yourself. Everyone should know that, male or female.

There is an old Boy Scout motto taht applies here: Always leave a camp site in better condition than you found it.

If its common sense why does the Boy Scouts have to teach it as a motto? There is a saying that 'common sense is uncommon.' If you live by it you will be seldom disappointed.

 

[Busybee]

in saying they should show their appreciation of what you do by keeping everything clean. It's kind of strange for us as women, but it doesn't even take a "thank you", but rather the action of keeping it clean. Talk about HUUUURT feelings. I've experienced that too when in the past my husband would go in behind me and mess things up.

Mama I really do understand what you're going through and I feel for you despite the fact that I'm laughing. I think it cracks me up so much because it reminds me of us. Your baby is just a few months older than mine, so I know it's rough doing the house. Give yourself a week just to veg out. Just take your feet and shove yourself a path to wherever you need to go in the house. Wash one plate to feed yourself off of and consider it a mini vacation (I'm NOT joking either lol). Taking care of family is a 24/7 job seriously and you WILL go bonkers if you don't take a break.

Then surprise everyone in the house this weekend with little invitation cards (an invitation to have a family cleaning day, no RSVP needed lol).

I used to get a bit temperamental about my husband laying stuff down after I cleaned up, but that didn't really seem to help. So I started complimenting him when he did pick stuff up. It seemed like it really made his day when I noticed he did something without my having to tell him.

Now we have two bathrooms. After stuff started talking to me in the shower because it had gotten so dirty. I decided to give it one good old fashion cleaning and assigned our bedroom bath to him. He uses that one and if he doesn't clean it, then well it's between him and the mold. At least I don't have to be embarrassed about company coming over and using the main bath now. Ahhh, talk about easing some when I did that.

My 4 year old picks up after herself, but she gets lax sometimes. She's got a penny bank now though and so she literally "will work for pennies" LOL.

 

[Archivist]

If its common sense why does the Boy Scouts have to teach it as a motto? There is a saying that 'common sense is uncommon.' If you live by it you will be seldom disappointed.

Did I say that they "taught it" as a motto? No, but it is a Boy Scout motto (note: it isn't the official Boy Scout motto, that's "Do a good turn daily." I don't remember ever having formal classes at Scout camp on the subject, but you hear it said enough that you just pick it up after awhile.

Are you saying that people should leave a place--be it a campsite or an apartment--better than they found it? I stand by what I said--that's basic common sense and frankly to not do so is just plain rude.