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Idk how to stop thinking like this...so negative.. I just wanna die. Nothing ever goes right for me. Nothing. Is this how a christian life will be? I thought I was born again as a christian but apparently these demons keep getting in my head. I have the urge to cut again. Ugh fml
 

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Please understand that there is help. I have been right where you are. You really must talk with someone. Call your doctor and also call a pastor. I'm sending you a private message and praying for you, dear one. It will get better. so hang on. Please keep us posted on how you're doing. We care.

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I suggest you try to ignore the negative thoughts and attempt to not build them up for the Lord, as an act of worship and seeking him. if you do not pay attention to the evil in you then they will die down, but it takes time. but more so, if you can let them pass by you, though at times you might strongly feel such things in you, then they begin to have less and less power over you and in submitting to God to not partake of evil we are free to partake of the Lords goodness. you should pray for him to give you a taste of his love he gives freely to you until you have tasted that the Lord is good. if ever you felt such a thing from him then remember it and cling to it as an act of love to the Lord, it will be useful in building up the goodness of God in you, by his grace alone, all we must do is cling to him, to cry out for help for so long that he is more real than our sufferings. if we have this love-desire that he gives us we will thirst for more of him and take comfort that all is not lost, he alone can be our hope. every time evil things come up to you you must try to run quickly to God rather than let them bully you so much. you can even pray to God in such a way as to say one word to him until you no longer feel the need to any more. like keep praying "help" or "love" or whatever you feel to the Lord. it will help you to grow a kind of prayerful connection with the Lord. and plus if you pray those things a lot, then there is less time for you to think and feel all the evils in you.

it is truly not by our strength that we can have a peaceful life, but we have to pick the Lord over our pains and the Lord will be our peace. we can give him our pains, when we have such bad feelings you can try another spiritual practice, to gather all the hurts in your heart and to push them to the Lord, give them to the Lord that he may comfort you. the weaker we are the more strength God will be for us. we find our true self in God for that true self is how God sees us and it is good to see in the same manner as God sees.

there has even been times when all i could do was feel strong sorrow and pain, but if that happens...try to feel it in such a way that you are reaching and crying out to God to save you. try to feel it deeply, even try to find the little bit of light in that by feeling it so much. reach in it so much until you find the Lord in you. if you can find the Lord in your very pain, in the abyss, then what could possibly damage you if you know and feel that the Lord is with you? crying does not have to be a bad thing, it can be quite a blessing from the Lord.
 
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I am praying for you and hope that you are able to find help.

Please remember that what is often said is true - suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I know that right now it probably feels like your problems are permanent, as you cant seem to get relief from them at the moment. But with assitance (whether spiritual, through a counselor or a pastor), healing can and will come to you. I have been through those times where I am hurting so bad and it feels that the pain is unbearable...in fact, many of us have. So know that you are not alone in how you feel and please believe us when we say that it really will pass...it really will get better.

Again, you are in my prayers and know that you are stronger than you realize.
 
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I suggest you try to ignore the negative thoughts and attempt to not build them up for the Lord, as an act of worship and seeking him. if you do not pay attention to the evil in you then they will die down, but it takes time. but more so, if you can let them pass by you, though at times you might strongly feel such things in you, then they begin to have less and less power over you and in submitting to God to not partake of evil we are free to partake of the Lords goodness. you should pray for him to give you a taste of his love he gives freely to you until you have tasted that the Lord is good. if ever you felt such a thing from him then remember it and cling to it as an act of love to the Lord, it will be useful in building up the goodness of God in you, by his grace alone, all we must do is cling to him, to cry out for help for so long that he is more real than our sufferings. if we have this love-desire that he gives us we will thirst for more of him and take comfort that all is not lost, he alone can be our hope. every time evil things come up to you you must try to run quickly to God rather than let them bully you so much. you can even pray to God in such a way as to say one word to him until you no longer feel the need to any more. like keep praying "help" or "love" or whatever you feel to the Lord. it will help you to grow a kind of prayerful connection with the Lord. and plus if you pray those things a lot, then there is less time for you to think and feel all the evils in you.

it is truly not by our strength that we can have a peaceful life, but we have to pick the Lord over our pains and the Lord will be our peace. we can give him our pains, when we have such bad feelings you can try another spiritual practice, to gather all the hurts in your heart and to push them to the Lord, give them to the Lord that he may comfort you. the weaker we are the more strength God will be for us. we find our true self in God for that true self is how God sees us and it is good to see in the same manner as God sees.

there has even been times when all i could do was feel strong sorrow and pain, but if that happens...try to feel it in such a way that you are reaching and crying out to God to save you. try to feel it deeply, even try to find the little bit of light in that by feeling it so much. reach in it so much until you find the Lord in you. if you can find the Lord in your very pain, in the abyss, then what could possibly damage you if you know and feel that the Lord is with you? crying does not have to be a bad thing, it can be quite a blessing from the Lord.

I have prayed several times for God to change me. To make me a positive person. To stop me from letting my negative thoughts get the best of me. But nothing! I asked, why wasn't I given?? Why later?? Why not now? And if His answer is "no" then why not?? What is so wrong with wanting to be a positive person??
 
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I have prayed several times for God to change me. To make me a positive person. To stop me from letting my negative thoughts get the best of me. But nothing! I asked, why wasn't I given?? Why later?? Why not now? And if His answer is "no" then why not?? What is so wrong with wanting to be a positive person??

the problem is unique to the individual. there are probably some core beliefs in you that you need to change but it can be hard trying to know what is causing all the mess inside of yourself. no one will be able to know better than you exploring your own self. there are answers all around you and inside of you. maybe God has a different plan for you than an instant cure. maybe he is giving you all the help you need and he desires that since you and him do things together, that you can overcome it together. the things that happen in this world are not able to be fully described. I have no idea why you are going through what you are going through.


Idk how to stop thinking like this...so negative.. I just wanna die. Nothing ever goes right for me. Nothing. Is this how a christian life will be? I thought I was born again as a christian but apparently these demons keep getting in my head. I have the urge to cut again. Ugh fml

I am amazed that I ever got out of my pit. it is so hard for me to understand how I stopped because it's like that person died... it was not who I was, it was who I was not. that is all negative thinking is to me now.
 
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I have prayed several times for God to change me. To make me a positive person. To stop me from letting my negative thoughts get the best of me. But nothing! I asked, why wasn't I given?? Why later?? Why not now? And if His answer is "no" then why not?? What is so wrong with wanting to be a positive person??


As hard as it may be (and believe me, I know it is hard) but this is where having complete faith in God comes in...

We have to have complete faith to know that even when our prayers arent answered when we want them answered, that God has not left us and is still working on our behalf. We have to believe that we are still going through tough times for a reason - and we have to trust that God knows what He is doing.

Even though you feel like praying to God hasnt helped in the past, dont let that stop you. Trust that things have been moving in your favor behind the scenes, even if you cant see it. And trust that just because things havent always turned out the way you wanted in the PAST, continue to have faith in Him and know that your FUTURE doesnt have to be a reflection of your past. Growth comes when we face challenges, not when things are easy.

"Our feelings are real and powerful, but they are not more powerful than GOD and THE TRUTH."
 
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As hard as it may be (and believe me, I know it is hard) but this is where having complete faith in God comes in...

We have to have complete faith to know that even when our prayers arent answered when we want them answered, that God has not left us and is still working on our behalf. We have to believe that we are still going through tough times for a reason - and we have to trust that God knows what He is doing.

Even though you feel like praying to God hasnt helped in the past, dont let that stop you. Trust that things have been moving in your favor behind the scenes, even if you cant see it. And trust that just because things havent always turned out the way you wanted in the PAST, continue to have faith in Him and know that your FUTURE doesnt have to be a reflection of your past. Growth comes when we face challenges, not when things are easy.

"Our feelings are real and powerful, but they are not more powerful than GOD and THE TRUTH."

Yes, He is working behind the scenes on your behalf. So hang on.

Listen to this. There's lots of good info that will help you. Freedom from Depression - YouTube
 
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