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I am writing to express a very deep concern of mine.
I do not like seeing this forum used to write sucide notes.
1. It is against CF rules:
2. Staff then have the task of having to remove posts that we don't want to remove. If we remove them, the member doesn't get to read the really wonderful encouragement of why to live by their fellow members.
3. It causes a great deal of distress to other members. We worry about the person. Then if they happen to lose their internet, if they go to the hospital for several days, if their parents restrict them to use their computers, their computers break down, etc etc. the members here are all upset thinking the person they are worried about has killed themselves.
Members here might think they are to blame for the possible death of a fellow member and think things like: "If I had not posted about my problems, they might not have lost hope", or "If I had posted better encouragement they might have not killed themselves".
Then we see at times someone think that the one post about suicide is a "good idea" and they follow suit and post the same kind of thing. (Copycat suicidal threats are actually very common in communities.)
Reason's number 3 is the main reason that the rule about this was created that one could not threaten self harm or suicide.
So, I have started this thread for the main purpose of members here being able to write what they would say to someone who was threatening suicide. Please post all your encouraging words about why not to do this act.
I am seriously thinking of moving some posts here from threads that we might have to remove because of suicidal threats. I will think about this and write to you to ask permission to do this. If you know you have recently written a post like that and want it moved here please pm me and I will help accomplish this.
Christ is in our midst!
Xenia
I do not like seeing this forum used to write sucide notes.
1. It is against CF rules:
2. Staff then have the task of having to remove posts that we don't want to remove. If we remove them, the member doesn't get to read the really wonderful encouragement of why to live by their fellow members.
3. It causes a great deal of distress to other members. We worry about the person. Then if they happen to lose their internet, if they go to the hospital for several days, if their parents restrict them to use their computers, their computers break down, etc etc. the members here are all upset thinking the person they are worried about has killed themselves.
Members here might think they are to blame for the possible death of a fellow member and think things like: "If I had not posted about my problems, they might not have lost hope", or "If I had posted better encouragement they might have not killed themselves".
Then we see at times someone think that the one post about suicide is a "good idea" and they follow suit and post the same kind of thing. (Copycat suicidal threats are actually very common in communities.)
Reason's number 3 is the main reason that the rule about this was created that one could not threaten self harm or suicide.
So, I have started this thread for the main purpose of members here being able to write what they would say to someone who was threatening suicide. Please post all your encouraging words about why not to do this act.
I am seriously thinking of moving some posts here from threads that we might have to remove because of suicidal threats. I will think about this and write to you to ask permission to do this. If you know you have recently written a post like that and want it moved here please pm me and I will help accomplish this.
Christ is in our midst!
Xenia
