- Oct 17, 2019
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- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Christian
- Marital Status
- Married
Two years ago, my then 16 year old son and husband were involved in a physical altercation. It was clearly my son's fault. Law enforcement was called, my son served community services, and he ended up living with his Dad. Long story short, my son has not apologized to my husband (his step father). He tried once when he saw him at the dental office, but said he was scared to approach him. Also, when the incident first happened, my son's father was going to bring him over to our house to apologize, but my husband would not have it, saying that I had 'coaxed' my ex to bringing our son over to apologize and that he should be man enough to do it himself. Fast forward to today. My husband wants me to have no dealings with my son because of this. No phone calls, texts, visits, just act like he has fallen off the face of the earth. I find this hard to do, especially during holidays, his birthday, and now he is graduating high school in June. I have had to 'sneak' to see him. My son brought up apologizing again a few months ago on his own, but he has yet to do it. I'm not sure why. He did apologize to me the night of the incident, and I did forgive him. He is not allowed to come to our house under any circumstances, and honestly, if and when he does apologize to my husband, things may not be the same. We have had countless arguments over this. I wish my son would have just apologized to my husband, but I am finding it difficult to just 'abandon' my son. He sends me texts saying he misses me and his two brothers (ages 9 and 11). I was asked to block the texts. He was in an accident and totaled his car. My husband didn't care and showed it. I have prayed about this over and over again and wondering if I'm not being submissive when I feel horrible about not seeing or being allowed to see my firstborn son. Bringing up my son's name in the house is sure to cause and argument or ruin an otherwise good day. My husband has nothing nice to say about him at all. I'm not sure how much longer this can go on.