Strugling with sin

[BigChrisfilm]

Hi, I am new, anyway, I am strugling with sin right now, god has revealed to me that something I have been doing for a long time is a sin, I try not to do it anymore, but it seems I can only go so long without doing it, and then, BOOM, I am at it again. I have a hard time with it, because I don't want to do it anymore, because I feel hurt when I do, like I am hurting god, and disapointing him, but I just don't think I can stop, the longer I go without doing it, the more I want to, and I just keep hoping it will go away, but the urge gets stronger and stronger. What can I do, will god be able to forgive me, even if I can't stop doing this, I know that he has revealed to me that I shouldn't, but if I try and fail, does that mean that I am doomed to hell, for not being able to stop? I know that I am not perfect, but I don't want to use that as a reason to go out and do it, because like I said, god said I shouldn't. WHY IS IT SO HARD, all I want is to do the right thing, and it is harder than I ever thought it could possibly be, do you think this will be good enuff for god, will he understand I want to quit? Or am I not tring hard enuff? I feel like I am tring HARD, and I ask him to deliever me, and grant me repentance from this sin, but I am so attracted to this worldly, flesh driving sin, it's like my soul and body are fighting each other?

 

[Lilly of the Valley]

I know what you mean 100%. Been there and done that and even now am going through that. Trust God and lean on HIS strength. Don't rely on yourself, or you'll keep falling. When you do fall, repent and lean back on Him. Continue to ask for His help. The key is to just lean on it and trust Him that He is helping you. He can help you overcome. I had a sin that I struggled w/ for 9 months, and then God finally helped me wake up to lean on HIs strength, then I overcame it w/ his help. So don't ask so much for deliverance (remember Paul and God didn't but told Him that His (God's) grace was sufficient), but ask for grace and the trust God and lean on His strength.

 

[Sketcher]

I'm there, and I've been a believer for years. God will always forgive you, memorize 1 John 1:9.

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."

 

[princess197113]

I completely understand your guilt. But God knows your heart and trust in him that he will fill you up with his comfort instaed of or in place of the "thing" that you are so obsesssing over. Seek him even more and he will reward you with freedom from your bondage.

 

[Dondi]

This type of thing may take some time. You have to rely on the strength of God in the Holy Spirit. You have to remove those thins that are a temptation. If the internet is giving you a hard time, then stay off it for a while. Or get one of those "net nanny" programs. or place the computer in a room out in the open where you can be accountable.

Stay close to God and develop a firm relationship with Him, He will give you strength. Try to go with an attitude that you are going to lick this, because if you go halfheartedly, you will probably fall. But God will pick you up. it's better to fall and pick yourself up than fall and stay down.

 

[bethdinsmore]

Great advice.
Once a person has trusted Christ as sinbearer, they cannot lose their salvation or throw it away. See [wiki]Eternal security[/wiki]. God does punish us when we do wrong (Hebrews 12), but He doesn't kick us out of His family.

Next, disappointments come from unmet expectations. So it's impossible to disappoint God, since He knows the future. In fact, He doesn't condemn us (Rom. 8:1) and the last verses of chapter 8 show that nothing can separate us from His love.

It is good to see that you are not looking for an excuse to sin. In fact, you sound like Paul in Romans 7. If you find that this has reached an addiction level (controls you), you might want to do as I did and find a Christian recovery group. They've all been there, in one way or another, and they can show you how to cling to God to get you out of this mess. Large churches often have such groups.

You might also be interested in the free classes online at www.settingcaptivesfree.com I've heard some very good reports about their effectiveness.

2 Cor 1:9
9 Indeed, in our hearts we felt the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead. (NIV)

Please let me know if I can help further. I'll pray for you. Aloha in Jesus, friend.

 

[millerrod]

All has given good advice i would just like to add one thing pray specific, break down the things that lead up to the sin and pray specificly to have the strenght correct those things. example when i smoked cigars the Holy Spirit convicted me i knew it was wrong but it just wasnt happening i couldnt stop so i broke it down and prayed specificly, i prayed for strength to fight the desire of taste, smell, holding in my hand, the feeling of being relaxed when smoking i thought of all the reasons why i did it and prayed for strength in each area, prayers were long and took some time but God answered those prayer and i quit and whatever sin you are dealing with God will help you to stop to, it just takes time and ALOT of prayer.

 

[Phoenixtears1]

BigChrisfilm, the main thing I want to say is trust in God. He will get you through this hard time. So keep praying! Also, you should probably take baby steps. Be proud of yourself when you've accomplished something small. Yes, you're not perfect, and I know you don't want to use that as an excuse, but just tell God that you're sorry and ask for his guidance and help. He's already given it! I'm sure it took a lot to post on here, and that's an accomplishment in itself.
Many others have mentioned some excellent advice, and it's my advice that you listen to some of it. Trying to change you're daily life style, like where the computer is as Dondi stated, is a good idea.
Trust in God!

 

[bethdinsmore]

Hi - thought of something else. In addition to this room, the CF Recovery forum probably would also offer some good help, whether it's the General Struggles or one of the other rooms.

I have seen God give some tremendous, miraculous victories in life, and I know He can do the same in you. Philippians 4 gives some good guidelines.

1 Cor 10:13
13 No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.
(NIV)

I'm praying He'll show you the way out.

Aloha in Jesus, friend

 

[cktuba]

You are a human being and human beings are sinful and rebellious by nature. EVERYONE falls short of GOD's grace and glory and EVERYONE sins. The only human being to be without sin was JESUS and he was both GOD and man. We all have our Achilles heal... all we can do is lean on GOD for help and try our best. And when we fall, as we all will , go to GOD and tell him that we are sorry. His grace is greater than anything we can imagine.

I think the reference to the LORD as FATHER has very specific connotations. What good father would stop loving their child because they disobeyed? What good father wouldn't forgive their child when they came back crying and saying they are sorry? And GOD is THE FATHER. Just look to the story of the prodigal son and that will tell you all you need to know.

If you truly repent and you truly love the LORD he will always forgive you because he loves us more than we can ever know or appreciate... he gave his all and suffered greatly for us on the cross so that we may be saved by his grace. Look at David, he wasn't a very nice guy and he sinned quite a bit (and some really big ones to). Yet he loved the LORD with all of his heart and GOD loved him back even more.

This is why I am so "unmanly" and can't make it through a prayer in church without breaking down into tears and why I'm tearing up now. NO ONE deserves his grace but it has been freely given. Take heart you are not alone. Let the LORD know you love HIM, pray for forgiveness and strength. HE will never turn his back on you.

 

[BigChrisfilm]

Thanks for your help guys, just thought I would let you know that god has delivered me from my demons that wished for me to do these things, praise god, because my prayers have been answered!

 

[bethdinsmore]

So glad to hear the news, friend.

We all have temptations. I love the promise in this verse:

1 Cor 10:13-14
13 No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.
14 Therefore, my dear friends, flee from idolatry.
(NIV) (or any other sin)

Aloha in Jesus

 

[Rut]

All has given good advice i would just like to add one thing pray specific, break down the things that lead up to the sin and pray specificly to have the strenght correct those things. example when i smoked cigars the Holy Spirit convicted me i knew it was wrong but it just wasnt happening i couldnt stop so i broke it down and prayed specificly, i prayed for strength to fight the desire of taste, smell, holding in my hand, the feeling of being relaxed when smoking i thought of all the reasons why i did it and prayed for strength in each area, prayers were long and took some time but God answered those prayer and i quit and whatever sin you are dealing with God will help you to stop to, it just takes time and ALOT of prayer.

Another thing too.When you feel to make that sin start to pray at once

 

[Just Me Garry]

You can not live the Christian life on your own strength.

Galatians 2:20 (KJV) I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.

 

[Just Me Garry]

You can not live the Christian life on your own strength.

Galatians 2:20 (KJV) I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.

Or even this scripture:



Hebrews 12:1 (KJV) Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,

Hebrews 12:2 (KJV) Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.

 

[JPPT1974]

Just give it all to the Lord
Let Him take care of you
And lift the burden of sin
From your shoulders and body!

 

[Friend of Bunyan]

Thanks for your help guys, just thought I would let you know that god has delivered me from my demons that wished for me to do these things, praise god, because my prayers have been answered!

Fantastic! God bless you and enjoy what it feels like to be free of the bondage to sin.

 

[insurchoftruth]

Ephessians 1:3-7, James 2:10, Romans 3:23, 24, 8:32, John 3:16, Matthew 5:43-45, Acts 14:17, James 2:9, Matthew 5:43-48, Romans 7:14-25, 8:1-14