Struggling with Lust

[indycs20]

All,

I am 20 year old male and am struggling with lust, and desires for a certain girl. In short, I need someone to talk to about this. I have thought about talking to my parents but I don't feel comfortable doing that. I would like to talk to someone on yahoo messenger from this forum. Please pm me.

Pray for me.

 

[Johnnz]

To be attracted to a girl is OK. Sometimes touch, or even her presence can be sexually arousing.That' s just the way we are at times. But, this need not be lust if you work at behaving sensibly with her, developing a good base to the relationship, and setting limits for any intimacy if or when that develops.

We can be attracted to someone for all sorts of reasons, innocent enough in themselves, but that initial attraction may be pretty narrow. Some physical attractions can just be from social conditioning too - you know, the attrcative girl has plenty of admirers, but that does not mean a better of more loving person lies underneath.

John
NZ

 

[Silentium]

Like Johnnz said, attraction is not something to be ashamed of. When attraction becomes lust, you start have sexual fantasies. It's all in how you handle it. If I had YM, I'd talk to you about it, but, I only have MSN. None the less, guard your heart and pray protection over your heart. You have my prayers as well.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Hey man.
I'm here for you.

 

[Brownstoned]

You know, one thing I noticed throughout the bible is God makes His people struggle. It sure seems to me (maybe someone can back me up) that the bible speaks alot about how God lets His people live and struggle (IE become stronger and more faithful) while the ungodly and unsaved people are quickly judged and killed (for instance, the couple that Paul (I think Paul, might be Peter) striked down because they were selfish in their money and possessions).

Therefore, I would consider it a blessing that God is letting you live and deal with your problems. If He didnt want you to be a member of the church He wouldnt be putting you through guilt, pain, temptations, and sometimes outright torture if He didnt expect you to come out strong in the end. So you keep struggling like everyone else. Its easy to be part of the elect (he chose us) but the struggles he puts us through are hard.