Honestly the fact that I am typing this terrifies me. I am struggling with homosexuality. I have always struggled with it, I just try to avoid thinking about it at all costs. I have been having these feelings ever since I was a kid, like 6 or 7 years old is the first time I can remember. I feel so ashamed. My dad is a pastor, he is honestly the best dad I could've asked for. It doesn't make sense, my parents are both incredible and I feel so blessed by my family. I've always heard that homosexual feelings stem from rejection from parents but that is definitely not what it is in my case. I spend every night begging God to take these feelings away but they are still there. I feel guilty all the time..and I don't have a single person to talk to about it. I would be humiliated if anyone found out and would do something stupid like commit suicide or run away. I feel like I am living a lie. Am I just going to spend the rest of my life alone? I know God will always be with me but it has always been my dream to get married and become a mother. I just can't figure out why this is happening to me. I really love God and want to serve him with my life but I feel so ashamed because of these feelings I have had. I have never acted on them but just the fact that they are there makes me feel terrible. I need help.
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Struggling with Homosexuality.
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Philothei
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Dear Adele I cannot say I know how you feel because I do not but I know it must be very hard for you. I can offer you my prayers and my support for what you are going through. Yes God does created you a woman indeed so dreams of being a mother can be fulfilled. I want you to know that since you have not acted upon these feelings you should not feel any guilt. God has created you perfect and such temptation is just like any other... no different. You should give yourself credit for enduring this temptation though.
Blessings,
Philothei
Blessings,
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Adele, I think I may have some experience with what you are talking about. Feel free to PM me if you would like to discuss this outside the confines of a "post and wait" public message board. I will be back online tonight.
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How was sex generally presented to you - something healthy, normal or 'beware of the demon of sex'? Sometimes plain old naturally occurring sexual curiosity can become distorted when we aren't able to talk about it and are made to feel ashamed of our sexuality.
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Your story is quite common these days Adele, so you are not alone in your struggle.
First you need to get your eyes off the homosexuality and concentrate on what has caused it. The original SSA is not of your making, but to actually act on it is a choice.
The SSA attaction comes about from an emotional trauma that causes a feeling of rejection real or perceived. The most common source is parents as they are the people who you trust the most.
You say that you have fantastic parents. I have found that in counselling people such as yourself that they are often in denial because they do not want to feel bad about their parents and they do not want their parents to be the source of the problem.
Often the rejection comes because the father who is a pastor is always busy and never seems to have time for you, so think about it.
Once you isolate the cause of the rejection, you then need to forgive the person concerned as forgivness releases you from it. if it is your parents you need to talk to them about how you feel as the rejection may be totally unconcious.
Your forgiveness releases them and you and enables you to get onto the road to recovery. There is much more I could say but I will leave it at that for the moment.
First you need to get your eyes off the homosexuality and concentrate on what has caused it. The original SSA is not of your making, but to actually act on it is a choice.
The SSA attaction comes about from an emotional trauma that causes a feeling of rejection real or perceived. The most common source is parents as they are the people who you trust the most.
You say that you have fantastic parents. I have found that in counselling people such as yourself that they are often in denial because they do not want to feel bad about their parents and they do not want their parents to be the source of the problem.
Often the rejection comes because the father who is a pastor is always busy and never seems to have time for you, so think about it.
Once you isolate the cause of the rejection, you then need to forgive the person concerned as forgivness releases you from it. if it is your parents you need to talk to them about how you feel as the rejection may be totally unconcious.
Your forgiveness releases them and you and enables you to get onto the road to recovery. There is much more I could say but I will leave it at that for the moment.
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Thanks for taking the time to respond. I am still struggling and praying but the fact that somebody knows, even if I do not know you guys, seems to help a little. Thank you so much for the prayers, I really appreciate them.
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Hello 
I'm a 17 year old girl and I have had these same struggles. Instead of accepting it, I still try to deny it. But the truth is I have had feelings for other girls. I've read stories about how God can transform your life, even if you might still have those feelings. He can give us the power to overcome, even if we don't feel like it right now. After all, he did make the universe so I believe he can change my heart at least to the point where I focus on Him more. I want to encourage you and encourage myself with Lamentations 3:19-23.
remember my affliction and my wandering, the bitterness and the gall. I well remember them, and my soul is downcast within me. Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope. Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.
God bless and good luck in your journey!
- Allison
I'm a 17 year old girl and I have had these same struggles. Instead of accepting it, I still try to deny it. But the truth is I have had feelings for other girls. I've read stories about how God can transform your life, even if you might still have those feelings. He can give us the power to overcome, even if we don't feel like it right now. After all, he did make the universe so I believe he can change my heart at least to the point where I focus on Him more. I want to encourage you and encourage myself with Lamentations 3:19-23.remember my affliction and my wandering, the bitterness and the gall. I well remember them, and my soul is downcast within me. Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope. Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.
God bless and good luck in your journey!
- Allison
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