struggles

[ladymadonna]

i am a happily maried woman,well i was until my husband introduced me to porn,at first i watched it to please him but after a while i found myself watching it alone,not for the men but to watch the women,im really confused as to what is going on in me,i was a virgin when i married so sexually im not all that experienced,i feel overwhelmed about my obsession to look at naked women......

can anybody offer advice about what is going on?

 

[Johnnz]

There can be several reasons.
Maybe you are discovering your sexuality for the first time.
Maybe you are wanting information about being sexual as a woman - most people don't find it easy to talk and ask for information about their sexual life.
Maybe you had a pretty negative upbringing about sex and now that is being challenged.
Maybe you and your husband haven't worked out some sexual issues between you. This can take time and real effort sometimes.

John
NZ

 

[Mr.Cheese]

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[ladymadonna]

thank you for your imput,i feel less embarresed about this now,i have to admit though my watching porn films does not end there,i usually act upon it by relieving myself and end up feeling guilty and ashamed,i think or fear my unatural desires are out of control.........

 

[Johnnz]

Don't jump to conclusions. Maybe you are a very sexual person. Maybe you need to understand that better than you do now. Maybe you and husband need to talk about satisfying each other sexually more deeply.

Sometimes issues like this an be very productive if we move beyond a knee jerk reaction and really work something through. Beating up yourself on a sexual issue will never get you very far. It hasn't stopped your desire yet, has it?

John
NZ

 

[underattack]

Porn can be extremely addictive and unhealthy. I know this by experience. As a Christian, I believe that it is often the Holy Spirit who makes us feel guilt over such things. There may be many views on what acts are sinful and what acts are not, but only God can truly tell us what is okay to do and what is not okay to do. And it may be different from person to person. Consider this.

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

One thing I can say is that porn has nothing to do with reality. I've known other women who have been confused from responding to females in pornography.
It's the porn that is screwed up, not you. It can screw you up, but the point is that you're not homosexual because of this.

I encourage you to try to get pornography out of your life.

I agree, and would go one step further to say that by using pornography to become aroused can and will reduce your ability to become naturally aroused by your husband without pornography. Then it becomes necessary to think about the porn in your mind to become aroused for him. That's not intimacy... that's sex.

If you feel convicted that this is not something you should be doing, then you'll want to give it consideration. I think that we know many times what we need and don't need until we set ourselves up to not hear that any longer.