strugging with hating someone

[brinny]

Bless yer heart precious....KNOW that God works it ALL out, without a doubt and to your blessing, precious. Awwwww yes, it hurts...and it may not seem so at this particular time, yet He WILL raise exquisite beauty from what appears to be ashes. He is doing so as we speak. Hang tight to your heavenly Father's hand. He's GOT you dear one. Father be with our precious sister as she grapples with excruciating pain. Be her Comforter and guard and heal her shattered heart.....draw her ever closer to you and be the Lifter of her head, in Jesus name, amen. (((hug)))

 

[Chaplain David]

I know that I said I would only stick to my blog on the Christian Forums blog section as in vent only there, but I felt the need to vent I know this. I know it is unchristian-like to hate, but I actually hate someone, I mean hate! I pray that God forgives me for my hatred, but you see that guy who used me threw away a pillow that I hand made JUST for him and he showed no remorse about throwing it away (no sorry from him, nothing), and his reasoning behind throwing it away is cause he "was angry at me". He is the reason I hate most men, he is the reason I will never date again and now he is the reason I hate him I mean I know we should hate the sin and love the sinner but I don't feel that in my heart towards this guy, I genuinely hate him. He is one of those who tries so hard to look good in front of others and some people don't see the evil jerk he really is, but my close friends know all about him and know how much of a jerk he really is. I hope that everyone will get to see the jerk that he is I PRAY at least, he is SO much a wolf in sheep's skin well a wolf using sheepish words! NO JOKE I hate everything about this man, HE IS A JERK!
PLEASE I don't need harsh words towards me about this cause I ALREADY KNOW that Hate is NOT of God.
Please, I just need prayers to learn to not hate ANYONE!
Another person I can't stand to the core is my mother, she wants nothing to do with me and she thinks I am a loser, her ignoring me says it all, but I don't hate her, thinking of the way she treats me makes me just hate myself!
Thanks for letting me vent.

Hi,

Prayer is one of the best paths to forgiveness. We can't really forgive when we still hate a person though. Pray that the person in question be helped and blessed abundantly. Also pray that the Lord helps you forgive. Do this at least every day. You will find that after a time, your negative feelings will diminish and you'll be heading down the path to forgiveness.

The negative feelings have the potential to hurt others. But one of the people who gets hurt the worst is the one who harbors and cultivates the negative feelings. God bless you.

Faithfully,
CH Sacerdote

 

[ToBeBlessed]

Hi,

Prayer is one of the best paths to forgiveness. We can't really forgive when we still hate a person though. Pray that the person in question be helped and blessed abundantly. Also pray that the Lord helps you forgive. Do this at least every day. You will find that after a time, your negative feelings will diminish and you'll be heading down the path to forgiveness.

The negative feelings have the potential to hurt others. But one of the people who gets hurt the worst is the one who harbors and cultivates the negative feelings. God bless you.

Faithfully,
CH Sacerdote

Good advice. I am going to try to follow this too! We all need to forgive more and bless others more.

 

[aflower4God]

Thank you all for your kind loving words of encouragement and WONDERFUL advice. I have been trying to pray for this guy, slowly but surely. Even though it is hard, but I have been trying to take your advice.
This is what my friends have been telling me, that this guy is a player as he can't just only talk to one woman, he needs the attention of many women to be happy maybe that is why he never married at his age. I even tried to talk to him about how I felt as if he only came to me when he was lonely or bored and that I didn't need that in my life as I have real friends who love me for me and want to spend time with me cause they like me.
Anyway bottom line, thank you so much for your kind words and advice.

 

[brinny]

This may sound odd, but maybe God was protecting you from him and all the misery he would surely bring to you (and anyone else he connects with). Praying that God grants you wisdom, discernment, and extraordinary clarity. Clarity has been a HUGE blessing to me and is a precious gift from God. Praying that He ministers to you as only He can and is a Lifter of your head and brings you through all this with clarity of mind and heart and that you will be able to look back one day and thank your heavenly Father Who steered you away from something that could have been devastating to you, sister in Christ and beloved daughter of the Most High God (((hug)))

 

[aflower4God]

This may sound odd, but maybe God was protecting you from him and all the misery he would surely bring to you (and anyone else he connects with). Praying that God grants you wisdom, discernment, and extraordinary clarity. Clarity has been a HUGE blessing to me and is a precious gift from God. Praying that He ministers to you as only He can and is a Lifter of your head and brings you through all this with clarity of mind and heart and that you will be able to look back one day and thank your heavenly Father Who steered you away from something that could have been devastating to you, sister in Christ and beloved daughter of the Most High God (((hug)))

(((((((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))))))))) sweet sis that doesn't sound odd at all, in fact someone else told me that a while back about that guy. I think God could be speaking through you. Thank you once again sweet sister

 

[brinny]

praise God sister! I KNOW how hard and excruciating it can be when God just closes the door to certain things (including people) we had our hearts set on.....yet in His inexplicable "Shepherding" of us, He steers us away most graciously (even if it does not seem so gracious at the time, but HURTS and kinda crushes us) but when we have looked back we can see what a "pit" that was and that He completely lifted us out of harm's way.....then this verse takes root, cuz He has preserved us yet one mo' time, even if we did not know He was, right then and we may have cried bitter tears throughout the night....but joy comes in the morning, dear heart (((hug)))

 

[aflower4God]

I tried to be Christlike to this guy but he slams it back in my face and rushes me off. I just have to cut him out of my life PERIOD! Cause all this does is fuel up my hatred for him more, I just need to heal. JUST PRAY he leaves me alone forever and ever, he only comes to me when he is bored (text me). Also, I have been taking the advice that Joyce Myer said, sometimes we need to pray for God to close certain doors then other's will open, YES I have been praying for the door of this awful toxic guy to be closed and FOREVER! This guy has made me really dislike men and the idea of ever getting married and or falling in love UGGGG I am SO GLAD that I look nothing like society as I don't have to worry about guys like this JERK ever asking me out, most guys wouldn't ask me out in that case, PRAISE GOD for that. It is a blessing to be ugly, not playing hard to get, not a flirt and not have a high GPA, NO MEN in my life!

 

[brinny]

You are a daughter of the Most High, precious. TRUST God to get you through this and to enable you to see clearly how beyond-measure you are precious to your heavenly Father. Praying that He ministers to you as only He can and is the Lifter of your head. Father may it b e so, in Jesus name, amen (((hug)))

 

[aflower4God]

Thank you sweet sis!
He may have dumped me cause I am boring "I don't have much to talk about cause I don't have kids or a high GPA" but he is so busy trying to keep up with society even at his age! :O

 

[Cardiffgurl21]

I also struggle with forgiveness so hugs. I also had an ex like yours before i met my husband who even though i've been with the love of my life for nearly 7 years I still have moments of hating him. I ricochet from feeling sorry for him and wanting to invite him to church to hating him and saying unkind things. I think the only way to forgive is distance to just geographically but also emotionally. My advice is don't check up on him online (I am such an fb stalker and he gets me sooo angry) and ban yourself from thinking about him, if you start to think say a pray or think something positive. It's very hard but I had a moment of that was over 7 years ago and i'm still thinking about it with thanks to social networks and my own mind set and I had to stop. That guy isn't wasting precious energy on you. Sometimes keeping busy helps, maybe getting more involved in your church more or some kind of hobby or career progression. When I start to hate others it's sometimes because i am unhappy in my own life and want to focus it on them. God Bless you sweetie.

 

[aflower4God]

I also struggle with forgiveness so hugs. I also had an ex like yours before i met my husband who even though i've been with the love of my life for nearly 7 years I still have moments of hating him. I ricochet from feeling sorry for him and wanting to invite him to church to hating him and saying unkind things. I think the only way to forgive is distance to just geographically but also emotionally. My advice is don't check up on him online (I am such an fb stalker and he gets me sooo angry) and ban yourself from thinking about him, if you start to think say a pray or think something positive. It's very hard but I had a moment of that was over 7 years ago and i'm still thinking about it with thanks to social networks and my own mind set and I had to stop. That guy isn't wasting precious energy on you. Sometimes keeping busy helps, maybe getting more involved in your church more or some kind of hobby or career progression. When I start to hate others it's sometimes because i am unhappy in my own life and want to focus it on them. God Bless you sweetie.

Awww I am SO VERY sorry that this happened to you sweet sis, and thank you for your kind and awesome advice. Praise GOD that he doesn't have FB or I would have had to delete my account. I will be praying for you sweet sis that your heart recovers as well .