Strong-willed/discipline books?

[SimplyComplex]

Does anyone have any recommendations for books or websites on strong-willed children and discipline? I know Dobson has some out but I need specific recommendations.

DD is definitely strong willed. Been having problems with back-talk and now giving us ultimatums.

Thanks in advance.

 

[clep]

I will look up the book that I have. I am not a Dobson fan really. I think some of his concepts are great, but others that may invite the fight.

How old is your child?

 

[brinny]

An excellent, practical book is called "Have A New Kid By Friday" by a Christian Dr named Dr. Kevin Leman

(sorry, i had his name spelled wrong...fixed it)

 

[Robinsegg]

Another I can recommend is "Aaron's Way: the Journey of a Strong-willed Child". It's written by the mother of a strongwilled son . . . and the now-adult son, so you get both perspectives on what does/doesn't work.

Rachel

 

[clep]

Sorry I have a library of parenting books so I couldn't remember what the name of the one I was thinking of, only the content. I looked it up and it is called "Making Children Mind without Losing Yours: Dr Kevin Leman".

Hope it helps and things are going well for your family.

 

[suzybeezy]

As the parent of a strong willed child, I can say there hasn't been a book written that helped except the Bible. I had to rely heavily on prayer and listening to how God directed us when it came to her.

 

[Jilly123]

"How to talk so your kids will listen and Listen so your kids will talk" by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlich

"Raising your Spirited Child" by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka

 

[lucypevensie]

I'd second the Kevin Leman book already recommended^^^.

 

[Prisca982]

I'd second Suzybeezy's comment. My DS is only 2 and already manifests an astonishing will! Meditating on God and how he has parented me over the years has taught me more than all my parenting manuals together.
Plus, each child is an individual - I pick and choose advice from different manuals but ultimately it has to match up to God's behaviour.

Ask other parents at your church as well.

The best lesson I've ever learned is that our goal as parents is not to have perfect children, but to teach them the grace of God. Pray, pray, pray!!!

 

[Stan53]

now giving us ultimatums.

Try this one. "Call Her Bluff", author SimplyComplex. It's the one you are going to write.
If she gives you an ultimatum, tell her to go for it. I remember many years ago my younger brother and niece told my mother that if she didn't do what they wanted that they would run away from home. She helped them pack their bags. Needless to say they had second thoughts when confronted with the reality of what they were going to do.

 

[clep]

Try this one. "Call Her Bluff", author SimplyComplex. It's the one you are going to write.
If she gives you an ultimatum, tell her to go for it. I remember many years ago my younger brother and niece told my mother that if she didn't do what they wanted that they would run away from home. She helped them pack their bags. Needless to say they had second thoughts when confronted with the reality of what they were going to do.

Yes I agree with this completely. I like how my mom did it. She told me she was going to be really sad without me and that I would have to pack by myself. She asked me to make sure to give her a kiss and a hug before I left and went about her housework.

I made it about a block down the country farm road we lived on before I turned back for home.

When my son provides me ultimatums I just gently tell him the ultimatum isn't changing my decision and to do whatever he feels he needs to for himself. He backs down pretty quickly.