Stressed

[lacrosee16]

Hello Everyone,

I really need someone to talk to. I am feeling really stressed right now. I just graduated in May. I am waiting for my lease to be up until I go back home to live with my parents. I am getting so stressed about going, they are emotional abusive and everytime I think about it I feel like I am going to throw up. When I am at home with them I feel like my soul is broken. I really don't have any close friends or anyone that really understands what I am going through. I can't find a job, which is really stressing me out becasue I don't even want to think about what my dad is going to say about that. He will probably just scream at me until he loses his voice. I really don't have an outlet, I feel tired, constantly. My dad has been writing me really nasty emails and leaving me mean phone messages. I never respond but it is just so immaute and annoying. He is constatly trying to manipulate me and tries to make me feel guilty. I really have no place to go or any money so I am stuck with them. I just needed some advice if anyone has any. Thanks!

 

[tapero]

Hi Lacrosee,

I'm sorry for the stress you are under. I know what it feels like not to want to go home. If I was you I would take everything to God in prayer; every insult, every belittlement; keep bringing it to God. He's our only way to make it through the hard times. I pray for a job for you. God bless you friend, Tapero

 

[goldenviolet]

i'm sorry you feel so nervous. is there things you need to forgive or get past?

you are older and wiser this year. your parents and you have a new shot at the family scene. it will be better than before. because you are an adult. any family arrangements of living together is bound to bring upo the past or new issues. stay prayful and focus on managing your life and making plans for your future.
stay involved with your support systems, like here
friends, family, church, surround yourself with support.

trust the Lord who knows what you need, what they need, and the path that you walk along

 

[BLUEEYEANGEL]

Hello Everyone,

I really need someone to talk to. I am feeling really stressed right now. I just graduated in May. I am waiting for my lease to be up until I go back home to live with my parents. I am getting so stressed about going, they are emotional abusive and everytime I think about it I feel like I am going to throw up. When I am at home with them I feel like my soul is broken. I really don't have any close friends or anyone that really understands what I am going through. I can't find a job, which is really stressing me out becasue I don't even want to think about what my dad is going to say about that. He will probably just scream at me until he loses his voice. I really don't have an outlet, I feel tired, constantly. My dad has been writing me really nasty emails and leaving me mean phone messages. I never respond but it is just so immaute and annoying. He is constatly trying to manipulate me and tries to make me feel guilty. I really have no place to go or any money so I am stuck with them. I just needed some advice if anyone has any. Thanks!

I will be praying hun for you.
Is your folks children of God?
Feel free to PM me if you nned to talk.
My heart is burden for you on this matter.

 

[Anti Existance]

My advice is this , you are 22 you are an adult , do yourself a favour and go live on your own. Grab a few dimes rent a temporarily place, then go work-live there, and from there build up a future for yourself.

 

[lacrosee16]

I can't live on my own, I have no money. I am at school right now paying off the rest of my rent. I don't have any friends that I could live with. Last week I just got my grandmother's old car. This is my first car in my life, that is why it has been so hard to find a job. I was paying for my college and everything. I have so many loans to pay off and so many other things. I can barely afford this car. My dad is taking my cell phone back at the end of aug (we have the family plan). They offer no support or any help at all. They go to chuch but I would not call them children of God ( I have begged them to go to family counselling, they just won't go) They are impossible. They are doing everything they can do that Iwill have to move home so that I can cook and clean and do everything for them (it is not like they are elderly either, just controlling). They won't hand over the documents I need to basiclly be on my own. I am applying to pharm school, but they aren't helping me with anything, in fact they are doing everything they can so that I won't get in or can't go. Just so many things I could go on and on and on. This morning I got up and I felt so sick. I really don't know what to do and it is scary becasue I don't have anyone to talk to except you guys. Well, thanks for listening!

 

[Mr.Cheese]

You would be surprised at what you can accomplish by yourself if you try. Maybe you can't do anything at this very second. But decide that in a given amount of time you are going to get out of there and then make it happen. You can do it. It might not be pretty, but you can do it. They might have been telling you all your life that you can't, but I know you can.

 

[eccl12.13]

Hello Everyone,

I really need someone to talk to. I am feeling really stressed right now. I just graduated in May. I am waiting for my lease to be up until I go back home to live with my parents. I am getting so stressed about going, they are emotional abusive and everytime I think about it I feel like I am going to throw up. When I am at home with them I feel like my soul is broken. I really don't have any close friends or anyone that really understands what I am going through. I can't find a job, which is really stressing me out becasue I don't even want to think about what my dad is going to say about that. He will probably just scream at me until he loses his voice. I really don't have an outlet, I feel tired, constantly. My dad has been writing me really nasty emails and leaving me mean phone messages. I never respond but it is just so immaute and annoying. He is constatly trying to manipulate me and tries to make me feel guilty. I really have no place to go or any money so I am stuck with them. I just needed some advice if anyone has any. Thanks!

lacrossee, i know just what you're dealing with. i only just moved out of my parents' place three months ago and while it was such a giant relief, the memories of living there are still very vivid. the difference between my parents and your's, though, is that they were subtle about being controlling and holding me back. nothing was ever done or said out in the open, it was all done under the table and i always felt like there was this giant consperacy going on against me behind my back. in april i took a leap and made a jump for it and it's been a hard time being out on my own for the first time, but i'm so grateful for it. the challenges i now face seem so little, sometimes, compared to what life was back there.

it took me about two months to find a job and i was turned down at so many places it isn't funny. that was really discouraging so i know how it feels to not be able to find employment and yet need it so badly. i just enrolled for college, too, so now that is an added challenge. i don't feel very smart so i am worried constantly about failing grades and not being able to transfer for my degree. life is frustrating right now and i can't always see the light at the end of the tunnel. but i can assure you that if you work your b***end off and think of nothing more but getting yourself a job and moving out on your own you'll do be better off. don't let yourself focus on the negative interactions with your parents or on their efforts to control you and your life; set goals in your head and work toward them like mad. know that god has a perfect plan for your life and it's up to you to work toward and pursue that.

you're lucky you have a car, even if you only just got it. i'm without one. so you do have something going for you so just remember that while it could be better it could also be worse. god will help you and give you strength as you ask him for it. don't let your debt weigh you down .... start with the managable stuff like getting the job and then you can build from there.

you can do this! if you need to talk one to one, pm me any time.