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My life is so stressful right now. I feel like I'm drowning in schoolwork. Not being able to go to the YMCA at least three times a week makes me feel like a fat and lazy pig. I'm scared I've stopped losing weight. I'm worried about my finances and not having enough money to pull through. I'm worried about my future. My epilepsy is frustrating me. I'm fighting for disability but haven't gotten the chance to call Social Security and find out what's going on as far as going to court. I can't remember anything. I'm worried I'll fail the math portion of the GQE again. I'm scared I won't graduate. I'm scared that I won't be able to lead a decent life. I'm scared I'll end up being dependent on my mother forever... and that's the last thing I want. Maintaining a relationship with Jeremy is challenging because of all this... :sigh: I just wish I were normal! I'm mad that I can only handle a certain amount of things at one time. I wish I were more powerful and could just wipe my slate clean...

But the only thing I can do is lift this to the Lord continue living life one day at a time. I pray that the LORD will help me through my struggles. I pray He takes these burdens from me and encourages me through my struggles.

I'm growing up; the clock is ticking and there's not a thing I can do to stop it. I'm just afraid that I'm not taking enough action... but what more can I do?

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My life is so stressful right now. I feel like I'm drowning in schoolwork. Not being able to go to the YMCA at least three times a week makes me feel like a fat and lazy pig. I'm scared I've stopped losing weight. I'm worried about my finances and not having enough money to pull through. I'm worried about my future. My epilepsy is frustrating me. I'm fighting for disability but haven't gotten the chance to call Social Security and find out what's going on as far as going to court. I can't remember anything. I'm worried I'll fail the math portion of the GQE again. I'm scared I won't graduate. I'm scared that I won't be able to lead a decent life. I'm scared I'll end up being dependent on my mother forever... and that's the last thing I want. Maintaining a relationship with Jeremy is challenging because of all this... :sigh: I just wish I were normal! I'm mad that I can only handle a certain amount of things at one time. I wish I were more powerful and could just wipe my slate clean...

But the only thing I can do is lift this to the Lord continue living life one day at a time. I pray that the LORD will help me through my struggles. I pray He takes these burdens from me and encourages me through my struggles.

I'm growing up; the clock is ticking and there's not a thing I can do to stop it. I'm just afraid that I'm not taking enough action... but what more can I do?

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Hello

You say that you are turning it over to the Lord, but are you really? The reason I ask this is because when you really turn it over to God, it brings peace. Saying you turn it over and really turning it over are two different things.

What it takes to totally turn your problems over to Him is trust and faith. You MUST trust him with your very life, and when you do that, it allows Him to move in your life. You MUST have complete faith in His desire and ability to supply your every need.

If you trust me, I can help you turn things around and get joy and peace back into your life.

First, sit and talk to him quietly and tell him what your hearts desire is.

Now, say this prayer. Say it slowly and think about it as you say it. You must believe it in your entire being.

Most Heavenly Father, Today, I give you myself to you 100% mind, body and spirit. I make a committment to, from this day forward, to live to be a blessing to you.
I trust you with my very life and I lay myself in your hands so that you may work your miracles for me. I have complete faith in your desire and ability to supply my every need. Sweet Lord, I have reached a conclusion that I am helpless and can not make it without you. You are all I have, and all that I can depend on. As I sit here, in your hands, I know that you will not let me fall. Please fill me with your spirit that I may hear the Holy Spirit, and through the Holy Spirit, I may hear what your will for my life is.
I commit from this day forward to be your loving child. I ask you to be my loving father that we may become one in spirit. I love you, I trust you and I have faith in You.
Thank You, in advance, for lifting me out of dispair and giving me joy and peace. I pray this in the name of Jesus, Amen!

Now live for him and everytime you think of him, tell him that you love him. Joy and peace will come in the morning.

When you start thinking those negative thoughts, just remember these famous words: "Let not your heart be troubled".
 
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Prayer is certainly a great way to start dealing with stress.

I think there are some practical things you can do to help sort out priorities. Modern day life is SO good at pulling us in 101 directions.... it tells you you've got to have the perfect house, and car, and job,and relationship, and be working full time, and parenting, and studying, and travelling, and of course, being perfectly happy and super-fit while doing all this.... sometimes modern life just needs to be put into its place, and you have to take charge of your priorities, under the guidance of a God who can wait 40 years while He leads His people in the desert.

Only you can set your priorities... for many education would be first since you don't always get another crack at the whip. For others health is a clear priority - maybe ask is your fitness endangering your life, or is it cosmetic, and fuelled by a society that glorifies being perfect? (If so, tell society it can wait while you do other things!) SOme would say relationships are number 1, and maybe if you are married and its on the rocks, this should shfit up the priorities. If its more light hearted maybe ask whether itis fun you are seeking, right now or something else...

I recon some time out making your priorities - and examining them in light of God's priorities - might help you know what you should be focusing on and then to take charge. Having a sense that this, or that, is God's will can really help, since then nothing else matters... and this can be part of your 'prayer' - listening to God and what God wants.....
 
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You are the seed that has been sawn by God as Jesus described it , Other seeds fell on ground which also had thorn seedlings. The thorn plants grew so quickly and thickly, the grain seeds could not grow.

Do you understand this parabel? (the thorn plants represent materialistical life problems) , these problems are starting to suffocate the seed , which disables you to grow.

You have to pray to God to (place you back into good soil again) and to cut away the thorn bush problems, which are growing over you and are suffocating you.

I have to ask a favor from you that i am sorry for, but must be done in order to see how meaningless all these things are from Gods point of view of that you have done up till now in your life.

I want you to read the 4 pages near death experience of Reverant Howard storm (who was an atheist before he had his near death experience)

http://www.near-death.com/experiences/storm01.html
http://www.near-death.com/experiences/storm02.html
http://www.near-death.com/experiences/storm03.html
http://www.near-death.com/experiences/storm04.html

Read these four pages, you need it.

 
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Stress—the dictionary describes it as "mental, emotional, or physical tension; strain, distress." I would add to that "feeling pressured or upset". It is a condition that most of us are all too familiar with. Everyone is under stress—it is a normal part of everyday life, and none of us can get through a day without experiencing it in one way or another.
We live in a fast-paced world that seems to be placing more demands on us with each passing year. People are hurrying everywhere—and often they are rude and short-tempered. Many people are experiencing financial stress, marital stress, and the stress of raising children. There is mental stress on the job, and often, physical stress caused from overwork. Many times, this stressful lifestyle causes health problems, which only adds more stress.
Our bodies were created by God to withstand a certain amount of stress, but when we push ourselves beyond our limitations, then we begin to experience problems. Are you pushing yourself too hard? Many people today are living in a perpetual state of overload—literally on the verge of collapse. They just keep stretching themselves to the limit like a rubber band...until one day they SNAP.
It seems that the very atmosphere or the world is charged with stress and pressure. But the good news is that, as Christians, although we may be in the world, according to John 17, we are not of the world. We don't have to operate on the world's system, reacting like the world. Our attitude and approach should be entirely different. The world responds to difficulties by being upset, but Jesus said in John 14:27 that we should stop allowing ourselves to be agitated, disturbed, and upset.
This verse indicates that we need to have a change of attitude. I have noticed that the right attitude and approach to a situation can completely turn a situation around. If I approach something in dread, I am setting myself up for misery before I begin because dread creates stress. But if I refuse to dread or have a negative outlook, I open the door for God to work supernaturally and help me. The choice is mine.
Jesus didn't promise that we would never have to deal with stressful situations. In John 16:33, He said, ...In the world you have tribulation and trials and distress and frustration; but be of good cheer [take courage; be confident, certain, undaunted! For I have overcome the world. [I have deprived it of power to harm you and have conquered it for you.] This verse teaches that we don't have to react to stress the way the world does. Because Jesus has deprived the world of its power to harm us, we should be able to approach the challenges we face in life in a calm and confident manner.
Luke 10:19 says, Behold! I have given you authority and power to trample upon serpents and scorpions, and [physical and mental strength and ability] over all the power that the enemy [possesses]; and nothing shall in any way harm you. Here Jesus is telling us that He has equipped us to overcome the world's system. Even though we will be faced with trying and stressful situations that will not always be easy to handle, He assures us that nothing can defeat us if we handle things the right way—His way!
An important factor in enjoying a peaceful, stress-free life is to learn to be obedient to the Lord. Following the leading of the Holy Spirit in obedience will always lead you into peace. He will never lead you into stress, because He is the Prince of Peace. Common sense tells us that God is not going to stress us out and lead us to do more than we can do—we often do that ourselves.
It is so important not overcommit ourselves. Do you have too much to do? This seems to be the number one complaint I hear today. "There is just too much to do and not enough time to do it all." This is often the result of not saying "no" often enough. Sometimes we say "yes" and commit ourselves to doing something that we really don't want or need to be doing. We take it on just to keep other people happy. We really need to be careful in this area. We need to be sure that our mouth is not saying "yes", when our heart is saying "no".
We also need to be sure that we're not overextending ourselves by trying to do too many things that we want to do—whether it's a part of God's plan for us or not. If we are doing something He has not approved, He is under no obligation to give us the energy to do it. I believe one of the major reasons why many people are stressed and burned out is because they are going their own way instead of following God's plan. We need to follow the leading of the Spirit as to what we are to be involved in and where we are to use our energy. We must learn to say "yes" when He says "yes" and "no" when He says "no. When we" are obedient to His leading, we will be able to accomplish what He gives us to do and walk in peace.
To be honest, we are not really that capable of running our own lives. That is why Jesus sent the Holy Spirit to lead, guide, and direct us. Romans 8 says we are to be led by the "prompting" of the Spirit. I can remember numerous times when I was tired and the Holy Spirit prompted me to rest, however I would continue to push myself to go out or to have company. Then I would end up exhausted, instead of just being tired. As you know, exhausted people usually get grouchy and impatient, which I became. And this often caused strife in our home ... which even led to more stress. If I had been obedient to the prompting of the Spirit, the entire problem could have been avoided. Obedience is exalting Jesus above our own natural, selfish desires. Are you exhausted ...or is Jesus exalted? I really believe obedience is the key to victorious, healthy, happy and peaceful living.
Another important lesson I've learned is "to bend so I will not break." The Bible says, ...readily adjust yourself to [people, things]and.. if possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone (Romans 12:16, 18). Before I made the Word of God a priority in my life and decided to live an obedient life, I had to have my own way. I was not adaptable. I wanted everyone else to adapt to me. Of course, that resulted in more strife and stress. I have now learned to bend. it is not always easy on the flesh to give in and do things differently than we had planned, but it is easier than being upset and miserable.
A prompting is a "knowing" down inside of you that lets you know what you should do. The prophet Elijah referred to it as a "still, small voice". While you may not hear an audible voice, I believe you can sense God's wisdom giving you direction in certain situations.
I remember one time when I had been shopping for several hours, and I was getting very tired. I had only purchased about half of the items I intended to buy, so I kept pressing on. I heard the prompting of the Spirit within me telling me to stop and go home, but because I hadn't accomplished my goal, I didn't do it. Even though the other things I intended to get were not immediate needs, I didn't want to leave until I had accomplished the goal I had set for myself. As I pushed myself beyond the point of being tired, it became difficult for me to think clearly. And then I began to be impatient with other people. Even after I finally went home, I was out of sorts, and it affected my time with my family.
If I had obeyed the prompting of the Spirit and gone home to rest and relieve the stress, I would have felt so much better and the situation at home would have been much more pleasant. We can avoid many stressful situations simply by obeying the Holy Spirit's prompting.
Burnout comes from physical and emotional exhaustion, especially as a result of long-term stress. When stress depletes our body, our immune system becomes weak and sickness (even depression) can set in. Signs of burnout include; extreme fatigue, headaches, insomnia, gastrointestinal problems, tensions. Other manifestations may also be; nerves tied in knots, unable to relax, and the doctor can't find anything wrong. Emotional exhaustion (crying easily), anger, negativity, irritability, depression, cynicism, and bitterness about the blessings of others can still be considered as burnout syndrome.
Burnout causes you to be "out of control" and no longer producing good fruit. Ignoring God's laws causes burnout. You cannot overwork your mind, emotions, or your body and not eventually pay the price for excessive abuse.
Whose pace are you moving at? Are you keeping the pace God has set for you or someone else's pace? Are you stressed out from trying to keep up with everyone else? Are you living under the stress of competition and comparison? Are you a perfectionist with unrealistic goals?
I believe we can live stress-free in a stressful world, but it will require some decisions, which can possibly be radical. Allow God's Spirit to lead you out of a stressful lifestyle and into one of peace and joy. Respect your body. Treat good health and feeling good as a valuable gift. Do not waste the energy God has given you on stress. Save it for living and enjoying life.
Here are some wise instructions from God's Word to make the practice of peace a part of your everyday life. First of all, Be still! Hush. Stop all the rushing around. Psalm 46:10 says, Be still, and know that I am God. (KJV). The creator of the universe wants a word with you, but how can He really talk to you if you're always on the go? Chill and listen!
Second, prepare your heart to receive from Him—to hear His voice on a regular basis. oh, that they had such a [mind and] heart in them always [reverently] to fear Me and keep; all My commandments, that it might go well with them and with their children forever! (Deuteronomy 5:29). Can you hear the earnestness in God's voice as He makes that statement? Finally, acknowledge Him in everything you do. Make it a lifestyle to be identified with Jesus Christ and faithfully be a doer of the Word. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:7, KJV).
 
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eyeliv4God said:
My life is so stressful right now. I feel like I'm drowning in schoolwork. Not being able to go to the YMCA at least three times a week makes me feel like a fat and lazy pig. I'm scared I've stopped losing weight. I'm worried about my finances and not having enough money to pull through. I'm worried about my future. My epilepsy is frustrating me. I'm fighting for disability but haven't gotten the chance to call Social Security and find out what's going on as far as going to court. I can't remember anything. I'm worried I'll fail the math portion of the GQE again. I'm scared I won't graduate. I'm scared that I won't be able to lead a decent life. I'm scared I'll end up being dependent on my mother forever... and that's the last thing I want. Maintaining a relationship with Jeremy is challenging because of all this... :sigh: I just wish I were normal! I'm mad that I can only handle a certain amount of things at one time. I wish I were more powerful and could just wipe my slate clean...

But the only thing I can do is lift this to the Lord continue living life one day at a time. I pray that the LORD will help me through my struggles. I pray He takes these burdens from me and encourages me through my struggles.

I'm growing up; the clock is ticking and there's not a thing I can do to stop it. I'm just afraid that I'm not taking enough action... but what more can I do?

:help:

the bible says what you ask god for you already have if you have faith & if you ask to ask in jesus' name

dont look too far ahead. set yourself a real goal for tommorow or a week that you can realisticaly achieve.
do things step by step

eat well
rest well & ensure you get a good nights sleep every night for your energy level

chose a healthy lifestyle that is not to "strainewous" step by step,walking, pastime sport, etc. & enjoy it.

drink water

rest enough

believe in jesus & read the bible.
 
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