Strange cause for arousal?

[Fivesenses]

Is it normal for my bf to be aroused around me even when we are not necessarily touching (and in public)? I can understand that kissing or touching in certain ways can cause arousal in men so we don't kiss or touch in any way that can make things worse.

Apparently, arousal sometimes happens when he sees me (he loves my face and figure but I don't ever dress in a provocative or revealing way) or when he gives me a hug (but we do stop when he finds it too much). There's a few times when he actually had to physically remove himself and "flee" and we aren't even alone or doing anything inappropriate. He's in his late 20s/early 30 so it strikes me as a bit surprising since I thought younger men struggle with this more and I heard it is suppose to tame down as they age? He never had a problem with pornography or any sexual past issues. Does this indicate that he might have a high libido or is it because we are going too far (but then I can't really help the fact that he sees me)? It has apparently intensified for him as time went by. It baffles me a bit because I always felt like I had a stronger libido but even then, I hardly get aroused just by seeing him (but of course I find him physically attractive) or a quick hug.

 

[Darkhorse]

If I may, let be hazard a guess. It's based on long experience dealing with such situations and a knowledge of biochemistry; hopefully, you won't find it offensive.

Does your boyfriend have an acute sense of smell? Does he notice scents that others don't? Does he really get into the flavors of food?
If so, he may be smelling changes in your pheromones that signal when you ovulate.

If this is the case, he probably won't be consciously aware of the scent, but he will "feel the effects" and experience higher arousal about halfway between your periods.

This isn't a matter of cleanliness or hygiene on your part. Pheromones can be carried in your breath and elsewhere. Even if there is no connection to your cycle, he may be picking up subtle scents that indicate you are a fertile female, and...nature takes over.

 

[evoeth]

he loves my face and figure but I don't ever dress in a provocative or revealing way

Your mistake lies in assuming that 'provocative' and 'revealing' are objective. They are subjective.

 

[Fivesenses]

I see... I think it can be subjective but I've asked him about my attire to double check and he said I'm very modest in the way I dress and present myself? I actually didn't know about the scent thing so very interesting to gain some new insight.

 

[stan783]

Men are biologically wired to be aesthetically turned on. Doesn't necessarily need to do with revealing clothing or anything. Some guys like the innocent look, faces, eyes. But generally its some kind of physical thing.

 

[Goatee]

Nothing wrong in how your BF reacts. It is normal as some men get aroused extremely quickly. One of my mates is over 50 and he gets aroused just like your BF. His libido is as strong now as when he was a teenager he said.

I have a very strong libido too and i am past 50 also. We are all different. Dont make him feel as though there is something wrong with him.

 

[SnowyMacie]

That sounds perfectly normal to me.

 

[dayhiker]

I once was in a group of 70 people of both sexes. We were asked if we had ever been conscious of being aroused when we had no idea why we were. Almost ever raised their hand.

We can get aroused for reasons and it can just happen for no conscious reason. So I'm with those who who view it as just part of life.