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Stories of how you and your spouse met

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Ooooh story time ^_^

Well, first, God didn't lead me to my spouse. I had to work to find him myself ;)

I met him on craigslist personals. It was just after my first marriage had failed, and I was on craigslist looking for an apartment within my budget because I was having money trouble, and I was bored so I decided to stray into the personals section just for a laugh.. because honestly all the personals there are a pretty big joke most of the time. But I came across his ad, and it was appealing and well-worded, so I went ahead and emailed him.

He got back to me and we chatted for a couple of hours on MSN, and we decided that I'd go and meet him that night, so I hopped on a bus and went over to his place (Neither of us had a car at this point), and we had a great night watching MST3k (Mystery Science Theater 3000) and just getting to know each other. I was pretty interested in him from the start but I've always been bad at picking up signs and signals from men.. luckily he saved me the trouble and he kissed me :blush: and things kinda took off from there :)

A few weeks later he offered to let me stay with him while I looked for an affordable apartment, because my current living situation was just unacceptable. So I moved in with him which was supposed to be temporary -- while I was there, we started dating.

I did find the apartment I was looking for, and I did move out for a whole.. week or two? lol --But we spent all our time together at his place anyway and we missed each other when we were at our own places since we had just spent a number of weeks being around each other all the time, so in the end we decided it made more sense for me just to live with him and we'd get a car with the money we saved in the process. So I gave up the apartment (after all that time looking for it! haha) and moved back in with him..

.. and to make a long story short, we married a year later! (We were together 7 months when he proposed, and 5 months after that we married)

The end, Happily ever after, and so on and so on. :angel: We make the perfect couple, and we're very happy.
 
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To answer your question, despite going through divorce/separation with my wife, there is a story that involves humbling myself before God and the actual romance that lead to the marriage itself (I am not going to discuss the failure, because it is out of scope of this topic).

I was doing online dating through match.com for many years, even after I was saved. I had a hard time finding a woman in my area who was still an active believer in Christ; most of the profiles that said they were christian were mostly Christmas & Easter types or just raised as a Christian. Most were usually looking for a guy with a particular body type (basically the shallow, I need Orlando Bloom or Vin Diesel types) and sometime mentioning that I was a believer (Christian), they went MIA or into some kind of witness protection program, the honest ones at least told me they weren't interested (fear of rejection goes bye-bye after a while, it stopped bothering me).

After being friends with this one nice agnostic girl (I was trying to date her), I realized that I would never make a good match for a non-believer, because I love God too much, to not be able to pray to him without my spouse. So it became apparent that my current method of dating wasn't working. I talked to my pasture about where would a single christian guy my age (at the time 25) find single christian women around my age, which was hard in the area I live in; basically, he recommended a church not to far from where I live in another city and I pondered about going there. Instead I gave it all to God and stopped dating, and hidden my profile on match.com.

Well to say the least I thought God would take his sweet time, two weeks later I met an attractive brunette with hazel bluish-green eyes at Circuit City. I tried getting her e-mail address after flirting with her a little (and I gave her mine, because I didn't have the guts to ask for her number); she basically threw it out, lol. My friend that was there with me busted on me for not asking for her number. To say the least I kicked myself for two weeks for not getting her number. After another good friend of mine boosted my confidence to ask for her number, I went out determined to get it.

This gets even funnier. I went to Circuit City the same day my friend boosted my confidence, to return something I bought and I noticed her there helping an older couple. I thought to myself, I need to get something as excuse to get in her line; I quickly found Waynes World dvd box set and grabbed that, and prayed real quick to God for his help. Heh, God answered with don't worry I'll take care of it kind of response came to my heart and mind. I went up and started talking to her again and then asked if she would like to meet for a cup of coffee or something (and her number). To say the least she was very hesitent and luckily God overcame that, and a nice older black man (God seems to use black people in my life for good, I don't know why, but I am thankful) who basically encouraged her to give me her number, he was like "Come on your young, come on give him a shot" kind of encouragement. Well as you would expect she did. I was so happy that my confidence cracked and I forgot how to leave the store.

Later that night I was just waking up from a nap to call her and she called me first. Basically we agreed to meet at a local Applebees and had a 4 hour long conversation, and hit it off real quick. We dated for about three or four months before I moved in with her for financial reasons (her brother was sharing a two bedroom apartment with her and left her high and dry with bills and rent to pay, long story). We were engaged about two months later (mid-March 07) and six months later we married; it was a wonderful wedding and a God blessed it.

After that the marriage itself began revealing the truth of the good/bad habits we both had, in which over a year of counseling hasn't helped. We both felt we have rushed into marriage, but I have learned a hard and valuable lesson, don't rush into marriage regardless of how well you get along early in dating. I would recommend at least a year of dating before engagement or marriage, because the first six months are the puppy-love era (infatuated) and the rest is to help give you get a real perspective of how the person is throughout all seasons of the year (I got that from my ex-girlfriend's mom, good advice). Some here may agree or disagree with my assesment, but I think this is way better that finding out major compatibility issues the hard way.

I wish you the best and I hope this shows you to trust in the Lord in all things of your life, even if you have to go through some painful times (like my marriage), because in the end God never wastes a hurt. I learned and gained wisdom from my plight, I hope it helps you.

Also remember, scripture has said "I will never leave you nor forsake you, for I am the Lord your God".
 
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When I was 15 several Air Force guys moved into the house across the street from my parents. I had a huge crush on one of the guys. Another of the guys had a huge crush on my older sister. One night my parents asked the guys out to dinner at the NCO club on base. I sat across from the guy that had a crush on my sister. We talked and we laughed and he finally asked me to dance. It was a slow song. When I went into his arms, I knew I'd love him forever. May God rest his soul. The day was Oct 3, 1981. The song was "Babe I'm leaving".

My sister ended up marrying the other guy. They're still happily married today.
 
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I love to dance, but am not into the drinking/bar/club scene - but I still enjoy going out dancing every so often. I went out dancing with a good friend of mine to my favorite spot near here (which has since closed and turned into a restaurant :() with no intentions other than getting my dance on. :tutu:

I had a few different guys hit on me throughout the evening, but I brushed all of them off. I wasn't interested in meeting a drunk guy in a bar. Towards the end of the evening, two guys walked past and one of them was staring at me rather intensely. My friend pointed him out. I glanced him over (hubba hubba!) but was still resolved that I was ONLY there to dance, so I looked away. He walked past again and my friend grabbed him and started dancing with him - which left me to dance with his friend. The whole time my husband and I were staring at each other. lol The song ended and they walked off.

Another song started and my friend spotted a guy across the dance floor and said she wanted to go dance with him. I stayed where I was and kept dancing. The next thing I knew, my husband was standing next to me and began asking me questions about myself.

We danced/talked for a bit and then he bought me a drink. His friend wanted to leave, so he asked if he could have my number to take me out some time. He had been totally respectful/hands-off the entire time we were dancing/chatting, so I decided to give him my number. I figured he wouldn't call anyway. lol

I got a call from him the very next day, asking me to hang out. We went to a flea market at a marina then walked/talked/sat on the beach for about 3 hours.

My husband is completely atypical when it comes to the stereotype I normally dated. If someone would have told me that we would fall in love and be as compatible as we are when I first laid eyes on him, I would have laughed. But, he is the most amazing man and is truly perfect for me. :)

I almost didn't go on the date to the marina/beach with him, but I had this little voice in my head telling me to go and "take the chance" with this guy. I really feel like that was God "talking" to me and guiding me. I was at a point in my life where I had resolved that I was going to be single for quite some time (I was divorced and had been for about 3 years at that point - and have two young children) and that I was just going to focus on my relationship with God and my sons.
 
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I was living a very unsaved life at the time. However I had promised myself that week even, the next guy i was with would have to be in a committed situation. A couple of days later, I met my husband at a mutual male friends house. He ended up inviting me for a spa pool (which happened to be at the house we met at!)...and he stayed with me from that day on...we moved various times after that, including countries for a while...had 3 kids, i then rededicated my life to God, so we got married and had more kids :D
 
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When I was 15 several Air Force guys moved into the house across the street from my parents. I had a huge crush on one of the guys. Another of the guys had a huge crush on my older sister. One night my parents asked the guys out to dinner at the NCO club on base. I sat across from the guy that had a crush on my sister. We talked and we laughed and he finally asked me to dance. It was a slow song. When I went into his arms, I knew I'd love him forever. May God rest his soul. The day was Oct 3, 1981. The song was "Babe I'm leaving".

My sister ended up marrying the other guy. They're still happily married today.
That was beautifully written and made me cry. May I ask how he passed?
 
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At 13, I was about as anti-dating as a girl could get. It was stupid, shallow and ridiculous to be dating someone at 13 years old. My parents switched churches and he walked in. I though to myself, very matter-if-factly, "I'm going to end up marrying someone like him".
We started car pooling to youth group together, and hanging out at school together a little bit. I realized that it wasn't a guy like him, but him who I was supposed to marry. It was clear as day. I didn't push it, but was confident. Eventually, he saw it to. At 14, we started "dating". At first it was an exclusive get-to-know-each-other thing, and we decided the minute we didn't think we were meant for each other for the long hall we would break it off. That moment didn't come. At 15 we decided we were getting married, and waited for God's timing.
At 18, I was engaged and 19 married. 3 and a half years later, still happy. Still in the newly wed phase but we've been together for 9 years overall. Love him to pieces :)
 
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I was 22 at the time and the church I went to didn't have any other young people my age so when my brother started an 18-30 group at his church I decided to go along. I met my husband there but at the time he was going out with someone else and I was still getting over an ex that I had an on/off relationship with since I was 17.
We saw each other quite a bit but there wasn't anything there apart from a mutual thinking each other was good looking. He broke up with his girlfriend (nothing to do with me) and about 6 weeks later we were asked to meet up together along with another girl to work out the social programme of the group. After it had finished I took the other girl home but then went back to his. That was a kind of if you come back I know you're interested. At the end of the evening he asked me out and I said no. I explained that I still gad feelings for an ex and needed to sort them out. We spent time together over and he asked me out again - I said no again. I didn't wantto start a relationship that I knew would be serious while I still had issues. By the end of another few days I knew my husband was right for me so we started offically dating. That was the end of august -14 months later we got engaged and 19 months later we got married and we've been married for nearly 6 years
 
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Well, in second grade there was this boy named Jason playing tag with a boy in my class. I asked if I could play and they said yes. We played tag for nearly a whole year, were in the same class in fourth grade, and then at twelve started attending the same church. We knew eachother for quite a few years before my family left that church for some major problems with the Pastor. A few years later we went back, since it was too expensive to drive to the church we really wanted to attend.

A few months later I went to Boot Camp, and five months later came home with stress fractures. I dated 3 guys in about a six month time period(what was I thinking?!), and finally we both decided, "We've known each other forever...why not date?" Our first date came and I knew I'd be with him for the rest of my life. We dated for 7 months, were engaged for 3 months, and have been married for nearly eight months.

But we met in second grade.
 
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My wife and I met at an Amway meeting. We've both always been entrepreneurs and I was in the Air Force at the time and we had this big regional meeting. She was dating another guy at the time and I hadn't yet become a Christian, but I knew shortly afterwords that we were going to be married some day.

It was really weird: I heard a voice in my head (that I'd never heard before) telling me to be pure and to not "fool around with her," because we were to be together. I didn't understand it at the time, but it proved to be true.

On our first date we had a chaperone, because I guess she didn't know what to think of me. Fast forward 18 years, and we're still happily married, but no longer in Amway.
 
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I had been single for over 7 years... no one serious in that time... bored one day and decided to take up the "one week free" offer on 'One and Only' matchmaking internet service. Wrote cryptically what I wanted and didn't want in a man... dead serious.. a guy responded saying I described him to a T. We conversed first by emails, months and days went by, lots of emails, then phone calls, but that got expensive quick as we lived 7 hours apart. Decided to meet to see if it was worth all this trouble and expense in neutral grounds with an agreement it was only for a "look see". It was an amazing match. We agreed to meet again... He proposed, and six months later we were wed. Still amazing match after 10 years.
 
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Yeah, when my wife and I were first dating, long before marriage, we had humongous phone bills. I remember our first two conversations fondly, we talked at first for about 7 hours, the second time about 5 1/2.

After getting a $600 phone bill, we decided it might be better road-trippin it, so we took turns going to see each other: she lived in Annapolis, I lived at Fort Meade.
 
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I still love this thread. :)

Me too! I wish more people would share their stories.

It's funny, as I look back on my last post & recall those super long (& expensive) conversations by phone and fast forward to now, I'm amazed at how things have changed.

My wife is my best friend and we talk about everything under the sun.

However, some of the greatest times are just sitting together on the couch: doing nothing, saying nothing, just enjoying each other's company.

Anyone else have an update they'd like to share about how they met or how they enjoy spending time together?
 
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