That gets me confused as welll..which version is the correct one??? What if i choose the wrong side????
Jesus taught (in Matthew chapters 5-7) His Sermon on the Mount, including the Beattitude (Be These Attitudes: that's how I think of it), and essentially, core gospel to me, was His saying there are Two Great Commandments: To love God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength, and the second was To Love Your Neighbor As Yourself.
I accepted Christ as my Savior when I was 8, and I am now 52. In between I was often as you list yourself 'confused' because a lot of fellow Christians had a whole lot of interpretations and opinions and even ugly attitudes they justified by quoting Scripture.
Whenever I got discouraged or felt despair (which included when I was reading other parts of the Bible) I would turn to Jesus' Sermon on the Mount, and it never failed, that I recall, to point me back in the direction, the basics, that I could work to put into practice--not because 'works' would save me, but because 'Be These Attitudes' meant a day-by-day struggle to obey God (The Father as Origin, the Son as The Word and the Holy Spirit as Comforter).
I still come back to 'Be These Attitudes'. And I pray daily, first thing in the morning, whenever I get off track throughout the day, and of course 'on purpose', you know, as often as possible...
With that in mind, if you pray to God for Guidance and tell Him you are confused and ask for His help, He is all-loving so of course He will answer you, and 'as you listen' and as you grow in Him, you will 'super-naturally' more and more align your Will with His:
You'll experience 'putting away the old man and putting on the new' as Paul writes... And you will 'be those attitudes', or 'become' them, so you'll feel, as you listen to such and such or watch this and that... whether or not it draws you closer to God and obeying Jesus' commandments concerning 'Loving God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength' and 'love your neighbor as yourself', or whether what you look at and listen to and watch, et cetera pulls you away and down into what I think of as 'the natural, low-life of man' (which includes woman).
It's the faith, hope and charity: Faith in Jesus as Redeemer for your sins; hope in Eternal Life if you remain faithful; and charity supernaturally follows: You will begin to love God more and more, and find that loving your neighbor 'as yourself' will mean that the real, deep, righteous love God wants for you, well, you'll start treating yourself that way and it will extend to others.
I'm saying, there is no formula, no rigid book of rules that will lay out exactly how it (Having faith, hope and charity) will 'be' or 'become' for you because you are God's unique child as well as a part (or someone seeking to become a part) of God's Community of Believers.
Trust in God's Love for you; pray for His Guidance to help you discern when you are obeying His Will, do what follows from that, and keep on praying to God:
You'll be setting God as your Rock this way, and then the confusion will come less and less as your faith deepens, your hope grows and your love increases.
~ Carolyn
P.S. God My Rock (by Brenton Brown available on YouTube) is an uplifting praise song
