I've been married for just over one year, and my new husband has two kids from two previous relationships (ages 2.5 and 5). They really are wonderful kids and we all get along great, we have 'access' to them every other weekend. Their moms are definately different and I get along fine with the older child's mom really well ie communication. but NOT the younger child's mom. Anyway, that is neither here nor there of my 'problem'. I love the arrangement we have, i have the best of both worlds, meaning, one weekend with the kids and one weekend with my husband. Here's my problem, sometimes we get offered extra weekends with the oldest child (mom is married with another child now) and i have to fight with my husband over this, as I (being selfish?) would like time alone with him. He gets so mad at me for saying this, but HE is the reason I am with him. Yes I knew he had kids, but I liked the arrangement already set in place. I feel like I have to sacrifice my alone time with him often. I'm so upset right now as he just hung up the phone on me as I expressed another future 'offer' was interfering with our time. I honestly don't know what to do. I would rather be alone than be this upset by someone that married ME. Life is too short to be miserable. I am almost thinking of separating over this. If I knew back when we met, what this (my future) had entailed, no matter how wonderful he is. I would have never gotten involved. I've almost given up.
I've asked him to go to counselling with me so he can understand my point of view, but nothing has ever become of that. help?! I need coping skills?
I've asked him to go to counselling with me so he can understand my point of view, but nothing has ever become of that. help?! I need coping skills?