- Jun 5, 2018
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Other step parents...... honestly, do you feel the same about your step children and your own children? When I married their dad, his kids were 18-28 and almost all left home. We see them all often, and are on good terms. They sometimes confide in me or ask advice, but have their own mothers, who I am not trying to replace. We do lots with the grandchildren. I mostly like the grandchildren, at least as much as the children at daycare which is my job.I give my best to everyone, and I thought these feelings were average for me -I am aspergers and struggle with feelings anyhow. A couple of days ago, my own daughter's boyfriend asked for our blessing to marry her. I am startled at how different I feel about this compared to how I have felt about the older kids marriages. I feel somewhat light and happy for her, and hope she will ask for my input into her wedding - with the others I felt much more flat. I feel interested that they might have children and would actually like to be involved, whereas I simply am involved with my grandkids because that is my role and I do it to the best of my ability.Do you feel more positive toward your own children?