I have to ask WHY remarriage always comes up when this subject is approached. That wasn't part of the question, and yet it seems it is something always seem to rush to. It makes no sense to me.
Safety - not speeches on remarriage - is something this individual needs. Healing, and support is what the family needs. If there are children? Finding ways of helping them deal with the trauma. Struggling with loving the person, and yet being very afraid of the person for good reason. There are so many awful and real things that must be addressed.
lol yet, people just have to get that one nugget out about remarriage out there. It's not needed now. People are completely overwhelmed with what they have on their plate, and its just NOT the time to talk about that.
Society - and the church - have for years been so afraid to approach this subject with any reality. There have been so many horror stories on how BADLY they have approached it. I remember years ago John Piper did a
video on this subject, and you could tell how badly he was out of his realm. It was just terrible. It took I think it was 2 year AFTER they took the video down before they addressed the backlash, and even then they did a awful job at it.
What's wrong with ONE step at a time! Safety first, and then work a game plan. It's going to a long haul, and that's just the reality of it. Remarriage is the LAST thing on people's minds. Most want to save their relationship, and yet to many rush ahead to this subject. They don't need the extra stuff - they have enough on their plates.