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It is those who are sick that need a doctor
and or medical treatment for their health issues.
Like it was said by another on this forum, going to the doctor isn't forbidden but nor are we to
disregard our Lord either, we are to take our
troubles to Him, seek His Help/provision for
what we need in this life.

Just like when Peter's mother in-law was very sick, Jesus didn't barge in and ask does she love him or how much time she spends reading her bible? Jesus understood that Peter's mom was
sick, being not only God in the flesh, He's also is the doctor of all doctors-- our Lord gave her the
right medicine and Peter's mom got well immediately and waited on her houseguests.

One healed...
The Pool at Bethesda, the Lord healed one person there, according to scripture there
were sick people all over the place.
The Bible shows many people got healed by
the Lord, while some didn't...it is also revealed
in scripture that some illnesses are unto death...
like in the case of Elisha, who prayed to be healed but the Lord revealed it was a sickness unto death. Some illness are due to sin entering
this world, sometimes an illness can be due to
mankind's own neglect or malicious acts--like
when there was food tampering going on and
many people got sick, disabled or died because
of an evil person's act.

We know God is to be sought first in all matters,
we know physicians were sought in the Bible and that Luke (was also a physician, he accompanied Paul on many journeys.)

Paul had a "thorn in the flesh", which wasn't removed by God, even though Paul diligently prayed that it would be removed...God revealed:
“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Paul's response:
"Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me."

Let us remember this also:
2 Corinthians 1:3-5
"Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.
Christ’s sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too."

Are you seeking support from other believers in
your own area? If so....
How is your church family responding to you
as you struggle in your afflictions?

If they don't know...
Gather up your own base of Christian support:
I know from personal experience that showing
support to those who are sick/suffering is important... so who's showing up to help you
bear your burden(s)?
Take part in communion/koinonia with them...
Reflect upon: Philippians 2:1-8
"So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.
Look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. Becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.
 
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Bfine has good advice OP. Aiki has good advice.
But you know what? Get yourself to church and ask elders to lay hands on you and pray for you, or ask them to come to your home.

But i think also you need to take a good look at getting serious at taking God at his Word. Its seems you not and dilly-dallying. This is not a game here...you could die if you dont ask Jesus for help.
 
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Just reading a book called 'dancing through it' by Jenifer Ringer.
Its about a ballet dancer who had this eating disorder. She said when she turned back to God, He healed her.

She was a christian but just being a christian is not meaning you wont be tested or satan not going to afflict you. Its how you deal with it, nobody else can do it for you. When we are open to what God can do, He can make things right. But we have to take his Word for it, and follow the instructions in the Bible.
He does not want you to have this mental illness forever, I can assure you of that. There is a way to be free but its only through Jesus. Go to Him first.

Dont make me an enemy when I tell you the truth.
 
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Let me be clear: If there is an established physiological reason for a person's mental issues, then medical intervention is perfectly appropriate. Hormonal imbalances, vitamin and mineral deficiencies, brain injury, the effect of serious illness (cancer, Parkinson's, Alzheimer's, etc) - these all can affect one's mental state and all legitimately require the assistance of a doctor. But, as I said, far too often these days simple bad thinking is being pathologized and made an illness over which the person is not expected to exert any control. It is this sort of thing to which I very strongly object.

Selah.
 
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You definitely have to become your own life coach to train your mind into using your wild imagination where mankind's inventions and new improvement ideas have been used together with knowledge or education learnt or taught by those who have lived in the past or are still living.:
Education is a word based on knowledge, and in most cases, the imagination is used to picture ourselves in a movie-like scenery as we use all of our 5 senses to experience, to experiment new ideas and to write them down now that we tablets these days, to capture our wild or crazy unique thoughts before they vanish into forgetfulness:.
Health is definitely self-challenging, especially if you live in street surroundings that seem only built for walking on paths and roads for cars, as your mind takes everything positive and negative into account - the air quality, as oxygen provides fuel to burn energy, hence the calories that the body needs to burn away to keep in body-shape:.
I believe our cities need to be as green and clean as possible to greatly reduce diabetes and obesity because smog that contains mostly carbon dioxide or even carbon monoxide can compromise health no matter what health foods and pure tapwater are consumed.
If you imagine yourself in a rainforest, an oxygen-rich environment where trees and plants seem to occupy every living space,
your stress levels would become almost undetectably zero:.
Some TV documentary I saw on the Australian channel SBS recently, had some rainforest tribesman warn that industries that destroy the oceans can upset mother nature to seek revenge through more natural disasters - not to mention my opinion mentioned above where we need to live in an oxygen-rich environment, getting rid of mankind's inventions that cause an over-abundance of carbon gases that negatively affect the weather and environment, such as our own private car on diesel or unleaded petrol.''*".
 
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It never ceases to amaze me that for many Christians, it's okay to be physically sick from the neck down, but when it is from the neck up, it's attributed to spiritual matters rather than organic ones. I do not discount God's ability to heal the physical body in miraculous ways, and believe he can, but I do not believe he does. I firmly believed he would heal my appendicitis, but he didn't - instead it burst on the operating table. He used the doctors to heal me. I also, along with my boyfriend at the time, believed God could heal his brain cancer, and yes, God healed him - he is in heaven now, pain and cancer free! In the same way, God can use modern therapeutic techniques to heal mental illness, including eating disorders. He can heal miraculously, or he can choose to not heal at all and allow it to run a course like with Job's afflictions or with Paul's "thorn".

OP, God uses many ways of healing - including physicians and therapists. After all, all knowledge comes from God. There are those here who turned to God alone and good for them, if that is what worked for them. That might not be the case for you, and so I encourage you to seek healing for your illnesses and disorders. There is nothing wrong with going to both God AND to doctors and therapists. If your physician will not provide a referral, try getting a second opinion. Also, you can do some online research to learn about healthy eating habits, then buddy up with someone to get healthy together. Or you could join a group like Weight Watchers for support and accountability. There are also other more drastic ways to address obesity like invasive surgery such as the gastric bypass or minimally invasive surgery like a lap band.

So many people really do not understand mental illness, or the special issues of obesity and eating disorders, so don't be discouraged by some people's approach here, and do not take it personally. Some people think that just because one approach worked for them, that it should work like that for everyone, and we all know that is not the case.
 
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Alright, I've been trough something similar (was anorexic some years ago, I started losing weight during a trip as I was pretty fat, starving myself to do so as I didn't know anything about nutrition back then. Sadly, I got sick and lost some additional weight, at one point it started becoming an obsession seeing the number on the scale drop. Started to restrict on February, ended up restricting calories (1300/day) on August, dropped that number to 800 around October and then got it up to 1000-1200. Really dark times in my life, I would be in class thinking about what meal was next and how many calories, grams of fat and protein it had.
Somehow I managed to snap out of it kindof, after months of restricting my body couldn't handle more and I would binge a lot. That's one thing about anorexia and/or bulimia, after a while you will get insane cravings due to you restricting so much. As you can imagine I was beyond skinny at the time so gaining some weight didn't hurt me. I also watched the movie Fat Head, which, in my opinion, helped me beat anorexia.

If you want to lose weight, I highly recommend you do some research and lose weight in a healthy manner, much better in the long run (after a while if you restrict too much, your metabolism will slow down and if you start eating again like you used to, you'll put on weight easily).

I'll pray for you. Trust me anorexia's just not worth it, if you need more help don't be hesitant to send me a message.
 
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Am starving myself
having 1000 calories a day some times less than that
when i do eat i feel bad i hate myself and i know its wrong
am being vain because i want to be thin
am obese have been since i was a kid i have been fighting my eating disorder
for a while
i either starve myself or i binge

It appears that I Love Jesus has had her account deleted. ILJ, I hope you come back. I'm sure I speak for everyone that we want the best for you.

I'm going to give some practical advice, but I'm not a doctor so take it for what it's worth.

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I don't think 1000 calories per day is bad at all when you're trying to lose weight, provided those calories are balanced and nutritious. Losing weight is not like stopping smoking. You can't go off it cold turkey. And that is why it is so tricky - because you must eventually return to food, and the old familiar patterns will be there waiting for you. Instead of the binge-starve vicious cycle, we need to find a way to moderate our food intake and make it a habit and a lifestyle.

Portion control

A mixed salad with vinegar and olive oil, feta cheese and one piece of bread will run you about 250 cals. It's very nutritious and satisfying. I add a half-teaspoon of lemon-flavored cod liver oil so I'm getting a good spectrum of essential oils.

A veggie omelet with a piece of bread and a spot of ketchup will also run about 250 cals and is satisfying.

That's already two meals. You could have a small sandwich that includes protein for the third.

Meal timing

I am eating four meals a day, one every four hours. This stretches things out just about right and keeps me satisfied and energized at the same time. I eat at 8, 12, 4 and 8 o'clock.

Water

That leads to the question of how to keep to the four hour regimen. One big answer is to drink a lot of water, especially when you're beginning to get hungry too far ahead of the next meal. Water will do your body a world of good, and at the same time it dulls the hunger pains for a while. I cut back on coffee and tea and substituted water.

Another is veggie snacks, which are good for you and low cal.

Exercise

If you are able, get a little moderate exercise every day. Do something you enjoy, and keep it enjoyable. If you can do it outdoors, so much the better.

Spreadsheet

I find it very helpful to calculate caloric intake with a spreadsheet. You then can also run a projection of weight loss, see when you will reach your goal, and see if you're keeping yourself to the program. It's a means to better understanding of what your body needs and what's going on, and an aid to discipline as well.
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You ask if wanting to lose weight is vain. I don't think so. Look at all the people in the Bible who wanted their health back - and the Lord was happy to give it to them. He wants us victorious in every area of our lives, and the Word tells us to treat our bodies as His temple. So I don't think you need to carry guilt about that. Instead, commit it to the Lord and proceed in His wisdom and love.

I pray the Lord's blessing over your attempts to gain control of your life. I am sure this is a good thing. Avoid the starvation mentality, but treat your body with the loving godly discipline it both needs and deserves. Whatever weaknesses and failures you may have had in the past are forgiven and forgotten. Now is the acceptable time, now is the day of salvation, so do your homework and start again afresh with confidence in God.

Beloved, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health, even as it goes well with your soul. -3jn 1.2
 
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