Starting to Date

[xspinningisfun]

Honestly, I regret each guy that I've dated. Why? Because I know they weren't the ones that God created for me. I'm going to wait on God's timing...and if it's not His will for me to date and to get married, then I will try my best to be content :]

 

[Markus6]

What is dating exactly?

I don't think I ever dated, but that may be because of my definition of 'dating'. It's an American concept, I'm don't quite understand the specifics.

A date is when a boy and a girl (traditionally) go out and do an activity together when there is some romantic interest. Dating is a period of going on dates.

Honestly, I regret each guy that I've dated. Why? Because I know they weren't the ones that God created for me. I'm going to wait on God's timing...and if it's not His will for me to date and to get married, then I will try my best to be content :]

How would you know that they weren't the one God has created for you if you hadn't dated them. How do you think you're going to work out who it actually is?

 

[Rebekka]

A date is when a boy and a girl (traditionally) go out and do an activity together when there is some romantic interest. Dating is a period of going on dates.

I think I never dated then, or only went on one date. It didn't feel like a date because the day before the "date" it was already clear to us both that we were a couple already. Also, we were engaged before we had a chance to go on a second "date". So technically there was no "period of going on dates".

 

[CocoBrown]

I'm 26 and I haven't started dating as yet.

 

[Purified]

I'm 20 and have yet to date.

I had a little 'fling' when I was on my European tour this summer, but it was innocent. There was some kissing yes, but nothing further than that. I literally 'fell' for this guy in mere weeks. I was convinced there was something great to it because I am the most guarded person on this earth when it comes to guys. I reject EVERYONE who shows any interest in me and have only had interest in one other guy before this. This guy made me feel like I could be ME. He liked me for ME. I cried for days after the trip was over because we lived on different sides of the country. I'm over it now, it's like it never happened. But I do remember that for those few weeks how happy I was. We just really made a great team... now that I'm thinking about him I really do miss him.


Sometimes I wonder if God brought this experience in my life to show me that there is hope, that there is love and acceptance out there, not just in Him... even though nothing compares to his unfailing love. I think that in due time God will bring my soul mate into my life in some way. I'm not going to date and try looking for him. That's far too nerve wracking anyway.

 

[rita727]

I officially had my first boyfriend @ 15. But my parents actually found out him at 16.

 

[Canadian Eh?]

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[youthwalk]

I had my first "boyfriend" at 16.5 -- lasted all of 3mths and is still a very sweet memory for me--we met at church and holding hands during the Our Father in mass was the most physical contact we ever had .

First kiss at 17 and several months, at the first party I'd ever been to. Was in a "high school sweetheart" relationship for 2 years after that.

I think the age was ok. I wish I'd held off on the first "relationship" at 16...seems a bit pointless now I was just about 18 for my first kiss and I thoroughly enjoyed it. I had a good first kiss experience.

It all went downhill within the next 4 years as I faced my first manic episode though. But thankfully, I survived that.

 

[die2live]

I was homeschooled from grades six through ninth so I didnt really have the opportunity to "date" until I started going to a public high school in 10th grade. I started dating my first boyfriend then (I was 16) and we dated for three years. Now I am 19 and have been dating my 2nd boyfriend for almost a year.

My sister was homeschooled throughout high school and she had been in three relationships by the she graduated. Sorry, that has absolutely nothing to do with the topic, I just wanted to get that out there.

For me, I'm not sure that I ever really started "dating." So to speak. I had my first boyfriend at age eighteen, so I guess that would be the closest thing. We had been friends for over two years, so we just sort of skipped the whole dating stage. That relationship lasted all of three months and I've been single ever since.

I was extremely emotionally insecure and immature, so I don't know if I would say I was "ready" at the time. But I also wouldn't say I was too young. All I can really say is that I'm so glad I didn't date when I was younger and I really think I'm ready to date now.

 

[kittysbecute]

For me, I'm not sure that I ever really started "dating." So to speak. I had my first boyfriend at age eighteen, so I guess that would be the closest thing. We had been friends for over two years, so we just sort of skipped the whole dating stage. That relationship lasted all of three months and I've been single ever since.

It was similar for me. I had a bf at age 19 (19 and 1/2 to be more specific). I had known him for 5 years before, and the relationship lasted around 7 months. And i've been single since then too.

 

[washerdryercombo]

I really didn't have any interest in dating while I was in school because my standards were always a lot higher. I could never find anyone that wanted to take it seriously that had the same high standards themselves. Girls like that are hard to come by, even in church.

But I can say I've officially been dating as of 5 months ago and it was well worth the wait. ^__^

 

[codya517]

But my "friend" Cody needed a ride haha so I convinced my dad to let us give him a ride to the movie and he did... we both sat in the back seat and held hands

it wasn't me..haha (kidding, i mean it wasn't but kidding about all..of this..this is why i shouldn't date)

aaanyway, I haven't dated yet and I generally don't "feel like it". I figure I'll meet the right gal when God puts her in my path and if I don't meet anyone that is okay too. I don't put much emphasis on "looking" for women to date or trying to not be alone. I was also a social outcast in earlier years and then I got saved and didn't feel like dating (haha). I don't know...I'm not sure I get it...I just don't want to? hehe

[edit] and women tend to ignore me entirely anyway so it's not really an issue for me hehe

 

[alterpstra]

I find it incredible how young some people start dating sometimes, when I was 13 I was a kid-kid, not a man child like one of my friends who started growing a beard in middle school. I was all shy but he never without a girl.
But there is often a stark contrast in maturity levels in kids that young, I've met 12 year olds with more confidence with women than me lol. A girl I know said her first boyfriend was in Kinder lol.
The first date I went on, I didn't even realize it was a date until later I was so naive.

I'm a late developer by a lot of my friends standards, but it is a relief to find there are others like me here.

 

[waxlion10]

I was 17. My boyfriend was 18. Now I'm 20, he's almost 22, and we've been together for three years.
Oh yeah, and the night he asked me out, he kissed me My first kiss AND his. How cool is that?
(OK, yeah, and a little awkward...)

The wait was worth it. Singleness is a time to treasure, not rush through. I have now found my best friend, my life partner, and a blessing from the Lord

I think that the question wasn't "Am I old enough to date?" but rather, "Am I mature enough to date?"

For me, dating was about meeting someone to marry.
And I did

 

[Penumbra]

I've never dated. I used to take dating very seriously- I was open to such an idea if the right person were to come along but that never happened.

 

[alterpstra]

...I think that the question wasn't "Am I old enough to date?" but rather, "Am I mature enough to date?"...

Agreed.