im 13,and recently i feel as if my family just wont leave me alone. they always walk in and comment on me and my body, and my weight, and even in front of me to other people, and its really bothering me. its my holidays now, and recently ive been eating like nothing. normally ill eat like 3 times a day, plus like quite a few snacks aswell. now i eat maybe twice a day. yesterday i had half of a popcorn and some coke, then gave the rest away, then had a small portion of dinner. like a slice of steak. and im just not eating, but im not hungry. ive tried making myself throw up quite a few times, mainly this past few days. and i just hate it. im going on holidays tomorrow and i feel that i wont be able to control myself or my eating, and im scared that ill make myself throw up again. i talked to a friend yesterday about it, who really helps me, shes a youth leader and my mentor...but last night i couldnt sleep all i could think about was my body and my eating and i wanted to purge again. i just dont know what to do, im struggling with myself alot, and my friend reminded me how god thinks im awesome and great and perfect, and i know that by hurting myself, its like im spitting in his face, cause he made me, and i should love and accept that but i just ant, especially not right now. i just...i want to be thin. i know im not obese, or extremely fat...at all in fact but my mind like goes through stages, one time im going god loves me, im perfect, me trying to remind myself that, anther time i feel fat and gross and feel the only thing i can actually control is my weight and food, and then other times im like i know im not fat, but im not going to eat cause it makes me feel better...i dont know im scared im going to go back to how i used to be, like cutting and suicidal and depressed. and i dont want to i dont know what to do.
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ChrissyLovesJesus
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okay okay......
RUN from these feelings and thoughts. I got off-the-side comments from my parents about my weight when I was young and I fell into an eating disorder. It took years to get out of the cycle so please don't start it. It will hurt you soooo much more then their words could ever.
Love, Chrissy
You are in my prayers
RUN from these feelings and thoughts. I got off-the-side comments from my parents about my weight when I was young and I fell into an eating disorder. It took years to get out of the cycle so please don't start it. It will hurt you soooo much more then their words could ever.
Love, Chrissy
You are in my prayers
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okay....im yeah....im trying, im constantly telling myself all that stuff like god loves me im perfect, but i dunno..i just....i cant eat. but its not that, im not hungry. i dont WANT food. im not obsessed with my weigh really, its just eating is something i can control...i think i will go for a run.... no i cant its raining out...great....i run away from things actually alot basically every friday i run and it makes me feel better. i think i will somethime soon though. thank you crissy. im steff btw.
xoxo
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i tried to do it again but it didnt work. WHY WONT IT WORK WHAT AM I DOING WRONG!!?? why cant i make myself throw up?? i cant even get rid of whati ate now this sucks why wont it work!!!
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amtvball4jesus
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honey,
you're gonna be ok. do not do that to yourself! i am praying hard for you. Satan, i bind eating disorders out of her in Jesus name!!!!! she is precious and has her whole life ahead of her.
~michelle~
you're gonna be ok. do not do that to yourself! i am praying hard for you. Satan, i bind eating disorders out of her in Jesus name!!!!! she is precious and has her whole life ahead of her.
~michelle~
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thank you so much....you dont know how much that means to me....im trying. im struggling, cause its a constant battle...but im not going to give up!! thank you so much!!!
luv ya xoxo!!
i slept cause i couldnt go 4 a run....i feel so much better THANK YOU!!!
god bless
luv ya xoxo!!
i slept cause i couldnt go 4 a run....i feel so much better THANK YOU!!!god bless
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you're welcome sweetie. i'm glad it helped. *hugs* how are you doing today????? i am alright for the mostpart.
~michelle~
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Hi,
This is so close to home for me. I started bulemia when I was both of your ages. I just turned 30 this past week. I am still struggling with it. It breaks my heart to read that you two are struggling with eating disorders also. You are so young. I wish I could steer every teenager away from this before they start. It's much more difficult to stop once you've started then it is to not start. It wasn't that long ago and I do remember the feelings surrounding my decision to do this. Don't give in and don't give up. Keep your support system around you. Keep God closer. I know it's difficult and I"m sorry you have to go through this. Remember that Jesus is always there for you, even if it seems as if you are alone. While I don't have an answer as to how to stop this or prevent it , (I'm still working on that myself.) I want you to know that you both have the support here that you need. We are all here praying for you and here to talk!
Have a good night!
Marlena
This is so close to home for me. I started bulemia when I was both of your ages. I just turned 30 this past week. I am still struggling with it. It breaks my heart to read that you two are struggling with eating disorders also. You are so young. I wish I could steer every teenager away from this before they start. It's much more difficult to stop once you've started then it is to not start. It wasn't that long ago and I do remember the feelings surrounding my decision to do this. Don't give in and don't give up. Keep your support system around you. Keep God closer. I know it's difficult and I"m sorry you have to go through this. Remember that Jesus is always there for you, even if it seems as if you are alone. While I don't have an answer as to how to stop this or prevent it , (I'm still working on that myself.) I want you to know that you both have the support here that you need. We are all here praying for you and here to talk!
Have a good night!
Marlena
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little_lily613
Baruch HaShem!
You do not have bulimia yet (since it has to last awhile before it can be diagnosed as such), but you could have the makings of it. Even if you never become bulimic, you definitely seem to have disordered eating and a distorted body image. Why don't you try talking to your guidance counselor at school? Perhaps she can help you through this. Maybe you can talk to a doctor instead if you would feel more comfortable. Since it doesn't seem as it has been developing for too long, it will be a lot easier to turn back now than it will be even a month or two down the road (not to mention years from now).
I was diagnosed with bulimia. I tried to use it as a weight loss method. It DOESN'T WORK. It succeeds in making you sick--it destroys your teeth, your throat, it can break blood vessels. You can have a lack of essential electrolytes that your body needs. You can rupture your stomach and have a whole host of other problems. Not to mention the worse thing that can happen....
I am not trying to terrify you, I am just trying to point out that bulimia is not a diet. It is a disease. One that you do NOT want to develop! And one that is NOT easy to get rid of once it hits you.
The first issue to realize when you have disordered eating (disordered eating doesn't mean you have a full blown ED such as anorexia or bulimia, but it does mean that there is an underlying problem) is that the issue is not with how you look. It is an INTERNAL problem that you deal with by controlling and/or abusing your body. So, I think you should talk to someone or see a counselor for those issues first which can perhaps correct the disordered eating since it is not yet fully developped.
Remember, bulimia is not a weight loss method. You will lose, and then when you begin to eat normally again (which you will HAVE TO DO if you want to live!) you will gain back the weight. Only the weight will come back quicker and perhaps bring some friends with it. This is because your metabolism becomes all screwed up. If you want to lose weight, there are HEALTHY ways to do it. Feel free to PM me and we can chat there or e-mail. I can share advice and tips with you---after gaining quite a bit of weight once recovering from bulimia (and yes, I still struggle with the thoughts of doing it, but thankfully, I have not succumbed to them yet), I have finally lost approx. 70 pounds in a healthy manner--and I feel better now than I have in a LONG time. It's easy, and you will feel soooooo much better about yourself!
If you don't need to lose weight (maybe you are already a healthy weight and are just coping with your emotions and your family's comments in this way), then just worry about getting help with the internal (of course, this should be number one either way since the outside will usually only change once the inside feels better). I think you should tell your family how you feel! Tell them how hurt and embarrassed their comments make you feel. And tell them that (if you do have a little weight to lose) you will be able to accomplish your goals better if they kept their comments to themselves. It is possible that they truly believe the comments are innocent and they aren't bothering you (?) If they do not stop with the comments, then it has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU! It is THEM, and a problem THEY need to work on! Try your best to ignore it, or vent in other ways (ie. journaling and going for walks and just thinking, venting to a friend, praying etc have helped me a lot--I've struggled with the cutting too. The same thing applies to that).
Please, please do what you need to do in order to fight this before it takes over your life. My friend never could fight it off once it caved in on her. She is with G~d now, and it tears me apart to know this is happening to other people and families everyday. If you EVER need to talk about anything whatsoever, I am a good listener and have experienced much of what you have. I am older, and have already been through the pain, the sicknesses, and the recoveries. I am only a mouse click away. HANG IN THERE! G~d bless you always!
~Lily~
I was diagnosed with bulimia. I tried to use it as a weight loss method. It DOESN'T WORK. It succeeds in making you sick--it destroys your teeth, your throat, it can break blood vessels. You can have a lack of essential electrolytes that your body needs. You can rupture your stomach and have a whole host of other problems. Not to mention the worse thing that can happen....
I am not trying to terrify you, I am just trying to point out that bulimia is not a diet. It is a disease. One that you do NOT want to develop! And one that is NOT easy to get rid of once it hits you.
The first issue to realize when you have disordered eating (disordered eating doesn't mean you have a full blown ED such as anorexia or bulimia, but it does mean that there is an underlying problem) is that the issue is not with how you look. It is an INTERNAL problem that you deal with by controlling and/or abusing your body. So, I think you should talk to someone or see a counselor for those issues first which can perhaps correct the disordered eating since it is not yet fully developped.
Remember, bulimia is not a weight loss method. You will lose, and then when you begin to eat normally again (which you will HAVE TO DO if you want to live!) you will gain back the weight. Only the weight will come back quicker and perhaps bring some friends with it. This is because your metabolism becomes all screwed up. If you want to lose weight, there are HEALTHY ways to do it. Feel free to PM me and we can chat there or e-mail. I can share advice and tips with you---after gaining quite a bit of weight once recovering from bulimia (and yes, I still struggle with the thoughts of doing it, but thankfully, I have not succumbed to them yet), I have finally lost approx. 70 pounds in a healthy manner--and I feel better now than I have in a LONG time. It's easy, and you will feel soooooo much better about yourself!
If you don't need to lose weight (maybe you are already a healthy weight and are just coping with your emotions and your family's comments in this way), then just worry about getting help with the internal (of course, this should be number one either way since the outside will usually only change once the inside feels better). I think you should tell your family how you feel! Tell them how hurt and embarrassed their comments make you feel. And tell them that (if you do have a little weight to lose) you will be able to accomplish your goals better if they kept their comments to themselves. It is possible that they truly believe the comments are innocent and they aren't bothering you (?) If they do not stop with the comments, then it has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU! It is THEM, and a problem THEY need to work on! Try your best to ignore it, or vent in other ways (ie. journaling and going for walks and just thinking, venting to a friend, praying etc have helped me a lot--I've struggled with the cutting too. The same thing applies to that).
Please, please do what you need to do in order to fight this before it takes over your life. My friend never could fight it off once it caved in on her. She is with G~d now, and it tears me apart to know this is happening to other people and families everyday. If you EVER need to talk about anything whatsoever, I am a good listener and have experienced much of what you have. I am older, and have already been through the pain, the sicknesses, and the recoveries. I am only a mouse click away. HANG IN THERE! G~d bless you always!
~Lily~
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hey guys...i just wanted to say firstly ive just come back from a week in fiji, and spent the whole time surrounded with friends and awesome people and basically wasnt around my family and they laid off me. i feel so much better .....thank you all of you guys you dont even know me and here y'all are dropping me a line and fully talking to me and helping me out with this. god is in you guys, you can just tell. you all are really really great guys and thank you these tips,encouragment, counsiling....just friendly words even really make a difference. i wish all people that had/have issues always go find the right people, like i clearly did here
god bless you all
xoxo, steff
.....thank you all of you guys you dont even know me and here y'all are dropping me a line and fully talking to me and helping me out with this. god is in you guys, you can just tell. you all are really really great guys and thank you these tips,encouragment, counsiling....just friendly words even really make a difference. i wish all people that had/have issues always go find the right people, like i clearly did heregod bless you all
xoxo, steff
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prayin for ya hun *hugs*
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question; is it called bulimia if you just make yourself throw up when your upset? lke, whenever i get really upset, my body automatically wants to throw up, so sometimes i help it out a bit...
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question; is it called bulimia if you just make yourself throw up when your upset? lke, whenever i get really upset, my body automatically wants to throw up, so sometimes i help it out a bit...
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aw sweeite....ive been prayed for...and im quite better....anyways do NOT do that to yourself i know how you feel...well i cant exactly answer that, because bulimia is actually defined as eating fast amounts of food over a period of time, usually under 3hrs or so, and then "purging" to avoid weight gain. so i wasnt really bulimic, i was....well....i was scared i was going to be. the reason you want to "throw up" is because you've discovered that in doing that, your body automatically releases endorphins, which are your bodies natural feel-good drugs. so in doing that, just like cutting, burning, and all other sorts it causes your body to release endorphins so you feel better. but there fade quite soon and leave you worse. hun, dont do this to yourself. if you ever get really upset again, feel TOTALLY free to pm me and talk to me, if you need me im here for you. whenever you feel upset, dont let yourself do that to yourself okay?? surround yourself with friends and people you love, and if you dont trust yourself, and think you may do it again, call someone, etc.
if you ever need me, and want a faster reply than pm, msn me: gorjuz_rainbow_junkie@hotmail.com sweetie dont do that to yourself, beleive me ive lived that path....many times, and like everyone else here has said, it takes ages to break your cycle. fight the urge, pray to the lord for comfort and guidance.
amen sis....
xoxo, steph
i know how you feel...well i cant exactly answer that, because bulimia is actually defined as eating fast amounts of food over a period of time, usually under 3hrs or so, and then "purging" to avoid weight gain. so i wasnt really bulimic, i was....well....i was scared i was going to be. the reason you want to "throw up" is because you've discovered that in doing that, your body automatically releases endorphins, which are your bodies natural feel-good drugs. so in doing that, just like cutting, burning, and all other sorts it causes your body to release endorphins so you feel better. but there fade quite soon and leave you worse. hun, dont do this to yourself. if you ever get really upset again, feel TOTALLY free to pm me and talk to me, if you need me im here for you. whenever you feel upset, dont let yourself do that to yourself okay?? surround yourself with friends and people you love, and if you dont trust yourself, and think you may do it again, call someone, etc. if you ever need me, and want a faster reply than pm, msn me: gorjuz_rainbow_junkie@hotmail.com sweetie dont do that to yourself, beleive me ive lived that path....many times, and like everyone else here has said, it takes ages to break your cycle. fight the urge, pray to the lord for comfort and guidance.
amen sis....
xoxo, steph
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i no how u feel.the same thing happens 2 me.i told my best friend & she told her mom not knowing that shed tell any1 but her mom told my mom & we talked about it but nuthings happened.im 13,5"10'& 3 quarters & im about 200 lbs!i feel so fat though.& i no i should like me 4 who i am but i dont like me @ all!i think nim fat & i dun like it!
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hey, thats not gud at all. love yourself for who god has created you to be. ive been through the hard times....i know how hard it is when you try to stop hurting yourself...you get to a certain stage, when its always in your mind. i failed at that part 5 or 6 times. but i finally, just recently got through it. and you know what?? im about ten times stronger, and heaps stronger in the lord!!! just have faith. im always here if you want to talk okay?? just accept yourself, im serious dude....ive just accepted who i am...im about 170cm tall, and about 70kgs. when i got on the scales and saw that i flipped out. but im a healthy weight. not overweight at all. so you leave yourself alone and cast away all demons binding you away from god okay sweetie?? we all love you, and you probably have heaps and heaps of people that love you. surround yourself with those who love you and love you for WHO YOU ARE. dont listen to what satan says, cause then your choosing satan over god. listen to what god says, get you and your friends to pray about it, smile and relax. look at your body and if you start to feel bad, read gods word, and keep telling yourself what god tihnks about you. hey, try this okay: write down, a whole list of positive tihngs that god thinks about you. lots and lots.
eg:
1:he loves me so much he sent his only son to die for my sins!!
2:he will forgive me for anything and everything if i ask
3:he loves me just as i am
4. i was created by him the way i am. if i dislike my body, i dislike what he has created, therefor i spit in his face. i love my god, and i must therefor love my body, if not for me,. then for him at least
5. the lord is always there for me, and loves me throughout it all.
6. i am perfect
7. i am a princess, beautiful in EVERY WAY
8. i am a warrior of god, and worthy of all
9. i am a sinner, i should be worth nothing, yet the lord paid the ultimate price for me, he gave his son, and therfor instantly raised my value to priceless.
10. i have a right to a happy, CONFIDENT life. no one that puts me down is not even worthy
11. if people put me down, is it worth listening to them and feeling pathetic, or should i listen to god, who says i am perfect and completely beautiful??
i love you. you can take these, and i want you to make at least 10 more. okay?? of your own. use these, and add some of your own. ONLY GOOD i mean it. and then whenever you feel bad about anything at all, take some time-out, go to your room, request some time alone, pray, talk to god about everything, read your list, read the lords words...the best thing for everything...read isaiah its really inspiring. or your fave book in the bible, and write your feelings down, draw, call someone or whatever.
luv ya, xoxo steph. you are BEAUTIFUL and not fat, in any way at all. dont think that, cause it shall hold you back from the lord. if you cant beleive your beautiful and worthy, you cant beleive what god says. you cant beleive and have faith in god. what then?? so dude, take my advice, please dont make the same mistakes i did!! and listen to god, not the world. you are worthy!!!
god bless you
steph
eg:
1:he loves me so much he sent his only son to die for my sins!!
2:he will forgive me for anything and everything if i ask
3:he loves me just as i am
4. i was created by him the way i am. if i dislike my body, i dislike what he has created, therefor i spit in his face. i love my god, and i must therefor love my body, if not for me,. then for him at least
5. the lord is always there for me, and loves me throughout it all.
6. i am perfect
7. i am a princess, beautiful in EVERY WAY
8. i am a warrior of god, and worthy of all
9. i am a sinner, i should be worth nothing, yet the lord paid the ultimate price for me, he gave his son, and therfor instantly raised my value to priceless.
10. i have a right to a happy, CONFIDENT life. no one that puts me down is not even worthy
11. if people put me down, is it worth listening to them and feeling pathetic, or should i listen to god, who says i am perfect and completely beautiful??
i love you. you can take these, and i want you to make at least 10 more. okay?? of your own. use these, and add some of your own. ONLY GOOD i mean it. and then whenever you feel bad about anything at all, take some time-out, go to your room, request some time alone, pray, talk to god about everything, read your list, read the lords words...the best thing for everything...read isaiah its really inspiring. or your fave book in the bible, and write your feelings down, draw, call someone or whatever.
luv ya, xoxo steph. you are BEAUTIFUL and not fat, in any way at all. dont think that, cause it shall hold you back from the lord. if you cant beleive your beautiful and worthy, you cant beleive what god says. you cant beleive and have faith in god. what then?? so dude, take my advice, please dont make the same mistakes i did!! and listen to god, not the world. you are worthy!!!
god bless you
steph
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((Hugs)) Dont do that to yourself. You should talk to your parents and tell them how you feel
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