Stand!

[Minister Yolandaspiritled]

Greetings family,
I want to encourage anyone who is going through family crisis and especially with adult children to simply stand on God's word.
I could have lost my mind, gave into pressure, bowed down and accept the verbal slashing my daughter was throwing my way but guess what I did. I would not even engage the spirit that was guiding my daughter. She spoke very poorly to me and even equated my raising her with being toxic. Oh but when you know God and when you look yourself in the face, and you spend time reflecting and correcting yourself, you can see clearly that the attacks and you know exactly where they are from. It was at least 9 months that my daughter and I exchanged our last words because she promised that she would not talk with me unless I would listen to her abusiveness out of respect for what she was feeling. This was a struggle for me as much as it was for my family. My family couldn't understand how I could just shut her down and not even contact her. They all felt I was being unfair. My stance was this. I explained to her as loving as I could that I would listen to her feelings and acknowledge her concerns but what she had to understand in all of it was that nothing she could say, unless it lined up with the Word, nothing that she learned through her various psychology or philosophy classes mattered to the point where it would have authority over the Word.
When you get to the point in this Christian life when you know whose you are, all the cares of this world are moot. My allegiance to the Father is first. So I explained these things to my daughter and wished her the best life can offer, pleaded with her to stay in the Word, and understand that although I may have made errors, because I'm human, then to forgive my errors and move on. It's unfortunate how many Christian parents find themselves debating with college students about the world, how we should treat them, how we should talk to them, what we shouldn't say, etc etc. Over the months I simply plead the blood over her life and ask God to intercede. I made a stand on God's promises and I would not be shaken by the many family members who thought I should attempt to resolve things. I simply told them, no I gave this to the Lord and left it at the cross. So, after many months passed we have no connection. It was only until recently that my daughter stopped in for a visit from AZ. I received a long hug, a kiss, and we concluded our visit with blessings. One of the best things that God revealed to me during this process was this. She is not your child, He would say to me. And I was like, you're right, she's not mine, she's yours. I kept telling the family that I released her back to her rightful owner, I was simply the vessel that was used to get her here. This brought me such peace in my Spirit. I pray this speaks to someone here. Our children are not ours. They belong to God when they accept Christ and therefore, the Father is responsible to care for them as He has promised. So we have to be willing to release to God what belongs to God and stop trying to fix things and simply stand through it all. His blessings are yes and Amen.
Blessings always,

 

[dqhall]

Greetings family,
I want to encourage anyone who is going through family crisis and especially with adult children to simply stand on God's word.
I could have lost my mind, gave into pressure, bowed down and accept the verbal slashing my daughter was throwing my way but guess what I did. I would not even engage the spirit that was guiding my daughter. She spoke very poorly to me and even equated my raising her with being toxic. Oh but when you know God and when you look yourself in the face, and you spend time reflecting and correcting yourself, you can see clearly that the attacks and you know exactly where they are from. It was at least 9 months that my daughter and I exchanged our last words because she promised that she would not talk with me unless I would listen to her abusiveness out of respect for what she was feeling. This was a struggle for me as much as it was for my family. My family couldn't understand how I could just shut her down and not even contact her. They all felt I was being unfair. My stance was this. I explained to her as loving as I could that I would listen to her feelings and acknowledge her concerns but what she had to understand in all of it was that nothing she could say, unless it lined up with the Word, nothing that she learned through her various psychology or philosophy classes mattered to the point where it would have authority over the Word.
When you get to the point in this Christian life when you know whose you are, all the cares of this world are moot. My allegiance to the Father is first. So I explained these things to my daughter and wished her the best life can offer, pleaded with her to stay in the Word, and understand that although I may have made errors, because I'm human, then to forgive my errors and move on. It's unfortunate how many Christian parents find themselves debating with college students about the world, how we should treat them, how we should talk to them, what we shouldn't say, etc etc. Over the months I simply plead the blood over her life and ask God to intercede. I made a stand on God's promises and I would not be shaken by the many family members who thought I should attempt to resolve things. I simply told them, no I gave this to the Lord and left it at the cross. So, after many months passed we have no connection. It was only until recently that my daughter stopped in for a visit from AZ. I received a long hug, a kiss, and we concluded our visit with blessings. One of the best things that God revealed to me during this process was this. She is not your child, He would say to me. And I was like, you're right, she's not mine, she's yours. I kept telling the family that I released her back to her rightful owner, I was simply the vessel that was used to get her here. This brought me such peace in my Spirit. I pray this speaks to someone here. Our children are not ours. They belong to God when they accept Christ and therefore, the Father is responsible to care for them as He has promised. So we have to be willing to release to God what belongs to God and stop trying to fix things and simply stand through it all. His blessings are yes and Amen.
Blessings always,

I am not sure I understand. She was accusing you of having mismanaged her life, so you let her go. She came back to you with blessings instead of anger. Seems like a good turn of events. Should you remain in communication with your daughter?

 

[Minister Yolandaspiritled]

Thank you for the reply. Yes it is a good turn of events and the best thing is that, it was all God. I will remain in communication with her as long as the door is opened but as I stated, I have come to the realization that she belongs to God and by leaving it in His capable hands, I simply can stand oh His promises in His word, ah, what a blessing indeed. I am learning to be confident that His will be done is my plea. No matter how good a thing may look, or what the relationship is, it is God who will remove the unnecessary distractions that cause us to take our eyes off of Him. I hope that I haven't confused you further. I'm simply being led by a higher power than I and I love it though it may not always feel good. Father knows best so I simply get out of the way and let His will be done.