SSA/Lust recurrences

[zmattz3]

hi guys,

I've fought fro freedom from homosexual porn/lust/sex you name it for years. that and masturbation. I would just like to hear fellow guys stories and how their doing, and possibly pray for them. please post or drop me an email...

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[Jason19]

Hi,
Do you mean you are currently struggling, or you are for the most part free from the lifestyle/sin?
As for me, I have been struggling with everything but the actual physical actions on my temptations and thoughts, but for the last three or four months, i have joined up with an accountability partner, I still struggle and sometimes often, but with a companion in life keeping you centered, its nowhere near as bad, and its even getting better. I have never lived so many days sexualy pure for such long periods since my early teens. So I personaly know that part of homosexuality is just lonliness, I think that the only things that come close to what a true friendship/relationship (the way God ordains anyways) feels like, and the joy from it. But sexual pleasures, outside of those contexts make us feel incredible sensations, we use those to fill that void that can only be filled with companionship, and that companionship is only filled by Jesus Christ our savior.
My accountability partner constantly reflects Christ, and the void is filled, before just spiritualy, and now with another human to share it with, physicly. Homosexuality is beatable, I totally believe that, and know that someday, and infact everyday I am obediant to God, it is beat.

 

[Padon]

I'm struggling with homosexual lust and masturbation, which has become an addiction for me. I've also fallen in love with a guy at church. The Lord has shed some light on the situation lately and I can see it all for what it is. But I don't know how to fight it (sometimes I don't want to).

 

[Cristiano]

Zmattz3,

I, and many others here, understand what you have to deal with. My concern has been not freedom from masturbation but rather porn and attraction to men. It is more common than you think, so don't be discouraged that other guys don't deal with this. Porn is something that has to involve a life change and major organization and effort on your part. The same sex attraction is different...Important life lessons that I have learned regarding it:

1) There are several things that God can do that I can see: Complete deliverance (rare, but possible--God can do anything!); celebate dominion over same sex attraction where you stay single (you will always have it in some form, but you will be able to control it and put it to rest as a struggle); married dominion over same sex attraction where you get married (you will always have it in some form, but it won't matter when you fall in love with the woman God has for you)

2) No matter what, don't give up. Realize that you may have been given a thorn in your side like Paul that is here to stay (this was a hard pill for me to swallow, many times I've cried and still do wondering why I still must bear this cross) and will be used to glorify God in your weakness. Embrace your thorn and ask God to help you gain dominion over it and use it somehow for his glory, ministering to others about it.

3) Realize that you can use the thorn to your advantage and glorify God. My same sex attractions have resulted in good friendships over the years because I was willing to go the extra mile in the relationship. Use it as a ministry tool.

4) Recognize that sexuality does not define who we are as people and as Christians. As Christians, we are new SPIRITUAL creations, not new FLESH creations. Understand that you have the compacity to love and that is all that matters. If it is his will, he will send you a woman that you fall in love with and will want to explore with sexually because you are so deeply in love, not necessarily because you were first sexually attracted to her. Remember, spirits are attracted first. That leaves many possibilities!

Peace and God bless, I hope this helps. Contact me if you would like to talk more.

hi guys,

I've fought fro freedom from homosexual porn/lust/sex you name it for years. that and masturbation. I would just like to hear fellow guys stories and how their doing, and possibly pray for them. please post or drop me an email...

[email deleted by Deamiter -- please email him through his profile or send a PM]