What are things your parents did that you are thankful for? What techniques did they use that you will repeat with your children?
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marezee
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hmmmmm.....IDK if I have anything to add to this thread. 
My dad never told us he loved us until after his first heart attack and he thought that he would die. I was in college.
I will remember to tell my boys I love them at least once, if not more, in every single day!!
My dad never told us he loved us until after his first heart attack and he thought that he would die. I was in college.
I will remember to tell my boys I love them at least once, if not more, in every single day!!
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JulySheMustFly
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My parents were/are awesome. Both of them impressed upon me through example the importance of staying true to yourself and being willing to stand alone when needed. Knowing and facing the consequences of your decisions were a huge lesson in our house. The importance of being there for family and friends. In our home if you were a friend you were family. If you saw a need you filled it in whatever small way you could. They showed me what self control looked like and humility. They showed me just how much more important people were than things and that we need to care for all of creation. They made me understand how trust is earned. I could go on but I'll spare you. I just really love and admire my parents.
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getting on board and supporting their decisions. Even when my mother didn't agree, she would always say it's my desicion and she loves me no matter what. And she would help me, real support. Even with becoming a christian, she said the above and then added - just make sure it's not a cult! lol.
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heart of peace
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I think ultimately I have incorporated my mother's goodness, youthful energy and her lioness spirit for her children. Although she may have been misguided in many ways, she was a fierce protector of her children. Within this element I take into my mothering, there are some individual items that make up the whole, that I sum up as a lioness spirit.
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CarrieAg93
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My parents made every effort to be at things I was involved in. Even if I was just standing in the corner being a tree they were there. Of course with 3 kids there were conflicts and they couldn't both make every event, but if it was humanly possible they were there.
Also, not going to church was not an option. If you lived under their roof you went to church.
Also, not going to church was not an option. If you lived under their roof you went to church.
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To stand up for myself, don't let people push me around.
Don't be shy about right living.
God is of utmost importance.
To eat healthy.
Patriotism.
The difference between playing music and playing music.
Just a few off the top of my head.
Don't be shy about right living.
God is of utmost importance.
To eat healthy.
Patriotism.
The difference between playing music and playing music.
Just a few off the top of my head.
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littlethirsty
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If I could be my parents to my child I would. They did a lot right. My mom has an unbelievable way of reaching all of us no matter how far we may go. My dad instilled the importance of honesty and integrity, no matter what the rest of the world does. I just really admire my parents and love them. I think they did a whole lot right.
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That's how it was with me also.
To add:
One parent was always home with us.
We helped our mom clean from a very young age.
Respect of Adults and eachother
My parents also pulled us out of school for fun days. We'd go miniature golfing or to the local amusement park. School was important but family time and treats were fun also. Most of our family vacations were during the school year. That was always fun
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-My parents rarely (if ever) raised their voices with us
-Implemented "special time alone" where my mom would spend an hour of one-on-one time with each of us at least once a week. Even if it was just running an errand alone, we would get an ice cream cone or sometimes watch a movie together, but it was our special time without sibling interruptions.
-Nightly stories. My dad would read to us every single night and it was a family event. Sometimes we'd do chapter books (like Narnia) and do a chapter each night for two weeks. We did this until I moved away. Halfway through the reading (we'd usually read for an hour) we'd make hot chocolate as a family.
-Circle Prayer. Each night we'd get into a circle and have a special family prayer. Each of us would go around the circle and say something.
-Implemented "special time alone" where my mom would spend an hour of one-on-one time with each of us at least once a week. Even if it was just running an errand alone, we would get an ice cream cone or sometimes watch a movie together, but it was our special time without sibling interruptions.
-Nightly stories. My dad would read to us every single night and it was a family event. Sometimes we'd do chapter books (like Narnia) and do a chapter each night for two weeks. We did this until I moved away. Halfway through the reading (we'd usually read for an hour) we'd make hot chocolate as a family.
-Circle Prayer. Each night we'd get into a circle and have a special family prayer. Each of us would go around the circle and say something.
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Now that my family and I are closer and they are saved, my mom always makes sure I am okay, calls me to tell me she loves me and tries to build me up nowdays. I want to be the mother-in-law she is to my DH as well, she is sooo sweet to him and always thinking of him in good ways...I hope to be that as well.
My dad showed us hard work pays off and to be patient in it
My dad showed us hard work pays off and to be patient in it
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My parents set a great example of what marriage is to our family.
They set the example of putting God first in all things and showing us how to live our lives a christians by doing it and not just saying it.
They showed us how to laugh and find joy in our lives even when things look bleak.
They showed us the importance of family and loving each other even if our sibling got on our nerve.
They let us learn things and even when we failed at it...they would guide us the "right" way without screaming and yelling.
I feel they did so many wonderful things for me and I can't even compare to it...
They set the example of putting God first in all things and showing us how to live our lives a christians by doing it and not just saying it.
They showed us how to laugh and find joy in our lives even when things look bleak.
They showed us the importance of family and loving each other even if our sibling got on our nerve.
They let us learn things and even when we failed at it...they would guide us the "right" way without screaming and yelling.
I feel they did so many wonderful things for me and I can't even compare to it...
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My dad took me on breakfast dates (he took turns with my brother as well). He would wake me up earlier than usual and take me to McDonald's and he said I could have whatever I want and then we would talk together. Those were awesome times.
My parents took us camping, those were the best vacations ever!
My mom stayed home to raise us. My dad worked 2-3 jobs to make ends meet and he always made sure we could take music/sport lessons even if they were expensive.
And many more things...
My parents took us camping, those were the best vacations ever!
My mom stayed home to raise us. My dad worked 2-3 jobs to make ends meet and he always made sure we could take music/sport lessons even if they were expensive.
And many more things...
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K9_Trainer
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I was never spanked. I'm extremely thankful for that. My mother set a LOT of examples to me by never spanking me.....Things like patience, creativity, persistence, logic. Most of all, you don't have to punish physically to be in control, and that having mental control is much stronger and more effecient.
Another, my mom set a good example of proper eating habits.....Mainly what a proper portion is. I was never forced to clear my plate, I ate until I was full and I stopped eating. Because of this, and the "skinny gene", I will probably never have weight issues.
They were never controlling. Instead of making decisions FOR me like most parents do, my parents allowed me to make my own most of the time. They explained the potential consequences of the decisions and guided me, but it was usually up to me. Some decisions were more of a mutual agreement as well. Because of that, I never really rebelled because I had no reason to, so I've never done anything incredibly stupid that I regret doing now.
My dad wrote letters to me alot of the time over certain topics instead of telling me in person. I loved getting his letters because they were always so thoughtful. He can be intimidating when he's discussing things in person so they're more of a lecture, but not in his letters.
They took me on 2 cruises, which were really fun!
And so much more...
Another, my mom set a good example of proper eating habits.....Mainly what a proper portion is. I was never forced to clear my plate, I ate until I was full and I stopped eating. Because of this, and the "skinny gene", I will probably never have weight issues.
They were never controlling. Instead of making decisions FOR me like most parents do, my parents allowed me to make my own most of the time. They explained the potential consequences of the decisions and guided me, but it was usually up to me. Some decisions were more of a mutual agreement as well. Because of that, I never really rebelled because I had no reason to, so I've never done anything incredibly stupid that I regret doing now.
My dad wrote letters to me alot of the time over certain topics instead of telling me in person. I loved getting his letters because they were always so thoughtful. He can be intimidating when he's discussing things in person so they're more of a lecture, but not in his letters.
They took me on 2 cruises, which were really fun!
And so much more...
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MyaShane
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My mom is one of the strongest women I know. She raised 7 kids (all born within 8 years), had the biggest garden Ive even seen and canned everything imaginable, took us all to church by herself every Sunday (Dad was not a Christian then), made some of our clothes, has her own toolbox and can fix almost anything, and when we were really little, she took a night job at the pumpkin plant in town during pumpkin season running the pumpkin label machine in a hot factory during the summer and then coming home to be a SAHM the next day! 
I really dont remember her sleeping during the day at that time, but I guess she had to have! So her daughters are all strong women (too strong sometimes ). I really believe that I can do anything as a woman and have never been dependent on anyone.
I really dont remember her sleeping during the day at that time, but I guess she had to have! So her daughters are all strong women (too strong sometimes ). I really believe that I can do anything as a woman and have never been dependent on anyone.
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Off the top of my head the only one I can think of right now is reading.
They always read to us most nights before bed. Well at least one would read to us. It was a regular thing that I can always remember both my mum and dad reading to us. Either individually or all together (I am one of 5 children lol so I am sure it was mostly all together)
I am really passionate about regular story times for my kids. Usually it's at bed time, or whenever we feel like snuggling together with a good book. They both (6 and 2) love it.
They always read to us most nights before bed. Well at least one would read to us. It was a regular thing that I can always remember both my mum and dad reading to us. Either individually or all together (I am one of 5 children lol so I am sure it was mostly all together)
I am really passionate about regular story times for my kids. Usually it's at bed time, or whenever we feel like snuggling together with a good book. They both (6 and 2) love it.
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gengwall
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My mom taught me to think about things before I act or speak; to have a rationale behind what I was doing.
My dad taught me the value of working hard and how not to let worry and fear overtake me.
They both taught me that family was more important than money, things, and friendships. Although I reported in the other thread that I believe they did not discipline me enough, it was the positive things that they modelled which made me strong enough not to need to push the envelope too far.
My dad taught me the value of working hard and how not to let worry and fear overtake me.
They both taught me that family was more important than money, things, and friendships. Although I reported in the other thread that I believe they did not discipline me enough, it was the positive things that they modelled which made me strong enough not to need to push the envelope too far.
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