Hello all, my first time here and I really need some advice.
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"Test all things; hold fast what is good." (1 Thessalonians 5:21)
So, I understand that God wants us to test everything and hold to what is good.
And only with God can we make sure about what He wants, what He knows is good. So, we need to become able to make sure with God about things . . . not some one thing every now and then, but "all things".
By submitting to God, we test by discovering what God guides us to and . . . where He guides our attention.
So, about what has you confused - - do not let some one item control your attention away from God and isolate you with it.
But about this thing > prophets can get upset about what God shows them. But, it is possible for Satan to confuse people with things. So, yes we need to be able to test and evaluate reliably, and our Father does desire to personally share with us in everything > how He shares with us while guiding us and our attention in His own peace >
"And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful." (Colossians 3:15)
It does not matter if you and your friend are sure the woman does not have an honesty problem. God can know things that do not show.
A person oneself might not realize something is dishonest.
I can give you plenty of examples of things that were dishonest and anti-love in me and I did not have a clue.
One time a guy told me I see what is wrong with women. What ever did he mean by that? Then I realized how I could look at any woman and spot something that was not perfectly good looking to me. And that was anti-love, not first caring about her and praying blessing to her. And then it became a problem, instead of what I was not aware of.
And as I have gotten away from just staring at women and judging what they look like, I have been rewarded with better and better relating with different people. And I am trusted with more real ministerial relating with people.
So, in my case, someone spoke what could help me find out how to love, by getting correction of an anti-love problem of beauty discrimination.
And my problem did not show to him, I would offer.