Something get's me thinking...

[PetraFan007]

After reading all these homosexual posts...something got me thinking. The people who are gay are spending too much time trying NOT to be sexually attracted to the same sex...but I think they don't put enough emphesis on renewing their attraction to the opposite. I'm a straight guy and I can't understand how any other guy could not find a woman extremely sexually attractive. So if you are gay and having problems...(and believe me, this is just something that I have been THINKING and I have NO CLUE if this would work)...sure...try to STOP being attracted to men...but try to also get yourself to be really attracted to women again. To me, women...especially beautiful and sexy ones...just make me weak in the knees sometimes. Pray that you would get back to that (not in a lustful way, but yeah you know what I mean).

 

[Penny_Lane]

okaaaaaaaaay.....

 

[PetraFan007]

okayyyyyy what?

 

[feline]

After reading all these homosexual posts...something got me thinking. The people who are gay are spending too much time trying NOT to be sexually attracted to the same sex...but I think they don't put enough emphesis on renewing their attraction to the opposite. I'm a straight guy and I can't understand how any other guy could not find a woman extremely sexually attractive. So if you are gay and having problems...(and believe me, this is just something that I have been THINKING and I have NO CLUE if this would work)...sure...try to STOP being attracted to men...but try to also get yourself to be really attracted to women again. To me, women...especially beautiful and sexy ones...just make me weak in the knees sometimes. Pray that you would get back to that (not in a lustful way, but yeah you know what I mean).

Yeah, this totally worked for me ... see, I really hate bacon. I much prefer ham. But instead of focusing on my desire for ham, I decided to put all my energies into loving bacon. I would lay in bed all night, forcing myself to think about how tasty and delicious bacon is. I prayed to God, please, let me get back into bacon, please, but not in a lustful way. Lo and behold, a few weeks later my grandma cooked up a batch of bacon and when I saw it, I got weak in the knees and have never desired ham since. So as incredibly ludicrous as this gentleman's advice sounds, it totally works!!!!!

 

[Pyrogenesis]

It's like driving a car; you look at where you want to go, not where you don't want to go. You go where you focus your attention, even if you're trying hard not to go there.

That being said, I'm a straight male who doesn't really know what it's like to fight this particular battle. If it's anything like the pornography battle, then God bless, because you've got some hard yards ahead of you.

 

[marianservant]

After reading all these homosexual posts...something got me thinking. The people who are gay are spending too much time trying NOT to be sexually attracted to the same sex...but I think they don't put enough emphesis on renewing their attraction to the opposite. I'm a straight guy and I can't understand how any other guy could not find a woman extremely sexually attractive. So if you are gay and having problems...(and believe me, this is just something that I have been THINKING and I have NO CLUE if this would work)...sure...try to STOP being attracted to men...but try to also get yourself to be really attracted to women again. To me, women...especially beautiful and sexy ones...just make me weak in the knees sometimes. Pray that you would get back to that (not in a lustful way, but yeah you know what I mean).

Think about what you're saying, why don't you sit and try to think about men a lot, and maybe you wil someday like them, that makes no sense, AT ALL. And even though you threw in the "not in a lustful way" it IS lust, basically what you said, is try to lust after women and you will stop beign Gay, sorry but that is totally foolish, two sins do not equal one favor from God. And then you said "pray to get BACK to that" uhhhhh FYI most gay people were NEVER INTO IT IN THE FIRST PLACE. I mean comeon, this is NOT a way to help the homosexual and strugglign community, this is just another way for them to think badly of Christians.

God Bless brother in christ, and forgive me Father if I was harsh but this is NOT the way....NOT at all.

 

[Cristiano]

After reading all these homosexual posts...something got me thinking. The people who are gay are spending too much time trying NOT to be sexually attracted to the same sex...but I think they don't put enough emphesis on renewing their attraction to the opposite. I'm a straight guy and I can't understand how any other guy could not find a woman extremely sexually attractive. So if you are gay and having problems...(and believe me, this is just something that I have been THINKING and I have NO CLUE if this would work)...sure...try to STOP being attracted to men...but try to also get yourself to be really attracted to women again. To me, women...especially beautiful and sexy ones...just make me weak in the knees sometimes. Pray that you would get back to that (not in a lustful way, but yeah you know what I mean).

Hey PetraFan
I understand from your perspective that it seems a simple solution. As one of the other members put it: Try NOT being extremely attracted to women...It doesn't work. For you it is hard to imagine how anyone could NOT be attracted to women. I say it is hard to imagine not being attracted to men. I wish it weren't so, but that is where God has me at the moment, a sort of thorn in my side as Paul writes. I hope your post has helped you have more compassion on those who struggle with this. Believe me, in the Christian community this is a real struggle for normal, everyday, seemingly heterosexual guys and girls, and it eats away at them, knowing that society thinks that there is a simple solution. God bless

 

[PetraFan007]

Yeah, this totally worked for me ... see, I really hate bacon. I much prefer ham. But instead of focusing on my desire for ham, I decided to put all my energies into loving bacon. I would lay in bed all night, forcing myself to think about how tasty and delicious bacon is. I prayed to God, please, let me get back into bacon, please, but not in a lustful way. Lo and behold, a few weeks later my grandma cooked up a batch of bacon and when I saw it, I got weak in the knees and have never desired ham since. So as incredibly ludicrous as this gentleman's advice sounds, it totally works!!!!!

OK, I was being serious with my post. It made sense to me. Thanks for subtley destroying my dignity with that sarcastically assinine reply.

 

[PetraFan007]

Think about what you're saying, why don't you sit and try to think about men a lot, and maybe you wil someday like them, that makes no sense, AT ALL. And even though you threw in the "not in a lustful way" it IS lust, basically what you said, is try to lust after women and you will stop beign Gay, sorry but that is totally foolish, two sins do not equal one favor from God. And then you said "pray to get BACK to that" uhhhhh FYI most gay people were NEVER INTO IT IN THE FIRST PLACE. I mean comeon, this is NOT a way to help the homosexual and strugglign community, this is just another way for them to think badly of Christians.

God Bless brother in christ, and forgive me Father if I was harsh but this is NOT the way....NOT at all.

Being attracted to women is not a sin! Lust is, I know that.

 

[marianservant]

Being attracted to women is not a sin! Lust is, I know that.

To look at a women as an object of sexual attraction and nothing more, which is, wether you meant to or not, what you are doing....is LUST. Pure and simple.
God bless

 

[deekers]

To look at a women as an object of sexual attraction and nothing more, which is, wether you meant to or not, what you are doing....is LUST. Pure and simple.
God bless

If that's the case, then God is not loving and gracious. If being physically attracted to someone is lust, then God must delight in seeing us sin over and over and feel guilty and repent over and over again.

I don't buy it. God put physical attraction in us. It is not lust. Lust is to selfishly desire someone sexually.

 

[JeremiahJ]

Thanks for subtley destroying my dignity with that sarcastically assinine reply.

Lol, now that's subtle.

 

[invisible trousers]

do you actually know any gay people?

if you do, tell them your idea and let us know what their responses are.

OK, I was being serious with my post. It made sense to me. Thanks for subtley destroying my dignity with that sarcastically assinine reply.

no offense, but your idea was pretty asinine to begin with.

 

[Johnnz]

Lust isn't at all about seeing a woman as attractive. It is about seeing a woman (maybe who is really attractive) and actively contemplating doing something wrong with her. There is an enormous difference between the two.

John
NZ

 

[Mae Band]

To look at a women as an object of sexual attraction and nothing more, which is, wether you meant to or not, what you are doing....is LUST. Pure and simple.
God bless

First off, its not lust to think it, but when you dwell on it, its lust. Second, if you are lusting over the same sex, why cant you just look at it as lust itself and get out of the situation?
I had a good question about homosexuality but i forgot it in my tiredness.

 

[Lost_and_astray]

do you actually know any gay people?

if you do, tell them your idea and let us know what their responses are.



no offense, but your idea was pretty asinine to begin with.

I'm gay, but I'm not sure which idea you're refering to.

 

[Equineartchick]

Wow, I think you guys ned to chill a little...you are all so heated up that you missed Petra's point entirely! I agree with Deekers and Johnnz, and Petra as well. Being attracted to a woman is not a sin unless you take it a step futher. And personally I think Petra's idea was good. If you try to not be attracted, you are thinking too much on the subject anyway. You have to distract yourself by something else, even if it isn't women I guess. Just try to not think about attractions at all, and focus on God.

 

[feline]

You have to distract yourself by something else, even if it isn't women I guess.

I know! Distract yourself by thinking about unicorns, or clowns with ice cream cones!!! That'll cure the gayness!!

 

[Equineartchick]

umm....was that funny? I'm not sure if I should laugh or not. I was thinking of putting your energies into something positive. Try just pursuing God as much as possible. Lead a ministry at church, get a hobby, etc. I'm not gay but I have had problems getting carried away by interest in other people...and when I get too carried away I pray and focus on God. It works. God will send you the right person in his time. FOr now, ignore those feelings as best you can and wait for God's timing.

 

[PetraFan007]

If that's the case, then God is not loving and gracious. If being physically attracted to someone is lust, then God must delight in seeing us sin over and over and feel guilty and repent over and over again.

I don't buy it. God put physical attraction in us. It is not lust. Lust is to selfishly desire someone sexually.

thank you kindly for returning some common sense and logic to this thread.