Someone implore me not to do this.

[Lady Bug]

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[Michie]

Please do not do it. My hubby does not even talk to me that way. It objectifies the other person & shows major lack of respect.

Prayers for you Lady Bug. Try to stay strong but if you slip up, just pick yourself & start all over again.

Do not be to hard on yourself. Just keep trying.

***Hugs & Prayers***

 

[Robin Shawn]

Lady Bug, you will be more unhappy if you do it.

I hope you feel better soon.

Shawn

 

[yippieforskippee]

You have to decide if you want to leave this struggle behind or not. If you do, if you want to resist at all, then you should delete him. Sitting in the face of temptation will not be beneficial. It's like when you're fasting; you wouldn't sit in front of the fridge with the door open. Instead of chatting with this guy chat with God instead. This will help you depend on God and not your own strength. I will be praying for you. If you want to PM me feel free.

 

[Lady Bug]

thank you for your moral support, I'm hanging in there so far.

 

[Fowler]

Ask your friend to delete him from your contacts... you can also perma ban him! Dont give in!

 

[writergirl4god]

Ladybug, you asked for imploring so here it is: please, PLEASE do not do this. If this guy was a good friend at all, he would respect your wishes about the dirty talk. His lack of willingness to do so shows that he's not someone you should feel badly about deleting.

1 Corinthians 6:18 tells us to "FLEE from sexual immorality" (emphasis mine). Not to walk away, but to RUN from it.

You've said that you know from past experience how bad you feel when you give in to this kind of thing. You can not help feeling attached because it is in part a chemical reaction - our bodies release oxytocin, which bonds us to sexual partners/experiences - and it will not be different with this guy. So I implore you - please listen to your brothers and sisters in Christ and delete him.

 

[Lady Bug]

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[Elvenkind]

I knew a girl like that, where I was really lonely and she was really into sex, calling herself a nympho and constantly hinting about it. And I should have stopped at that point, but instead I continued talking with her. She had lots of cash and bought a tour-detour airplane ticket to her place, and even if she talked about love and how perfect I was for her and that she would never use someone for sex - still that's what she did. When I got back home she dumped me, and it still hurts like hell to think about it. Same thing with the woman before that, she said that she would never have invited me home if she had known how "sensitive" I was (getting hurt when she said she didn't want a relationship). So at least that is my experience of how crossing borders to things that feels wrong, can make you end up feeling hurt, and the hurt is worse then loneliness.

 

[jgt50]

Your thinking right by wanting to delete, you have convictions about this, that is good as the holy spirit is doing that so you don;t commit the sin. It is great you occupy yourself and flee the temptation. Stay in christ and his strength will continue to help your resist and not sin. Talk to him in prayer. I know being lonely sucks. but God has the right one for you and wants you to wait, then when you are married , that intimate sexual relationship under god will be the greatest. stay in faith my sister in christ.

 

[razeontherock]

Can I recommend everybody listen to this?

Do Not Let Sin Reign in Your Mortal Body, Part 2 :: Desiring God Christian Resource Library

Maybe the best thing I've ever heard. Found it in a thread here, somewhere ...

 

[Criada]

Praying for you, sweetie, hang in there.
And yes, you really do need to delete him. God always gives us an escape route from temptation, but it's up to us whether we take it.

 

[Lady Bug]

Can I recommend everybody listen to this?

Do Not Let Sin Reign in Your Mortal Body, Part 2 :: Desiring God Christian Resource Library

Maybe the best thing I've ever heard. Found it in a thread here, somewhere ...

Oh my that is like REALLY good stuff, I really, really need that. Thanks, that made my day honestly.

 

[bethrow]

In order to not fall into temptation you have to push the delete button next to his name. :-D You may sort of know him now, but you really don't know him. He's not really a friend unless he's been there for you, listened to you when you are hurt, concerned for you when you are lonely etc. He's not your friend...he's bored and looking for someone to talk dirty to. Don't do it...you'll just sink to a low place if you do. Keep praying and walking with God and he'll surely take the desire away of wanting to talk dirty to someone online. Take Care of yourself.

 

[writergirl4god]

In order to not fall into temptation you have to push the delete button next to his name. :-D You may sort of know him now, but you really don't know him. He's not really a friend unless he's been there for you, listened to you when you are hurt, concerned for you when you are lonely etc. He's not your friend...he's bored and looking for someone to talk dirty to. Don't do it...you'll just sink to a low place if you do. Keep praying and walking with God and he'll surely take the desire away of wanting to talk dirty to someone online. Take Care of yourself.

I agree with Bethrow - this guy is not a friend. Friends respect each other, and talking dirty to you does not respect your convictions. If you haven't deleted him yet, please do so.

 

[FaithPrevails]

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