I'm a 17 year old female, Christian, if it really matters..
All my life, i've stuck to the principle that i wouldn't ever date, long before i read the book, I kissed dating goodbye. I knew i didn't want to date the way the world does, but using dating as a means to get to know a guy i will marry someday, if it's God's will.
If it matters, i've always had trouble, "hearing" God's voice and direction. Older, wiser people tell me to pray for wisdom and understanding, but i have problems praying because as i mentioned, i never "hear" responces.
But on to the problem at hand. I've always hung out with guys more than the girls, and in september i gained what i believe to be the first bets friend i'd ever had... i say that because all my other "best" friends eventually melted away. But so far, we have endured. We are going on 7 motnhs, and we are inseperable. (sp?)
I suppose i should inform you that my best friend is a he. This becomes critcal when i come to the next part of my story. In decemeber, when my brother got married, he and i got closer as we stepped over what we quickly discovered was a fine line between friendship and a relationship. That's the best we could call it. It only lasted two weeks before we realised what we were doing was wrong, so we broke it off. There was only minimal physical contact between us (we agreed that we wouldn't do anything we wouldn't do to a total stranger and stuck by that; the only thing we ever did was hold hands)
Now, as you know, is it is April. For the week after our break-up sortive, we were very sensitive and could not be near each other. But now, our relationship has become much better.
Too better i fear. Sometimes i wonder if all we are doing is simply waiting until we are older, then repeating this. Still worse, i fear we are only having the emotional envolvment of a romantic relationship whithout a physical one.
To make matters worse, i never told my parents, so no one knew. i'm not sure what i am asking for, perhaps someones opinion, or advise to to what should be done?
All my life, i've stuck to the principle that i wouldn't ever date, long before i read the book, I kissed dating goodbye. I knew i didn't want to date the way the world does, but using dating as a means to get to know a guy i will marry someday, if it's God's will.
If it matters, i've always had trouble, "hearing" God's voice and direction. Older, wiser people tell me to pray for wisdom and understanding, but i have problems praying because as i mentioned, i never "hear" responces.
But on to the problem at hand. I've always hung out with guys more than the girls, and in september i gained what i believe to be the first bets friend i'd ever had... i say that because all my other "best" friends eventually melted away. But so far, we have endured. We are going on 7 motnhs, and we are inseperable. (sp?)
I suppose i should inform you that my best friend is a he. This becomes critcal when i come to the next part of my story. In decemeber, when my brother got married, he and i got closer as we stepped over what we quickly discovered was a fine line between friendship and a relationship. That's the best we could call it. It only lasted two weeks before we realised what we were doing was wrong, so we broke it off. There was only minimal physical contact between us (we agreed that we wouldn't do anything we wouldn't do to a total stranger and stuck by that; the only thing we ever did was hold hands)
Now, as you know, is it is April. For the week after our break-up sortive, we were very sensitive and could not be near each other. But now, our relationship has become much better.
Too better i fear. Sometimes i wonder if all we are doing is simply waiting until we are older, then repeating this. Still worse, i fear we are only having the emotional envolvment of a romantic relationship whithout a physical one.
To make matters worse, i never told my parents, so no one knew. i'm not sure what i am asking for, perhaps someones opinion, or advise to to what should be done?
