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Solutions to sleep masturbation?

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My apologies if this sounds like teaching you to suck eggs, but -
Are you sure you are called to be celibate, and why do you believe that?

Along with that, or after thinking about that, I would suggest considering the words of Paul in that those who burn (yearn for a spouse) should not, but get married, and those called to celibacy would not find that an arduous task.

If I'm barking up the wrong tree, then the fact that it's happening in your sleep would suggest to me it's a subconscious issue, not something you are choosing to do, so I would say look for the source of the subliminal suggestions, i.e. what TV are you watching, do you have any relationships with women that are not all the outwardly appear to be - it's easy for one small thought or suggestion to get lodged in your brain somewhere and just be gnawing away at you inside trying to get a foot in the door.
 
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God pretty much wired us by default for sexuality, and that is not wrong. I once was at a conference of doctors when a speaker who specialized on sleep issues said the following: assuming we average 8 hrs/night sleeping we go through our REM cycle every 2 hours ie 4X a night. Every 2 hours physiologically the effects are in the female vaginal lubrication and in the male erection.

Your body is simply acting as God would design it;I believe the term is "wet dreams" where the build up of seminal fluid reaches a certain point/pressure that it is expelled. Those men who are married or are sexually active have a release so this occurs less frequently.
 
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Hi folks,
I've got this issue where I touch in my sleep. It's been going on for several years now. I NEVER do it during the day but I do struggle with yearnings towards women. I'm also celibate as I believe God has called me to this.

Does anyone have any advice about how to deal with this?

Try praying about it, fast and sensor what you watch on TV, what you read, and what you listen to.
 
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erections can be caused by friction not just sexual arousal. So is it a result of tossing and turning while sleeping? I look at the NT and several examples given of actions thought to be wrong but Jesus pointed to the intent. If there is no intent which if sleeping there is none then I would not call it a sin.
 
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Hi folks,
I've got this issue where I touch in my sleep. It's been going on for several years now. I NEVER do it during the day but I do struggle with yearnings towards women. I'm also celibate as I believe God has called me to this.

Does anyone have any advice about how to deal with this?

If you are asleep when you are doing it, who is watching you and telling you you are? Or are you basing your statements on evidence you find when you wake up? Nocturnal emissions and masturbation are significantly different issues. I think we'd do well to clarify the problem before trying to address it.
 
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The "God called me" moment. What makes you so certain you got called to do so? God won't allow you to be tempted beyond your capacity, so either you can overcome this, or God didn't call you to be celibate at all. But in the chance that I am wrong, and God did call you, and you simply need direction in controlling your fantasies and whatnot - I will suggest what i usually suggest to issues on lust.

Make a complete shutdown of all avenues that the enemy can use to tempt you. Television, magazines, posters, even friends who discuss sexual topic. It must be complete. You will be tempted to return to your old ways many times, but you must steel yourself never to do so. Sometimes, the enemy will tempt you the strongest during these times, for in the same way Christ fasted before his service, so too did the enemy tempt him three times.

Now, this is not a permanent abstinence, only up to a time you become able to control your urges properly. This is the reason for most abstinences and spiritual fasting - to allow ourselves better to resist the demands of our physical body. Aside from that, such abstinence must be accompanied by spirituality and prayer and meditation. It is done regularly even by New Testament Christians, and as such, is still practical for use among us believers. Once so refocused, you'll be able to tackle it better.
 
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The "God called me" moment. What makes you so certain you got called to do so? God won't allow you to be tempted beyond your capacity, so either you can overcome this, or God didn't call you to be celibate at all. But in the chance that I am wrong, and God did call you, and you simply need direction in controlling your fantasies and whatnot - I will suggest what i usually suggest to issues on lust.

Make a complete shutdown of all avenues that the enemy can use to tempt you. Television, magazines, posters, even friends who discuss sexual topic. It must be complete. You will be tempted to return to your old ways many times, but you must steel yourself never to do so. Sometimes, the enemy will tempt you the strongest during these times, for in the same way Christ fasted before his service, so too did the enemy tempt him three times.

Now, this is not a permanent abstinence, only up to a time you become able to control your urges properly. This is the reason for most abstinences and spiritual fasting - to allow ourselves better to resist the demands of our physical body. Aside from that, such abstinence must be accompanied by spirituality and prayer and meditation. It is done regularly even by New Testament Christians, and as such, is still practical for use among us believers. Once so refocused, you'll be able to tackle it better.

Good stuff ^^^

I hope the OP shows up again and gives us some clarification for our questions!
 
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Inkachu

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"Yes, because as we all know, wives are convenient outlets for masturbation frustration *eyeroll*. "


Well,what else could they be for?!

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I have this problem and I am also celibated (or I wanna be rs). I dont touch agreed, but some nights I touch during sleep in a semiconscious or lucid state. It is very strange, but I think it is not same to touch voluntary and awake. Maybe it is a sin, but not a grave sin.
Remain pure during the day, and if it happens at night, pray, ask forgiveness, but do not be hard on yourself for an act over which you do not have complete control. I think of it as a thorn in the flesh to tame my pride.
 
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