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It's a petty little gripe. I'm more confused--perplexed, baffled, puzzled--than angry. But I can't get an answer from my husband (he may be freezing up because he thinks I'm angry) so I'm tossing out the subject here.
Finally, at long last, he bought himself some new socks. I'd been concerned about that for a while. His old, stretched out ones have holes you can drive a car through. He now has enough new socks to wear a pair a day for two weeks, even if we don't do laundry. But we do two or three loads a week--so in other words, he has plenty of new socks.
Last week, when doing laundry, I noticed the hamper was still full of his old, worn out socks, and none of his new ones. When I put the laundry away, I saw that he hadn't even opened the packaging. OK, he's been busy, so I did that for him, paired them off, and folded them neatly in the drawer. I thought I'd be overstepping my bounds if I actually threw the old ones away, so I put them in behind the new ones.
This week, on laundry day, I'm still noticing the old socks in the hamper more than the new ones.
Of course, nobody can answer specifically for my husband, but are there reasons some people don't like to wear new socks? They're tight? They're scratchy? What?
My concern is that he does need to look professional at work, but his reasoning is that nobody sees his socks anyway, so what difference does it make?
I'm also aware that there is a personality disorder that causes people to seek out the damaged, inferior merchandise and use it for themselves. I remember seeing a letter in an advice column years ago, about a woman who always made sure she got the bent utensils and cracked dishes when the family ate together. It wasn't about being polite and saving the better stuff for other people, because she actively went through and looked for the damaged items to use for herself. I don't know the name of it, but it is a personality disorder. I'm wondering if the same thing is going on with my husband. Does he think there is some virtue in denying himself new socks, and wearing old ones full of holes instead? It took him long enough to buy them for himself in the first place--and I know he'd be much quicker to buy them for me if I needed them.
PS: Would I in fact be overstepping my boundaries if I threw the old socks away?
Finally, at long last, he bought himself some new socks. I'd been concerned about that for a while. His old, stretched out ones have holes you can drive a car through. He now has enough new socks to wear a pair a day for two weeks, even if we don't do laundry. But we do two or three loads a week--so in other words, he has plenty of new socks.
Last week, when doing laundry, I noticed the hamper was still full of his old, worn out socks, and none of his new ones. When I put the laundry away, I saw that he hadn't even opened the packaging. OK, he's been busy, so I did that for him, paired them off, and folded them neatly in the drawer. I thought I'd be overstepping my bounds if I actually threw the old ones away, so I put them in behind the new ones.
This week, on laundry day, I'm still noticing the old socks in the hamper more than the new ones.
Of course, nobody can answer specifically for my husband, but are there reasons some people don't like to wear new socks? They're tight? They're scratchy? What?
My concern is that he does need to look professional at work, but his reasoning is that nobody sees his socks anyway, so what difference does it make?
I'm also aware that there is a personality disorder that causes people to seek out the damaged, inferior merchandise and use it for themselves. I remember seeing a letter in an advice column years ago, about a woman who always made sure she got the bent utensils and cracked dishes when the family ate together. It wasn't about being polite and saving the better stuff for other people, because she actively went through and looked for the damaged items to use for herself. I don't know the name of it, but it is a personality disorder. I'm wondering if the same thing is going on with my husband. Does he think there is some virtue in denying himself new socks, and wearing old ones full of holes instead? It took him long enough to buy them for himself in the first place--and I know he'd be much quicker to buy them for me if I needed them.
PS: Would I in fact be overstepping my boundaries if I threw the old socks away?