So...

[tulc]

...anyone become gay while I was gone?
tulc(likes to keep up on these things)

 

[tulc]

...or stop being gay?
tulc(either one)

 

[KCKID]

...anyone become gay while I was gone?
tulc(likes to keep up on these things)

Well, I thought long and hard about it and chose - just like that! - to become 'gay'.

 

[fragmentsofdreams]

It was like a Dr. Seuss book where somebody replaced star-bellied with gay and plain-bellied with straight.

 

[KCKID]

...or stop being gay?
tulc(either one)

And then I thought even longer and harder and chose - just like that! - to become 'straight' again.

Freedom of choice is great but why do we only have TWO choices? How boring!

 

[Tenebrae]

...anyone become gay while I was gone?
tulc(likes to keep up on these things)

well I came out of the closet offically


But then again we all knew I was fighting a loosing battle

 

[KCKID]

well I came out of the closet offically.

Well, I came out of the closet a couple of weeks ago when I ruefully confessed to the entire congregation of my church that I often crave shrimp (or prawns as they call them here in Australia) and other seafood abominations. I'm still awaiting an official visit from my (SDA) pastor.

 

[FindingaWay]

Well, I went, briefly, from 'gay but ignoring it cos doing anything else would be a sin"
to "pursuing a homosexual relationship" , thence to "convicted (all else aside, I am married!)" and back to the beginning.
And from 'confused but coping' to very confused, hurting a lot, and wondering how much longer I can cope.

 

[tulc]

Well, I went, briefly, from 'gay but ignoring it cos doing anything else would be a sin"
to "pursuing a homosexual relationship" , thence to "convicted (all else aside, I am married!)" and back to the beginning.
And from 'confused but coping' to very confused, hurting a lot, and wondering how much longer I can cope.

Ahhh! You have now officially entered the "tulc prayer list"!
tulc(this is for you)

 

[Texas Lynn]

Well, I went, briefly, from 'gay but ignoring it cos doing anything else would be a sin"
to "pursuing a homosexual relationship" , thence to "convicted (all else aside, I am married!)" and back to the beginning.
And from 'confused but coping' to very confused, hurting a lot, and wondering how much longer I can cope.

Have you used the toaster oven yet?

 

[jamielindas]

Still pretty gay here.... er... wait... uh.. yep yep... still gay...
Pretty happy about it too...
My boyfriend is going through some issues. He wants me to come to his graduation (post college thing), but his grandparents are coming too and they don't know he's gay and dating... what to do?

 

[Texas Lynn]

Still pretty gay here.... er... wait... uh.. yep yep... still gay...
Pretty happy about it too...
My boyfriend is going through some issues. He wants me to come to his graduation (post college thing), but his grandparents are coming too and they don't know he's gay and dating... what to do?

There's a Jennifer Camper cartoon kind of like that. A woman ponders meeting the lover's parents and what to say and finally tells them, "Hi, I'm your daughter's current <#$%&>".

 

[jamielindas]

There's a Jennifer Camper cartoon kind of like that. A woman ponders meeting the lover's parents and what to say and finally tells them, "Hi, I'm your daughter's current <#$%&>".

I was totally joking about doing that.
"Hi... i'm the guy that's sodomizing your grandson!"

somehow... it seemed in poor taste...

The thing is...
He wants to tell his grandparents and he feels it is wrong to 'hide' me. However, his mother is still in the shame stage and doesn't really want her parents to know about her gay son. ya know?

 

[Texas Lynn]

I was totally joking about doing that.
"Hi... i'm the guy that's sodomizing your grandson!"

somehow... it seemed in poor taste...

The thing is...
He wants to tell his grandparents and he feels it is wrong to 'hide' me. However, his mother is still in the shame stage and doesn't really want her parents to know about her gay son. ya know?

In extended family situations grandparents and their grandchildren often share a common bond in which "the enemy" (here used primarily symbolically) is the same person(s) for both, the generation in between.

There are some WW II generation and older folks mired in homophobia but IMO they handle it better than a lot of baby boomers.

 

[tulc]

I was totally joking about doing that.
"Hi... i'm the guy that's sodomizing your grandson!"

somehow... it seemed in poor taste...

The thing is...
He wants to tell his grandparents and he feels it is wrong to 'hide' me. However, his mother is still in the shame stage and doesn't really want her parents to know about her gay son. ya know?

You know he already has a couple of advantages, he's graduating (right?) so right there he's ahead of the game, secondly he's their grandson, grandkids (speaking as a grandpa myself) hold a special place for most grandparents.
As far as the "Coming out to his grandparents." they probably know (or suspect) a lot more then he thinks they know (we're a lot smarter then people think we are), I'd say let it just be a time to celebrate his graduation and see what develops.
tulc(loves his grandsons very very much)

 

[Apollo Celestio]

Nope, just the usual distress over my lack of any sexuality yet also enjoying the freedom. All the while maintaining the same views.

 

[catlover]

It was like a Dr. Seuss book where somebody replaced star-bellied with gay and plain-bellied with straight.

 

[catlover]

Still pretty gay here.... er... wait... uh.. yep yep... still gay...
Pretty happy about it too...
My boyfriend is going through some issues. He wants me to come to his graduation (post college thing), but his grandparents are coming too and they don't know he's gay and dating... what to do?

I suspect they probably already know...you will simply solidify what they know...

 

[NPH]

...anyone become gay while I was gone?
tulc(likes to keep up on these things)

No change in the orientation here. Though I recently re-kindled my close friendship with the man who has been the closest to a boyfriend i've ever had, and it's looking quite likely that we're going to be seeing quite a lot of each other in the near future. This weekend we'll probably be having some form of date depending on if the kids stay with their mother for the weekend or not. Here's hoping for the best

well I came out of the closet offically


But then again we all knew I was fighting a loosing battle

Well congratulations! It's so refreshing not to have to be evasive with certain topics and just be yourself, while at the same time it takes awhile to get fully used to the whole idea of saying to people "why yes, I am gay" I've been officially out for a few years now and it still feels odd sometimes.

 

[Caylin]

I was totally joking about doing that.
"Hi... i'm the guy that's sodomizing your grandson!"

somehow... it seemed in poor taste...

The thing is...
He wants to tell his grandparents and he feels it is wrong to 'hide' me. However, his mother is still in the shame stage and doesn't really want her parents to know about her gay son. ya know?

Then she isn't really his family.