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[toastface_grillah]

She might, its worked for me before in the past.

Asking a girl out?

 

[Blank123]

Only one way to find out. Try it.

This.

 

[anewday]

Asking a girl out?

Lol, I did word that weirdly, didn't I? Guys have come up to talk to me for a bit, then asked for my number/to hang out, I usually said yes...of course nothing has come from those interactions, but who know about the future ...

 

[Blank123]

But you were just rejected....people will find out, and your position will be lowered.

You care entirely too much what others think of you.

 

[Toro]

Depends on the girl and how you ask..... but yeah, probably.

As long as you don't act like you eat paint chips (Don't talk about a belly button lint collection for example. ) and just have a normal conversation with her (especially if you can make her laugh) then you should be fine.

Also, rejection is part of knowing your chances with her, if you get turned down, toss one back and move on with your day, at least you will know.

 

[broken_one]

I can't stop doing it.

 

[Obzocky]

People do not care half as much as you believe they do.

You're always going to care, that's true, but you really do have to realise that the majority of your issue is the amount of stress you put yourself under assuming that it's the rejection and not just your reaction to it that is going to have a significant impact on your social status. Someone who is rejected and casually goes "no biggie, nice talking to you" generally loses less respect than the individual who starts over thinking about what this rejection says about him to other people.

Regardless of whether you believe it to be true or not, most people are so busy focusing on their own lives that they don't have the time to care whether or not you have been rejected by a woman they may or may not know. All you have to do is talk, casually ask her out and then if rejection happens work on not letting it knock you down as if it's a huge social blunder that will have you eventually demoted to the role of poo scraper. You can't stop the way you care completely, but you can start to become aware of it and try to at least find a method of rationalising what you think will happen with what is most likely to happen as a consequence of it. Hard to do, yes, and very easy to forget to do, but slowly it is do-able.

 

[GQ Chris]

I can't stop doing it.

Is it that you can't, or you don't want to?

 

[Blank123]

I can't stop doing it.

Sure you can. It just takes discipline and effort. Make a decision that you will do what you want regardless of what others think. The more you follow through, the less you will actually care.

 

[Elliewaves]

Is this thread for real? If it is- then man up and ask out girls that you are attracted to .... keep doing that until one says yes. The alternative is you do nothing and nothing changes. Nobody cares if you asked out a girl and she says no; unless you are a creeper who has no boundaries.

 

[GQ Chris]

Maybe you just need some liquid courage?

 

[Sweet Melody]

 

[Blackguard_]

But then what league should I be playing a round in?

Women who are as physically attractive as you are.

Look around, people generally end up with people roughly as attractive as they are.

 

[r035198x]

Yeah, you really don't know until you ask. Sometimes you can get an idea of how she will answer if you talk to her long enough before asking her out.

 

[iamauthentic]

If I just went up to a girl I liked and talked to her....just talked to her, and then asked her out, would she say yes?

to be honest, you sound really insecure from reading your posts. girls do not like that. so, if you were to approach this girl with the same attitude that you are expressing on this thread, chances are she is gonna say no.

its all about confidence my friend. honestly, getting that first date with a girl is 80% confidence. i know a ton of dudes that arent that attractive but get extremely attractive girls. its why jocks get all the girls in HS and college. athletes have a high level of confidence cuz they are good at sports, so it doesnt really matter if they are attractive or not, the fact that they play a sport gives them confidence which leads to attracting women.

my .02

edit: you have to change your outlook on this whole dating game. you need to build that confidence. i obviously dont know you but your freinds do. ask them to help you gain confidence.

 

[Sketcher]

But you look like crap getting shut down.....how can you get rid of that humiliation but still get where you need to go?

TBH, when I asked that girl out last week, I wasn't humiliated because:
1) I asked her out privately, before we each went home.
2) I was in too much of a daze to be humiliated. I'd spent a good amount of time working up the courage to ask her and the chemical rush from facing a fear I had for years didn't allow me to feel humiliated. I didn't feel good or thrilled, but I was not humiliated.
3) She was good enough to not take cheap shots at me, I got a straight answer out of her and that was it.

Now, for randomly going up and talking to a stranger, you'll need to be with some good bros who you know will have your back whether she says yes or no.

The losers are the ones who lose. If I got rejected by a lesserly attractive girl, you'd better believe people would look lower upon me. If she was hot, the yeah it would be less of a deal.

1) You should only ask women out who you find attractive. Preferably, smokin'.
2) Just as there are diverse opinions among men over who/what is attractive, there will be diverse opinions among women. If even a less-attractive woman rejects you, there will likely be another one at the same level somewhere on this planet who would say yes if you come off as a normal guy.
3) My unscientific observation is that 7s and 8s seem to get more personal attention than the 9s and 10s because they look more accessible. Therefore, they would in all likelihood be well-practiced unless there was a drastic change recently made to their bodies (i.e. gaining or losing a lot of weight) and you're one of the first guys to take notice. Therefore, since they've got guys all over them, there's no shame in getting turned down by one of them either.

I can't stop doing it.

Time to break some patterns.

 

[m.a.r.X]

its all about confidence my friend. honestly, getting that first date with a girl is 80% confidence. i know a ton of dudes that arent that attractive but get extremely attractive girls. its why jocks get all the girls in HS and college. athletes have a high level of confidence cuz they are good at sports, so it doesnt really matter if they are attractive or not, the fact that they play a sport gives them confidence which leads to attracting women.

my .02

Yup

I was crap in *social skills* at school but it changed for good when I joined college. I started playing football/soccer and joined my friend's "academy" of boxing training. My old pals were surprised on how much I improved...I'm not the bravest guy in the world but I'm getting there.

IMO, martial arts training can be the most effective in confidence building. Its so cool to feel how capable you are and that you can defend yourself and your loved ones if the need arise. Its awesome

 

[broken_one]

Confidence, I have.

Confidence with women in a more sexual way, I don't have.

 

[Paulie079]

Confidence, I have.

Confidence with women in a more sexual way, I don't have.

What do you mean by that? Because if you mean the confidence to initiate foreplay or sexual things of that nature, you don't need that during the dating process, my friend.

 

[cleanelvis]

Broken one? Are you serious?

Please don’t ask anyone out. It’s your own responsibility to find happiness and peace within yourself BEFORE you ask an unsuspecting woman out. If you aren’t happy with yourself, then any romantic relationship you attempt will be doomed to fail.

A few other things to consider before you ask a girl out:

Rejection comes with the territory. If you aren’t mature enough to handle it then you definitely aren’t mature enough to be in a romantic relationship.

No woman will make you happy. It is unfair and selfish to expect someone to do so.

As far as who to ask out… You should spend alot of time in prayer over what kind of woman you want to be with. Then you should spend alot of time self-evaluating and make sure that you are the kind of man she wants/deserves.