So I've Got Alittle problem...

[ArtistAnonomyous]

Ok here is the low down. I am very confused in my sexuality. I have dated women in the past and liked it. but now I can't approach woman. it makes me nervous and i dont know what to say. so i've been single for awhile. :o
When i was younger i looked at gay porn and masterbated alot. I thought i had left it in the past but it has come back to me. but not as much. I desire to have a wife and kids someday but dont know if I'll ever get there. I find men attractive and wonder if I should date a guy or experiment or something? i have no clue. If i do it would be in total secret. I have no clue what to do. I lust for men but I want to be with a women. SOMEONE HELP ME!!!

 

[JC'S~GIRL]

Maybe If U Try To Go Back In Your Past And See Where Ur Attraction For Men Started, That Might Help. Maybe The Gay Porn Influenced You To Want To Experience Certain Things With Men. Sometimes What We Open Ourselves To, Causes Us To Want To Try Them. From What Your Saying, I Dont Believe Your Gay. I Believe That You Love Women, But There's Still That Hidden Feeling Or Desire Inside Of You That Wants To Come Out. U Feel That Its Wrong, But The Pull Of Trying It Out, Or Wanting To Experience Things With Men Never Leaves. I Know The Feeling. Im Goin Through The Same Thing As Well. Many Struggles That I Have, Are From Things I Opened Myself To. I Hope I Helped You In Some Way. Only God Can Help U Overcome Those Feelings Or Desires. He's Helping Me Little By Little.

 

[Criada]

Ok here is the low down. I am very confused in my sexuality. I have dated women in the past and liked it. but now I can't approach woman. it makes me nervous and i dont know what to say. so i've been single for awhile. :o
When i was younger i looked at gay porn and masterbated alot. I thought i had left it in the past but it has come back to me. but not as much. I desire to have a wife and kids someday but dont know if I'll ever get there. I find men attractive and wonder if I should date a guy or experiment or something? i have no clue. If i do it would be in total secret. I have no clue what to do. I lust for men but I want to be with a women. SOMEONE HELP ME!!!

I wouldn't ever advise dating a man just to 'try it out'... that would almost certainly increase your confusion, rather than help!
I think the issue is, you are looking at women and at men in the hope of forming a romantic attachment.
When the woman God has for you comes along, it will feel natural and easy... you may get nervous, but you will know that your feelings are real.
In the meantime, try to develop friendships, with men and women, and don't look at people as potential lovers. That will come in God's time, and you will miss a lot of good times if you are worrying about a life partner.

Praying for you

 

[TimAM]

I wouldn't advise experimenting because that would only make things worse. Overcome temptation. Hang in there.

Galatians 5:16 " This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh."

 

[Johnnz]

You are heterosexual with some sexual experimentation as part of growing up. Focus on heterosexuality as your goal, and don't feed same sex erotic activity.

John
NZ

 

[graeme72]

Hey there. Like everyone else I definitely recommend not "experimenting" - if you think the temptations are tough now I promise you they would not get any easier after experimenting. As John says you are heterosexual, but going through some same-sex attractions struggles which many people do. They are temptations that have no doubt come from the activities of the past, and definitely not because you've been born a particular way or anything like that. But thousands of men around the world will tell you that these temptations can be overcome. Our journey between now and the end is exactly that - a journey - some things will take a while but you can do it, and there are people willing to help you.

Have you heard of the Setting Captives Free course? Google it. They have a course specifically for same sex struggles, it may be of some help.

Anyway, tell us how you're going. Either way whatever happens, good or bad, you won't find judgement here, just people willing to help and pray.

Graeme