So I just sit here?

[circa02]

HI guys, me again. I feel so lost. Let me explain. I wake up every day, and I do nothing for the rest of it. I just sit and watch TV, at, go on the internet, and that's it. I have no job, no friends, no girl, no life. And I'm about 40 pounds overweight, and because of my restrictive diet, both because I have food allergies and cause I am very picky about what I eat, most diets are out of the question, and I don't have the discipline for exercise. So here I am, a fat, unemployed friendless 24 year old whose never even been on a date. My life is so empty. Now I know I should focus on the good things in my life, but with my life being so empty, i.e., I have nothing to do ALL day, I just can't help not thinking about this stuff. I don't want to get depressed again. See, I had a major depressive episode that ended about 6 months ago, and now I have nothing happening in my life, so what am I supposed to do? Again, I feel so lost, I don't really know what to pray for really, except for a general call for help. God, please help me and guide me into the life you have planned for me. Please. I could some input from you guys, that would help, knowing their are people out their aside from my family who cares and can pray. I really need your prayers guys, please.

Mike

 

[seekingpurity047]

HI guys, me again. I feel so lost. Let me explain. I wake up every day, and I do nothing for the rest of it. I just sit and watch TV, at, go on the internet, and that's it. I have no job, no friends, no girl, no life. And I'm about 40 pounds overweight, and because of my restrictive diet, both because I have food allergies and cause I am very picky about what I eat, most diets are out of the question, and I don't have the discipline for exercise. So here I am, a fat, unemployed friendless 24 year old whose never even been on a date. My life is so empty. Now I know I should focus on the good things in my life, but with my life being so empty, i.e., I have nothing to do ALL day, I just can't help not thinking about this stuff. I don't want to get depressed again. See, I had a major depressive episode that ended about 6 months ago, and now I have nothing happening in my life, so what am I supposed to do? Again, I feel so lost, I don't really know what to pray for really, except for a general call for help. God, please help me and guide me into the life you have planned for me. Please. I could some input from you guys, that would help, knowing their are people out their aside from my family who cares and can pray. I really need your prayers guys, please.

Mike

Mike, I know how you feel. Very often, I feel this way, however I am a relatively occupied person.

One of the best things, in my opinion, is reading. I know that when I am bored and have nothing to do, I like to just pick up a book and read. Read anything in particular, it doesn't really matter. Reading does improve knowledge and understanding, and you'll be able to explore so much more in your mind and elsewhere as well. You will be able to meet other people, feel confident about meeting others, etc. Just, don't let the knowledge get to ya, as in... building up pride and such.

Sometimes we have to learn to discipline ourselves, and frankly, sometimes we can't even do that. Prayer, my friend, prayer. I know that you are saying that you are not sure what to pray for and such, but the Holy Spirit is there to help you with that. Let Him do the talking, and you won't run into any troubles really. When you pray, just tell God waht is on your mind, have like... a conversation with Him. I know that I do taht alot, but not nearly as often as I should. So, regardless of whether we know what to pray for or not, we should pray always (Phil. 4:4), for the furtherance of His glory. Pray for God to help you, pray for Him to give you employment and trust Him to follow through with your requests, for He is faithful. He will not strike you down, He loves you dearly.

I hope these words were encouraging to you, as they have been for me.

To the glory of God,

Randy

 

[TheDerek]

Mike, Randy had some very good advice. Another thing, you said that you have nothing to do. Can you involve yourself in something? Like is there a church you can go to, maybe get plugged into a small group that meets during the week?

Maybe even take a class or two at a local community college. Just something, anything, to occupy your time.

 

[cassyrode]

And once again...
Ive heard the crying of your heart. I have seen the searching of your soul. I know how deeply you have desired the truth In pain you have cried out for it. When I see you I am overewhelmed with tears and wish to hold you close to me. Go ahead now, Ask me anything. Anything. I will speak to you if you listen. The words to the next song you hear, the information in the next article you read, The story line of the next movie you watch, The chance utterence of the next person you meet. Or the whisper of the next river. The next ocean. The next breeze that carresses your ear. All these devices are mine. I will come to you if you invite me. I will show you then that I have Always been there...

Always.

 

[meh]

Everyone gave good advice. I just wanted to let you know I read this and you will be in my prayers

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

You could go and volunteer somewhere like a nursing home or the humane society. (Or possibly both -- some shelters have programs where you can take the animals to visit people in nursing homes). Or you could volunteer at a local church.

I don't really have any close friends right now. I've made some new friends from a Christian group at my school, but I don't really hang out with them except for in our club events and meetings and such. I hate sitting around all day because it is depressing, but it is hard to get out and do stuff when you don't have anyone to do it with. So, I volunteer -- I enjoy it, and I feel good about what I'm doing with my time.

Also, exercise really isn't that bad once you get into the habit of it. It sucks for the first week or two, but then it gets to be an enjoyable activity. Even just taking a walk every day might pick up your mood a bit.

 

[_CJ_]

I was just about to make my introduce in the intros section when I got here. Let me tell you something.

First of, you've got the grace of Lord, and the bad one cannot change that. You have not suffered in vain(I kind of know the depression tune..).I have just realized how does the good flow around from one to another and I want to share: I realized how much power do we have. You sit & do nothing, and a SOOOO straying oneblush: ) already sees the way to comfort you, to take action, to toss the decay of his own away. Oh yeah, there's a world of decay I have to toss away.
You've got a computer. And just having that, you might be enjoying your life and be so happy each day. How?An example is, sinking into pornography. That's the way I kicked off my days merrily. Oh, man, my worries faded away!Certainty came in! I'm glad I see it now and I'm glad I received the juice to grind it and to see the hope to shake it off myself eventually. Anybody thought it can't be shed? That's right. I am happy I'll be struggling and expieriencing pain by resistance till the end because I feel ashamed for, don't know the right word, english be my 2nd language, not only a trespassing:a trespassing with .. nah, I'll censore that one, you'll probably know what I wanna say anyway. You know what's my point?
I thank God that you are unaware of it and I thank Him for letting me take up this painful battle. It is but just. Peace on you, and as the people said before, pray. With Lord's guidance you won't stand a chance to go astray. And neither will I. I'm learning as I write this thing. But my advice is: beware of wisdom and knowledge. I don't mean look out; I mean BEWARE, my friend!See, no matter how much am I going to realize, it won't save me when it comes to a hour of,as I call it, being exposed. Let's face it, we're not alone here on this plain. There are people, there is God, and there is devil as well. Pray to Lord and "trust what you know, soon enough they'll choke" (Masterpiece conspiracy, POD)
Oh, and I'd suggest music for free time. Whoops, the library's being closed, gotta go!I'm gonna see you tomorrow, I'm gonna be here everyday, man, does it shine around here or what I'm definately going back. I forgot to tell you something.. oh well the world isn't ending tomorrow. Oh, by the way, my 1st post people God be with us!

 

[Theogonia]

Just get out and do something. Go to church, whatever.

 

[_CJ_]

& me again! I would suggest you learning music. That's the thing I forgot yesterday.
1)It's pure fun and pleasure
2)hmm,hmm 'he who sings his prayers makes two prayers out of one' - and remember these words were said before the instruments came in. It means even if you can't sing(practice baby, stats go up!), I suggest you start learning to play a guitar or piano(same). These are my favourite ones, man, I've got a video where Elton John performs Queen's 'Bohemian Rhapsody' on Frieddy Mercury tribute with the three Queen musicians and Axel Rose. The sound of piano blows my hat off, and then comes in Elton's voice. Whoo-hoo!There's sthg about music for sure! Having a computer, you might ran across a game 'The Longest Journey'. Well the final music,Bjoern Arve Lagim's 'Epliogue' is a rhapsody played by, max, 3 guitars. Listening gives you sweet, imagine what you feel when playing!Being a 3-years crash course guitar player I can tell you where to start & how to proceed if you'll want to do that. My great reccomendation & prayed for you too. When you need the is on the way!

 

[circa02]

Hi guys, it's me. I'm sorry to worry you; I was just in a bad mood. I feel much better now and I'm gonna be starting to go to a gym soon. Yes, my life is relatively empty, but I have TV, the internet, movies, music and reading, but most of all I have my family and God, who really keep me going. Again, I'm sorry if I alarmed anyone. As for your suggestions, I don't really have the drive to do anything either; that's something I forgot to put in my first post. Although I DO want to learn ans instrument and learn how to sing, but I have very self discipline, so my mom wants do wait and see if this gym thing will work out first before I do that other stuff. Anyway, Thanks for your kind words and prays; they mean a lot to me.

Mike

 

[Tumbleweed64]

Hi guys, it's me. I'm sorry to worry you; I was just in a bad mood. I feel much better now and I'm gonna be starting to go to a gym soon. Yes, my life is relatively empty, but I have TV, the internet, movies, music and reading, but most of all I have my family and God, who really keep me going. Again, I'm sorry if I alarmed anyone. As for your suggestions, I don't really have the drive to do anything either; that's something I forgot to put in my first post. Although I DO want to learn ans instrument and learn how to sing, but I have very self discipline, so my mom wants do wait and see if this gym thing will work out first before I do that other stuff. Anyway, Thanks for your kind words and prays; they mean a lot to me.

Mike

Mike, have you ever considered getting a pet?

 

[circa02]

Mike, have you ever considered getting a pet?

NO. My mom and I share our hosue with 3 cats, and they're more trouble then I'm willing to deal with.

 

[Im-revived]

Hi Mike,

Now if you want you can check my profile, I am a Christian Counsellor and want to try and help here.

Firstly I know many clients who are stuck in the same cycle your inat the moment. And from what I can gather from your post you are actually deppressed and under oppression also. You have no motivation, and are actually beginning to hate yourself again, which is first signs of depression. I did notice you had non-dominational up on your pics also, so that says to me, yes Gods brought you to this site for help, but you are totally stuck with your next move, because you have possibly a fear of what people might think of you. If your unsure what opression is, its a heaviness in your spirit that makes you feel low, isolated, unliked and can lead to paranoid thoughts about yourself. God wants to change you, thats why you've found this site by whatever way. So I want you to think of the first steps, ABC, Accept Christ, Believe in him, and Confess how you feel, and also with you pray for release of oppression and depression your under. If after doing this you still feel in a state of despair, some short period of antidepressant might be needed, this will alter your mood as well as after three days help you become more active. Have courage and try a church, pray daily, even when your doubting, tell God all about your feelings, by talking to God he will cast out all fears and worrys. Finally if you want to contact me feel free via Pm, as there will be a root somewhere of why you feel like this.

Im-revived

HI guys, me again. I feel so lost. Let me explain. I wake up every day, and I do nothing for the rest of it. I just sit and watch TV, at, go on the internet, and that's it. I have no job, no friends, no girl, no life. And I'm about 40 pounds overweight, and because of my restrictive diet, both because I have food allergies and cause I am very picky about what I eat, most diets are out of the question, and I don't have the discipline for exercise. So here I am, a fat, unemployed friendless 24 year old whose never even been on a date. My life is so empty. Now I know I should focus on the good things in my life, but with my life being so empty, i.e., I have nothing to do ALL day, I just can't help not thinking about this stuff. I don't want to get depressed again. See, I had a major depressive episode that ended about 6 months ago, and now I have nothing happening in my life, so what am I supposed to do? Again, I feel so lost, I don't really know what to pray for really, except for a general call for help. God, please help me and guide me into the life you have planned for me. Please. I could some input from you guys, that would help, knowing their are people out their aside from my family who cares and can pray. I really need your prayers guys, please.

Mike

 

[RomanPrincess]

Make goals for yourself.....find job,career,etc. get up and get moving.It takes discipline and that's what you need to do is self discipline yourself to do things.Make alist and follow that list.Don't sit in front of the TV or computer.
First thing when you get up is pray ask God to help you get moving in your life to direct your steps.To help you have a productive day.(and watch God work)You have to do your part too now.
I do this everyday and it works! God will and can help you.

Think about what you would like to do job wise and work towards that.Don't become slothful.
As for the extra weight....get moving...go for a walk/jog and do that each day..or go to a gym.
You can do it...motivate yourself and discipline yourself to get these things done.....pronto!!!!!!!!

get off the computer and get moving!!

 

[RicFlair]

Hi guys, it's me. I'm sorry to worry you; I was just in a bad mood. I feel much better now and I'm gonna be starting to go to a gym soon. Yes, my life is relatively empty, but I have TV, the internet, movies, music and reading, but most of all I have my family and God, who really keep me going. Again, I'm sorry if I alarmed anyone. As for your suggestions, I don't really have the drive to do anything either; that's something I forgot to put in my first post. Although I DO want to learn ans instrument and learn how to sing, but I have very self discipline, so my mom wants do wait and see if this gym thing will work out first before I do that other stuff. Anyway, Thanks for your kind words and prays; they mean a lot to me.

Mike

ive felt that way alot recently man

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Hi guys, it's me. I'm sorry to worry you; I was just in a bad mood. I feel much better now and I'm gonna be starting to go to a gym soon. Yes, my life is relatively empty, but I have TV, the internet, movies, music and reading, but most of all I have my family and God, who really keep me going. Again, I'm sorry if I alarmed anyone. As for your suggestions, I don't really have the drive to do anything either; that's something I forgot to put in my first post. Although I DO want to learn ans instrument and learn how to sing, but I have very self discipline, so my mom wants do wait and see if this gym thing will work out first before I do that other stuff. Anyway, Thanks for your kind words and prays; they mean a lot to me.

Mike

Let us know how the gym works out for you!

 

[RomanPrincess]

ask God to show you his will for your life.

 

[Anti Existance]

My dear man, if you have all the time, then love and help people. GO VOLENTEER. Sound the trumpets, and make something of your life. Because if you don't have a life, you might as wel live for God. Do something about your horrible condition. Get DDR or PIU. And dance away the horrible fat of your body. Go walk outside, 3 hours a week. Why would you do al of this? Because there's only one right way, and thats up, while facing God.