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Sleeping with (sharing a bed/sofa)

Briseis

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Inperfected said:
Um..................

Read a post before you reply to it.

I said "NO I'd never do that...but of course you can sit on a couch and watch a movie..." I am not that prudent thanks.

I did read your post, and what I said is what I intended to say.
 
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charligirl said:
What noone seems to have posted about is that fact that you say you are not dating.. yet. You say she is not a christian, so why are you considering pursuing a romantic relationship with her? I know there are always exceptions to the rule, but 99% of the time dating a non christian is not to be advised.
Get close to God and start praying for a christian girl who shares your beliefs and values.

I agree that you should not date a non-Christian. It isn't something that you should aim for. And if you think you're going to change her once you start dating her, that's not a great thing to think... (She may change for a while, but usually as soon as you break up, everything goes back to how it was....)
 
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I think that there is a big difference between sleeping together on a bed than on a couch, or even the floor.

A bed is in a private room. You're tempted to shut the door. Once the doors are shut there is much more temptation to do other stuff.
A couch is in a public room. If somebody is home or is due home they can walk in at any time.

I'd say no to the bed and yes to the couch. Or even a floor in the living room or something like that.
 
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I've been thinking about this a little more, and I must say, if it were me, I would have done just what Bob did. If I were the girl, I would have just fallen asleep thinking I was in the most comfortable place I could have been in the room. And if I were the guy and had a sleeping girl laying on my shoulder, I wouldn't be rude and push her off, I'd probably just go to sleep.
So... I don't know if that means I've changed my mind, you guys can read over my previous statement, but that's what I [most likely] would have done.
God bless!
 
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