i don't think there is anything wrong with it, so long as you can trust each other not to do the no-no. i think it is a completely innocent form of affection and good for bonding. not everyone's mind races towards sex just cause they touch each other.
I totally agree. I was once accused of thinking about sex just because I always thought HE was thinking about sex. All because I was taught that all those little things cause people's minds to race towards sex, especially men!
And I think nowadays, girls and guys need to think of other ways to bond with each other, because times are soooo much more different than they used to be. Back in the day, bonding was always in groups or around parents or the like. But nowadays, it seems that often, the only way to truly know a person is to see how they act when it's just you and HIM without prying eyes to influence his actions. Does he respect you when no one's looking? That's a question you can only know the answer to when you're ALONE with the guy. It's very difficult to find out the guy's motives when he's too busy sucking up when your parents are around. Now I'm not saying be alone as much as possible with complete strangers of course, nor am I saying to play with fire. But I do think that if you're in a long-term relationship with someone, then it's important to spend good alone time with them not just for bonding's sake, but also as a means of trust. I think too much time under watchful eyes may hinder your views on how the opposite sex will treat you.
As for me, personally, I'd like to one day sleep in the literal sense next to a man. Before, I used to say he had to be my husband, but I've slipped up from that stance because it's just so darn difficult to avoid affection when sometimes you just want someone to flippin' hold you. Fortunately, I haven't slept over at a man's house at all, nor slept for many hours at a time by his side. But I've cuddled and snuggled both sitting up and laying down before. Some of it's regrettable because yes, that does lead me to think of what it'd be like to move beyond that, but other times, it's like, NO BIG DEAL. Sometimes when I cry, I just want to cry while a man's arms are around me. I don't have that luxury, so...I end up taking whatever affections I can from a man who's happy to give them. And if that means a little cuddle once in awhile, then so be it.
But I'm swaying off topic. All in all, if the feeling's mutual that no sex will result and neither party's minds are on sex, then I see no big deal at all. Sometimes sleeping is really just sleepin. And sometimes, a hug really is just a hug. Sometimes affection really is just affection. It's a lonely world out there. Lonely and cold.
