Theism = "the belief in a God, any God, or gods."
Perhaps we're defining both "relate" and "change" differently.
I'm walking through the park, and I encounter a man. He starts a conversation, and tells me how depressed he is, because he's recently lost his job.
I tell him, "I can really relate to that. I lost my job a few years ago, but I eventually found work. Don't dispair."
Did I change him? May be, may be not. Did he change me? May be, may be not. Let's go with the latter on both. He didn't change me, I didn't change him? Did I relate to him? Sure!
That last part ("no argument with you") leads me to believe, in that earlier post when I asked if you're challenging others beliefs or if you're intellectually curious, that you are, in fact, challenging others beliefs.
As for "argument with you," I've been trying to play the field for all theists, all believers in god-concepts. I'm not just talking for myself, but as a respecter of the vast variety of different ideas. If your argument is against the Buddhists -- then as a believer that it's okay to believe, my argument is with the Buddhists, even though I'm not Buddhist.
Not all people believe in an omnipotent and absolutely just God. However, to offer you a paradigm on a God which is all of the following: 1. Absolutely just, 2. All-powerful, 3. Not judging, may I suggest a book?
"The Inescapable Love of God," by Thomas Talbott. Thomas Talbott is a universalist (a believer of universal salvation, the idea that God loves all mankind and will bring everyone to heaven) who most certainly believes in an absolutely just and all-powerful God who does not judge.
Okay. Do you have a problem with changes that are beneficial to you?
Okay, this is yet another seperate and distinct "if" from everything you've said.
There's one school of thought that says that our actions do not have any particular moral value. That the world is an illusion -- a place where we play the good guys and the bad guys, where we children of the universe pretend to be nurses and doctors and fire fighters and drug addicts and bank robbers. And what we do really makes little difference -- what we percieve as reality isn't. And God doesn't care whether we play the cowboys or the indians in the game that we play.
So there's another school of thought we can weed out of this confusion. Okay, let's assume our actions have moral value.
Depends on what you mean by "judged." This time, for my analogy, I'm actually going to dive into religion.
Jesus, according to Christian tradition, died on the cross and said, "Forgive them Father, for they know not what they do."
This implies to me, non-judgement.
Let me give you an analogy.
Your toddler goes and pushes another toddler into a fire. The second toddler is burned horribly.
Did the action have moral value? Sure, it had very negative moral consequences. Should you judge your toddler? Well, you might. Some parents might scream at the toddler, spank the toddler. But if you are a good parent, you know that the toddler is a toddler, and did not know what he or she was doing.
So do you judge? Do you necessarily say, "Bad, bad two year old!" To a child who cannot even speak more than a few words let alone understand what he's done? Not necessarily, even though the action was a negative one.
Charlie